I m scared of things related to marry, like commitment, can't get along with in laws, kids. is it call pre-marital depression?
2006-07-11 21:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To begin with, Congratulations!
It will be OK! It happens frequently. On the lead up to a marriage and on the very day.
The important thing is to remember why you said yes in the first place. All those positive reasons outweighing the reductions to your current freedom of life without the marriage certificate. If you are living your life as a couple healthily now, there shouldn't be much of a change in your life. You should be committed now. You should be getting along with the in-laws, or have defined the battlefields... It is natural to our human nature since the first caveman clubbed the first cavewoman over the head and took her home. Nowadays, you can carry the club.
If it makes it easier, consider that you are already married from the moment you answered YES! when The Question was popped (or if you popped the question.) The rest is just a social formality, but its also a special moment for you both to share. All the flurry, all the activity, all the climbing up the walls...
Incidentally, the name is correct: Pre Marital Depression. I typed Marriage Depression into Google (to get different answers to Yahoo) and you might want to check it out. Or not.
Talk it over with as many married and unmarried friends as you can but remember that marriage is one of those definitive moments in a person's life. Look all the good things to come. Most of them should already be in your life as you read these answers.
Above all, enjoy.
Ah, I remembered the question I had for the world. Can a person really get sick of hearing "I love you" from their loved one when they mean it every time?
2006-07-11 21:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrulations. You are scared coz you are going to change your living style.
First, you have been with your own family for many years and now you suddenly found that you have to leave your family and live with another person.
Secondly, you also have to face your future parent-in-laws. You may used to call them as uncle and aunties but now you have change the term to father in law and mother in law.
Thirdly, you have to cope with the pressure from work and in laws which you may not be familiar with. You must learn to handle all these.
I feel that you should be confident with yourself and this marriage.
2006-07-12 07:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask anyone else who you know if they felt the same? I think if you are not scared you dont understand the commitment you are about to get into. Its normal, and if you love each other dont do anything, get married in December!
2006-07-12 04:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by tmajik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!
BTW
I am scared too~~Just like ya~~ Too many commitment~~ have to take care of ur family~~ housework~~ No daddy n mommy wif ya~~ everything by ur own~~
2006-07-12 05:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by CL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's natural to get scared, it's one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make, but your love and your desire to be committed to your partner should outweigh your fears. ask yourself if you truly love him/her and willing to live the rest of your life with your partner. are you male? or female? anyway, congratulations in advance!
2006-07-12 05:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by sean24jh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant get along with inlaws now, it wont be any better when you're married
2006-07-12 04:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here......
I'm scared too
Please tell me the answer as soon as you come to know
2006-07-12 04:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rohan Fernandes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋