they love each other but both have families.their affair started when the girl was in collge.but up to now for so many years they still see each other when the guy visit his home country.he sees to it that he sees the girl cause he saod he love s her so much.what can u say bout this?they have been secret lovers for so many yearsand it doesnt stp yet cause the man still loves the girl and the girl feels the same way too.
2006-07-11 21:11:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand how they feel and I can't judge or condemn them. They have a secret, a private affair in their lives that only both can understand. They are in love but for some reason beyond their power they could not have been for each other. Just be careful very very careful, and keep your secret as your blood and let it run only in your veins. It is forbidden love it is hard and painful, confusing yet so clear to you and him. I don't know what else to say.
2006-07-11 21:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry another when you were in love with each other. It must be something imposed on you by your parents to marry another. Anyway, since you both agreed to marry another, its better to forget each other and live with your married partner. Otherwise it can lead to more trouble. Or else be open about your affair, tell your spouse you have been in love and settle things in the most amicable manner. Maybe you should tell your married partner that you want to leave him/her and be with your true love. And if it can be done like that then there is peace. But let not hearts be broken and let there be no cheating on anyone's part. That would be bad.
2006-07-11 21:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them should move on with their respective families. They can be good friends and act like one instead of lovers. Don't wait for the situation to blow up and finally lose each other in the end permanently. It is easier said than done because when you love someone, everything seems ok and happy. be matured enough to accept their real situation and live around it. Situation might get worse if they continue with this. It boils down on both persons on how they see things in the future, if they look forward, they can probably accept their limitations, if not, temptations and emotions will blind them.
2006-07-11 21:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Spurs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they both have families, I would tell them to break up. If they truly loved each other, they would not want to destroy the emotional well-being of their families. Secondly, if he truly loved her, he would have married her instead of someone else. He just wants and excuse to be unfaithful, he's probably doing the same thing in his new country. Frankly, they just want an excuse to cheat. If he didn't respect you enough to marry you, drop him like a hot potato. You can love someone forever. However, everyone you love may not be good for you. There are people out there that just wants to destroy your life on the pretext of love.
2006-07-11 21:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only people I feel sorry for in all this are the respective spouses who are cheated on. Neither of these two should be married to someone else. Their behavior is extremely selfish and inconsiderate.
2006-07-11 21:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly! Just what you called it....FORBIDDEN! Their all in for alot of heartbreak. The girl needs to move on, if he only sees her when he returns and she awaits his return she is only hurting herself by not moving on and finding love for herself. He has given his to another and if he really loved her, he would leave his wife and be with her! Tell her don't be a fool.
2006-07-11 21:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they really do love each other...they could grow up, become adults, and run away to another country.
2006-07-11 21:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband posted a question asking if we thought his wife was having an affair. your busted. you might as well confess and get it out in the open.
2006-07-11 21:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no affair is forbidden if both the boy and girl want.
2006-07-11 21:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by picasso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE MAN IS USING HER -- PERIOD!!!!
YOU CANNOT LOVE TWO PEOPLE - BECAUSE, IF YOU DO, YOU ARE ONLY GIVNG HALF OF YOURSELF TO EACH.
THEY HAVE BEEN CHEATING EACH OTHER EMOTIONALLY FOR MANY YEARS -- AND THAT'S TRULY SAD!!!
2006-07-11 21:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋