Why are Mexicans so hateful toward me?

Question

Here is the background:
I am African American--Light skinned, but fairly well tanned considering I live in Arizona. I am over weight, but not sloppy and constantly losing weight. Getting ready for my wedding. Very professional style and demeanor. I am well employed, but I do not live flashy. I am very affectionate with my wife.

Here we go: I am constantly bombarde with scowls and looks of hatred. I never noticed until my wife pointed it out. I did notice noone wanted to speak to me though. I understand a lot more Mexican (and I say Mexican because it is very different from standard Spanish) than I can speak, but I do understand when people are making fun of me and commenting about us. The men gesture and flirt with my wife in front of me as though I dont understand and the women try to hide their children from me and avoid standing or sitting near me. Is there a cultural hatred I don't understand? My wifes family wont speak to her because I'm Black.

AS WAS POINTED OUT TO ME, I DIDNT MENTION THE MY WIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL MEXICAN WOMAN! SHE ATTRACTS MUCH ATTENTION BECAUSE OF HER BEAUTY AND INNER SPIRIT. IT SHINES THROUGH HER. SHE HAS LONG HIGHLIGHTED BROWN HAIR (4 1/2 FEET LONG).

Answer 1

Well, your question really made me think about it... and honestly I can't find a reason like "oh, it is because..." By the way, am mexican, and according to your question I conclude your wife too

In Mexico, we don't have that many ethnicities like in the USA. At least not in my city. I know in Mexico City, there are like suburbs where they have europeans, southamericans, I think northamericans too, etc. African Americans are not seen very often (as I said, at least in my city; maybe in Mexico city they are). We do have a lot of chinese in my city.

So I know -because a teacher told me- that in Washington State, there are not latin people. And when they see a latin... well, everybody notice him or her, because they're not seen very often. I think the same happens in some parts of Mexico when they see an american or African American.

If you see mexicans flirting with your wife (which of course I don't approve it at all), it is not because of you, some men use to do it with any pretty woman on the street.

And on what you said about mothers hiding their children from you, I think that's what a mother does with any stranger. You know, how many times mothers tell their children not to talk with strangers? They would even get more affraid if the stranger is a big guy because they know they won't be able to do anything to defend their children against a strong man.

I don't know why your wife's family won't speak to her because of you. Maybe you should talk to her about it but don't let it affect you. Families have problems sometimes. Maybe someday they'll get over it.

I'm sure not all mexicans are like the ones you've met. Remember, let us not stereotype a whole race for the mistakes of a few.

Well, don't worry man, things may get better. Hope I helped. Take care and God bless!

Answer 2

Um, I assume your wife is Mexican, but you didn't say. What I would suggest is that you leave Arizona and go somewhere without such racism: NY, Boston, Seattle. Cheers.