but this guy loves me so much and i love him but, the reason is dat my mum force me to strat giving her money about of the salary i earn just beacuse she got the job for me, i du give her not until about 2 month ago when my fiance was unable to pay his house rent and i helped him out with the money, now my she is not hapi and don't even want me to get married to him, what shuld i do.
2006-07-11 21:25:48 · 19 answers · asked by Hazee4uall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are very young and your mother is concerned about you and that she is trying her best to look after you. If you marry a guy that has no interest in working you will be the provider in your relationship to this man or boy. If you love him and he loves you, he needs to show your parents that he can take care of you for richer and for poorer. Your mom just wants the best for her baby girl and is trying to look out for your best interest.
Have a heart to heart with your mom, let her know that she can trust you in this and get an understanding between you both. Even if she got the job for you and she has you give her your money earned she may be setting it aside for you for later that will help you establish a place of your own so you won't have to depend of her housing you and feeding you.
If she making you work for you to to give her money for selfish reasons you need to let her know that you need her to let you go and show her that you can put your priorities in order to do for yourself to live and make a living on your own. She may feel that you dont want her anymore but she will always be your mom and if you need her, you will let her know that you need help, but not to take over your life as she sees you in her and wants the better things for you. You see?
Your fiance is the love of your life in your eyes and she is wanting you to see that he may not be stable enough to support you and take care you of in all things that matter in a relationship. Be respectful to your parents and don't dis your mother cause all these other people say so. How would you like it if you had a daughter all grown and she dis you because she thinks you dont know what she is going through? She trying to look out for your best interest. Be obedient and respectful to your mother (and your father) and also let her know that you know your fience will be getting better and a provider for her daughter, you.
Also if she got you that job, it was to help you get aquanted to the work environment. It was to get you started and you know what you need to do. It helps you in your skills and advances you in your ablities to succeed. If you have to start another job, that is fine, just be sure you try your hardest and stick with it and that you are doing that on your own and being independent.
Peace out and dont worry, all things will work out.
2006-07-11 22:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your Mum...and don't marry him at this time. But don't give up on him either. You don't have to be rich, but marriage and life is a lot more enjoyable if you don't have to continuously worry about paying the bills. Give him time to get some security with work and finances. If he can't do that, then you better hope love carriers you through the bad times, because they're going to come.
2006-07-11 21:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, please do not invite issues for you. it truly is only an infatuation. Your mum and dad are top. In modern ecosystem of extreme communal frenzy, do not fall contained in the catch completely. you do not have senses, actual. functional existence should be planned a foolproof. you're not from now on an effective planner to anticipate glaring failures properly in improve to soak up ideal steps to circumvent an similar before arrival. Why to smash your existence first & searching suggestions desperately later ? Is that a wise step ? Be tactful that you're not from now on.
2016-12-01 03:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by ganiban 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been through with that. i fell in love to this country guy and he's inlove with me too. my parents were both in the states. they have an eye for me. they made a decision to stop my schooling and move to the u.s. they even offer me a house and lot and a car plus allowance just to leave that guy.but i chose to stay here and i stow away. i lived on my own and proved that this guy i love is the 1 im going to marry. and now my mom and i are ok and god gave me a wonderful daughter and a loving husband.
2006-07-11 21:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by siegrid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DO YOU MEAN ? you hesitate coz your mother does not like him!!! if your mother's reasons are correct , accept them , at least think about them , changing your man may be difficult ! about the money story , if your mother needs the money it is one story and if she does't need that then I think that she is a little bad , love your man if he is good , marry him , but don't annoy your mother because of that guy ! good luck kind lady.
2006-07-11 21:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by loobi_rooli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell mom that you have a responsibility towards your own happiness which is greater than your responsibilities to her as her daughter. If she can't understand that tell her that chances of seeing any future financial aid from you is not very likely. Are you sure your mother's issues regarding your guys financial status?
2006-07-11 21:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers do want the best for their kids.. my advise is.. settle your issues with your mother first before marrying because it will still affect the marriage.. it's good to marry with the blessing of both of your parents.. you'll need your mother's words while on the marriage.. if you really love this guy.. take them out together to do some bonding..
2006-07-11 21:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him and tell your mom to get lost.He is not using you but she totally is taken money that her daughter needs is total using you.If you love him and he loves you themn marry him.I suggest not inviting your mom to your wedding(may sound harsh but she she total deserves it) plus she could do the I object to this union during the part when that is asked.
2006-07-11 21:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE IF U MARRY HIM, EXEPT FOR A STRAINED RELATIONSHIP WITH UR MOTHER. I CANT IMAGINE IN MY WILDEST DREAMS THAT ANY MOTHER WOULD HAVE HER CHILD PAY THEM BECAUSE SHE GOT THEM A JOB. UR MOM IS ACTING MORE LIKE A HEADHUNTER RATHER THAN A NUTURING, OR CARING PERSON--THAT SHE SHOULD BE. ALL SHE SHOULD WANT FROM U IS TO SEE U HAPPY!!!!!!!
2006-07-11 21:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz i too am a grl i understand ur situation, but babes.. just think ... do u feel what ur mom says is true? can ur fiance give u all d comforts that u recieved at ur mom's plac?.. i cant giv u a direct ans but i will say try to be realistic,, listen to ur heart but also to ur BRAINS.
2006-07-11 21:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by aditicool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋