Does God hate me?

Question

I like other men, and I want to kiss my male friend, and do other things. Does God hate me, and will he really send me to hell for being gay? My cousin says he will. He is mean and calls me a dirty sinner.

Answer 1

you are not sinner...

def you r not...

i don't know how to say...

if God send you to hell , you will have us and your lover as your pals....

we have to go too...because of the same mistake we make as you do...

Answer 2

Most religions acknowledge that the "want" isn't a sin. Depending on what faith you were raised, your current religion might say that accepting the feelings, or not going to scary camps that don't work means your'e going to hell. It's something you're kind of going to have to deal with pretty much for yourself, but I'd consider asking yourself: how do you know that your religion is correct? There are plenty that don't interpret the bible the way your cousin does. As far as coming out to your family, I would say that's a long way off and a completely different issue. It's seriously probably a bad idea at this point, and I wouldn't tell anyone else. Religion is very personal, and there is no absolute truth that we can tell for sure. Does that mean there's no absolute truth? Maybe maybe not. The point is, if there is, no one can tell for sure what it is, so it's all just guesses. It's my opinion that if none is any better than another, find one that suits you. Check out Integrity, and Dignity, or even Metropolitan Community Churches. The way I see it, even if God isn't too keen on gay people, there's definitely worse stuff going on that most of the anti-gay religious people should probably be focusing on.

Answer 3

One thing, I and nobody else can speak for God. The Bible says he is a loving and caring God. Many people who claim to be Christan yet are mean and hateful to other people are not doing a very good job of imitating Jesus are they. I am gay and I feel you will be judged on how you live your life and treat other people. Not on if your gay or not. Just be a good person. Most of those so called Christ ans who are mean and hateful are probably going to be surprised when they end up in hell after God tells them that you never knew ME.

Answer 4

Well, if you're going to Hell I'm going right with you, but no, I don't think God hates you.

If God's perfect, then don't you figure He would have known in advance gay people were going to turn up and would have naturally edited them out of His Creation if He didn't want them there?

Just because other people don't understand why He made you the way He did doesn't mean He screwed up. It means they just don't get it and should stop banging on about things they obviously don't know anything about.

After all, they obviously don't know the nature of your heart if that's the only thing they think is important about you. =)

I know that's not much consolation. If I knew the magic words to say to make everything seem all right, I'd say them.

In the meantime, though, rest assured God cares about you whether or not you know it, whether or not anyone else knows it, and even whether or not you know it. =)

As for Hell, not to seem like I'm tooting my own horn, but I've already answered a similar question, so I'll just post the link to that since the answer takes up a bit of space. The short version, though, is no... you're not going to Hell.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=1006053128042&r=w&show_comments=true&pa=FZB6NWHjDG3N56z6v_2zW3w1dccKfvLoMyXEuqaXfoJJPS2It5wCUw--#openions

Answer 5

well your cousin is also a dirty sinner for judging you

do you accept jesus as your savior? i thnk that's the main idea. do you remember where JESUS said anything about homosexuality?

the bible was written by man, inspired by god. we all know man is not perfect. the bible has been translated countless times. there are many things in it that are no longer relevant.

people use the bible for convenience....

regarding kissing your friend...make sure he's open to the kiss otherwise you could have some problems!!

Answer 6

No, God does not hate you, and I am sorry that your cousin is mean.

*hug*

There is NOTHING wrong with you. You are exactly as you are supposed to be. You can hurt yourself, hide yourself, live celibately, or even marry and live a lie -- but you will never change. If you are right and you are gay -- then you are gay.

Your real choice is not whether or not to be attracted to men. If what you say is true then you are attracted to men and you will be for the rest of your life. It's natural (see Bruce Bagemihl, Ph.D. "Biological Exuberance" St. Martins Press) and its normal for homosexual people (see the American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association statements on sexual preference) Your real choice is whether or not to be happy.

Right now you may feel like you are evil, because of your cousin, and perhaps because of what you think religion is telling you. When you masturbate you may feel guilty for masturbating (you may have been lied to by the way, nearly all males do masturbate) and you feel guilty for thinking about guys. You want to change, not because you REALLY want to, but because you have been taught that you SHOULD want to. If people weren't pushing you, you would be comfortable being who and what you already know you are.

You shouldn't want to change.There is nothing wrong with you. Many religious groups embrace you as you are (Among Christians: United Church of Christ [not Church of Christ, the United matters in the name] is one, Evangelical Lutheran Church in America is another -- though they are not 100%, it is close; Protestant Episcopal Church is a third [again, not 100% of the parishes, but close], Metropolitan Community Church, Unitarians, Morelight Presbyterians, and on and on. Among non-Christians, Reform Judaism, Correllian Natavist Tradition of Wicca, Science of Mind, and so forth) So don't think that the position your cousin's church may take is universal among people of faith, it isn't. Furthermore, as a person of faith myself, many of us believe he is outright wrong.

I've included a few links below that may be of use to you. The links in sources however may help you and I strongly suggest visiting them. There are also other books such as "Living in Sin? A bishop reexamines the question of human sexuality" by the Right Reverend John Shelby Spong, retired bishop of Newark (Episcopalian) if you have access to a good library, and would be permitted to read such a book safely in your home.

You are loved. If you need to talk to someone who will not judge you -- ever -- email me, that's in the signature block too or IM me on the rare occasions I'm on YIM.

*hugs always*

Reyn
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 7

He doesn't hate you... He really loves you...
He just hate your sins... the WORLD'S sins for that matter... no matter how big or small... don't even think of sinning... it is the same as doing it
REPENT, ask Him to be your Lord and Savior , change yourself for the better ... who knows... you might get a loving wife someday .. who will love you until the end... or not... but you will surely have a family( in soul and spirit ... not just body)
of course you dare not blaspheme Him
when you become a Christian... stay as a Christian and grow spiritualy.. or else you will go to the wrong direction

Answer 8

Judge not lest ye be judged; tell your cousin to back off before he gets it. I am not God, and therefore cannot say whether or not you're actually going to Hell, but I doubt it. God made you--I'm pretty sure he doesn't hate you. What I can say is that He knows you and your heart better than anyone, and ultimately it's His decision. Talk to Him about it; repent of your "sins" and be free of them if they plague you so. You can't help who you are.

Answer 9

God loves all his children, and his commandment to you is to Love God, and love your neighbor as yourself. The God that Jesus taught us to love doesn't talk about hating. That is Old Testament stuff, before the New Creation, which is used by fundamentalists to control people. It is an anti-God notion.

Be respectful and loving in all your relationships. This also means to love your cousin, even when he says mean things to you.

Answer 10

GOD DOES NOT HATE YOU, HE HURTS FOR YOU.

While you are a sinner, like most of us, Jesus died on the ross for our sin. It does not mean that we can freely commit sin and not repent and go to heaven. It means that we need to ask forgivness for our sin and then lead a god life, which means not being gay.

Answer 11

Fornication (any sex outside of the sanctity of marriage) is condemned in the Bible--and YES, the Bible is God's word even if he just dictated it to the men who wrote it down. And, he does give us free will in spite of the fact that we are all born with a tendancy toward sin, he did not create anyone to be homosexual and then condemn it!! That would not be loving and GOD IS LOVE. Self-control is one of the fruitages of the spirit and you must pray for it and ask God to help you to resist these sinful tendancies. As far as hell--no, God would never even think about burning his children alive forever--that is a LIE!! But, the wages sin pays is death. Keep practicing sin and you will remain on the road to destruction. Get a grip and lean on God for strength and begin walking on the road to everlasting life with all these sinful tendancies gone forever. God loves you and he does not want to destroy you but he is willing to destroy any who refuse to obey him and realize that he has the right to tell them what is best for them.