My wife went out of town a few days ago and hasnt gotten back yet. While she was away her sister was over on Tuesday and we did some Ecstasy. I had always wanted to try it because im curious. One thing led to another and her and I ended up in bed. It was the best I have ever had (probably because of the drug). Now she is threatening to tell my wife what we did unless I continue to see her on the side. I dont want to. It was a mistake to do in the first place and if i could do it over again, no matter how good it was, I wouldnt do it. We have slept together since then because I have no other choice. And when we arent in bed together she calls me honey and sweetheart and has started to coax me into doing the same. Im worried about where this is going and what i should do. Any advice? (Go ahead and berate me, it will be nothing that I havent thought of about myself).
2006-07-11 22:37:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me,try and take your wife out to diner, or give her a treat,watch her mood,if she is in a lighter mood tell her everything and ask for her forgiveness, tell her it was due to the drugs you took,that she should try and forgive you and promise her that it won`t happen again.
2006-07-11 22:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by REDROSE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage without honesty has no building ground.
When your wife comes home, tell her. Be careful not to place sole blame on her sister, because you had made your choice to experiment. She'll be hurt; will scream at you and her sister; but ultimately the truth hurts a lot less than finding out about an ongoing affair because you were too afraid to tell her. And stop sleeping with the sister NOW! Beat her to the punch and tell your wife - this is your way of standing up to the bully.
2006-07-12 05:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by GBR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you already know of the berating part. Either way, the damage is done for the marriage and hurt for your wife. Rather than hiding and hurting your wife even more by continuing the relationship with her sister, you should make a clean break and lower the impact of damage. Try telling her sister that you will tell on her instead.. afterall they are sisters. To be cautious, you can try to record her threats as evidence of how she had forced you in sleeping with her further.
2006-07-12 05:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by bunny na 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the first to tell your wife & explain that it was the drugs. Let her get your side of the story first & at least you might have the upper hand. It might not sound like a good idea at first but really consinder it, and of course she will be furious. Just be very remorseful & with time she will forgive. It seems like your sister in law always had an eye for you so this is her chance to get you. Don't let her have anything on you because she will blackmail you for the rest of your life. good Luck
2006-07-12 05:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, come on homie. You know e doesn't make people horny the way alcohol does. If anything, most guys can't even get it up when their on e, so congrats on that.
You two just obviously had a thing for eachother. It sounds like a horrible situation. You need to tell your wife, and if she leaves you, well, maybe it's for the best. Once something like this happens, it taints a relationship forever. I don't think you can go back to what you once had with her.
And shame on her sister!!
2006-07-14 14:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by lazydazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife immediately. It will be better coming from you. Either way, you are probably screwed, but at least if you tell her you can let the sister know that she cannot black mail you and that you love your wife.
Put an end to the "side action".
See.... this is why you learned in school that drugs are bad for you!
2006-07-12 10:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, u got to tell your wife the truth and shame the devil within u who is stoping u.....Make sure that ur sincerely sorry for what u've done. If the love between u n yr wife is true she will forgive u but if things go bad ......u must face it but u will have peace of mind ......Getting blackmailed everything time can kill u.
2006-07-12 05:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is noooo excuse! that is horrible. You need to tell your wife. You cannot see her sister on the side and you want to be the first to tell her. That is so trashy of you. Just bite the bullet and do it, you have no choice.
2006-07-12 05:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're best bet is to fess up before she does. She's your wife...that's closer than sisters. Step up...BE A MAN, allthough if you were a real man you would'nt have'nt cheated in the first place. BUT...be a man and own up to what you did........Just imagine if she had done that to you...you should feel reallyl bad, you're a bad person.
2006-07-12 05:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by punk pirate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough spot eh? I say throw yourself on your sword. Tell your wife the truth and accept the consequences be a man about it....dont dig yer grave deeper.
2006-07-12 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋