Iam having shy nature&I think alot what others may be thinking of me I hesitate to start any work?

Question

I have to improve my personality to become confident.what should I do to over all my negative points.I think others may be making fun of me ,so I hesitate to talk to any body

Answer 1

you might have seen several people who have ugly faces or some sort of handicap in your life or anyone funny. do you remember their faces? i bet u dont. even if you remember one, does that affect him or her in anyway?? people today dont have enuf time to think about others. so you think only about yourself.
every person in this world has some thing negative abt him. what we need to look is at the positive things with us. Everyone has something positive. the only difficult thing is to find out that positive thing. once you find out, you will feel better.

you need not hesitate to talk to anyone. you just think that the other person is lesser than you and actually they r hesiatating and you will feel on top.

if you dont feel good about you,no one can. so first you feel confident. think that you r normal. normal people have both negatives and positives. no one in the world has only positives.
if you r from india, u will know salman khan. he is very short. but does he feel low abt it? he just developed his muscles and every one looks upto him whenever they think of strong person. develop your good things and stop thinking abt your bad things. remember the people you meet are also thinking this way only.

Answer 2

Since you know that what you are thinking is slightly paranoid (and it is good you do know), I would suggest just training yourslef out of it. It takes time, but I did it. You don't have to start off by initiating conversations, but try to interact more when spoken to.

By the way, only you notice the little details. Most of us don't notice much at all. There was a test done once when people would be talking to someone behind a desk and they would get blocked from viewing them. The person behind the desk would change and more than 50% didn't notice the change.

Unless you jump around on a pogo stick singing twinkle twinkle little star, people won't notice little things you feel you do wrong. Just give yourself little steps to conquer and in no time you'll get better.

Answer 3

Ok. You seem to need a personality makeover.

Common reasons why people dont feel confident.
1. They dont think they look good enough.
2. They think they dont know what to say, and if they say something, it ends up being the wrong thing.

Solutions :
1. Personality makeover. Requires a few things:
* Get good dress sense. Do you have a friend who is good at dressing ? Ask him or her to help you buy clothes. Dont' ape his clothing, as what looks good on him may not look good on you.
* Get in shape. If you are too lean or too fat, it may make you feel unconfident. I suggest joining a martial arts class. Apart from the usual cardio-vascular improvements, it also instills a lot of confidence in yourself.
* Clean up. Be neat and presentable at all times, wether in a formal dress or casuals. Keep your room and car clean and neat.

2. Talking problems :
Read. Read the classics in unabridged forms. Read editorials in newspapers. Listen more than you talk - and when you talk , just say a few lines about your opinion. If you have done enough research - your opinion will be bang on.

Another thing - take risks. The most confident people are those who take risks - but have also calculated the pros and cons of it.

And lastly, dont try to copy anyone. Be your own Person.

Its ok to feel the sinking feeling in your stomach at times. Its true courage to stand up and face your fears.

Answer 4

Don't worry! Just be YOURSELF and enjoy life. Nobody can tell YOU how to please everyone. YOU first have to be positive about YOURSELF. When YOU feel that someone is making fun of YOU, just smile and then ignore them. Makes them wonder what YOU are up to! YOU don't have any negative points unless YOU think YOU do! There is only one YOU in the whole universe! How can someone else tell YOU how YOU should be? They can't! Only YOU can decide who and what YOU are. They can suggest all they want. But, nobody but You are in control of YOU!!

Answer 5

heloo
to improve ur thinking u have to change urself. u must have confidence in urself. to achieve this always avoid negative thoughts. always read positve mental attitude books. for example, THE MAGIC OF THINKING BIG.
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Answer 6

Be brave and start acting a little to be smart
and slowly you wont be acting any longer but would be naturally confident and smart.

Have faith and soon u will overcome ur shyness

Answer 7

i think confidence will come in time. as long as you know you are great then it doesn't matter what other people think. we spend half our life making decisions based on how we present ourselves and thats just a waste.

Laughter always makes me feel confident. and so does happiness.

Answer 8

i have the same problem i know the answers to the problem,does not help,I'm to much in my head,too much introspective thinking,causes an effect,think to far head,not enough interpersonal relations,the here now,balls to the walls,good luck,finding the solution