Want to be more outgoing....?

Question

I'm naturally really shy. I don't think there's a specific reason for it, I just CAN'T be outgoing! Any tips for helping me be more outgoing? I would really like to hear what you have to say!

Answer 1

Stop thinking, and just let yourself go, get loose. Dont ever TRY to be outgoing, or else people will notice.

Answer 2

Outgoing

Answer 3

I don't think that there's anything wrong with being shy.

As to how to become more outgoing, find something you like to do and then join a club focused on that. You'll get the interaction that will foster a more outgoing persona in a relatively painless manner as you will be focused more on a theme than on meeting people.

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Answer 4

You should start interjecting yourself into social situations where you can practice your interactive skills. Start small, like a small party with a few trusted friends. You should probably even tell your 2 best friends what you are doing, so they can help. Once you get comfortable interacting at that level, start moving up to slightly bigger groups with a couple strangers, and so on. Eventually, you will find that you can socialize with any number of people. Don't be put out by people who act rudely or boorishly...it isn't you...they act that way with everyone because they have no social skills.

Answer 5

Increase your confidants. Do self talk. What I mean by that is to tell your self your good qualities in the morning or at night and then some. Lie to yourself if you have to. Be convincing. over a little bit of time you'll start believing yourself and be more comfortable around people.

But if your shyness is because of a different reason, then you need to analyze that. The only way to get rid of shyness is to desensitize yourself by going out in crowds and forcing yourself to do it. Over time you'll get used to it. just like working out, your body adapts, as well as your mind.

Answer 6

View the world as a bunch of lonely people roaming around. Approach someone with the goal of making their day a little bit brighter. Think of THEM as lonely and shy and you're coming to their rescue. Start with people that are less intimidating. Children, elderly, same sex, etc.

Few people don't like a warm smile, a friendly person, and a pleasant conversation.

Answer 7

you don't need to change yourself just to make others like you. But it won't hurt to try. Here are some techniques that made me more outgoing:

a. be yourself.
b. approach others.
c. smile.

Answer 8

you can pick up a book on this. there are plenty.

practice talking to your friends or alone. you can use a mirror. that way you'll have more confidence. it just builds with practice. join social gatherings and activities. once you get out of your comfort zone it'll all come to you.

Answer 9

get it into your mind that everyone else is out there and doing fine and it's no big deal...

Just keep telling yourself that.
It's no big deal, there is no reason to be shy and I don't have to be shy.

Answer 10

im kinda like that too....when i was little, i wouldnt tell people my name. haha. but i think im starting to break out of my shell (slowly, but surely)....you kinda just gotta talk to people you dont know...and do things you didnt think you would do. dont worry about thinking youre acting stupid or about being embarassed..if you do something stupid, or embarrassing, and your friends laugh (which of course would be mean), just think that sometime theyre going to do something stupid and then itll be your turn to laugh. haha. good luckk.