If you know your marriage has failed, do you stay for your kids?

Answer 1

It has only completely failed when you give up trying.

Unless its adultery, YOU need to step up to the plate and fight for your marriage for the kids sake! Dont stay for the kids sake.. make that marriage work. If you stay just for the kids, they will feel it and blame themselves.

My mom and dad stayed together for my sake and I lived with the guilt of that responsibility. I "felt" it from a very young age. They stopped even trying to be civil to one another. They gave up on the marriage early on but wanted to give me the "gift" of parents who were together. UGH! Its no gift if they didnt even try.

Answer 2

No. It's better for the children to part than to live together and bicker or argue or ignore each other. Kids pick up on things that are wrong in the household. If a marriage fails, the best thing to do is to part amicably and to be cooperative when it comes to raising children.

There are a lot of men out there who are in "unhappy" marriages looking for sex on the side, claiming they're just in the marriage for the kids. In my opinion, that's simply cowardice and an excuse for immoral behavior in my opinion.

Answer 3

NEVER! If you aren't happy, they are not going to be happy. Kids can tell and even though they will be hurt at first, they get over it and they become stronger because of it.

Divorcing my dad was the best thing my mom could have done, seeing her cry all the time or being in a bad mood, she became the mom we wanted and needed after she booted him.

Just make sure you sit your children down and explain that it isn't their fault that this is happening and never bad mouth your spouse in front of them, because no matter what he/she is still their father/mother and will always be.

Answer 4

well you try to stick it out maybe your marriage is on the rocks because of the kids get a babysitter for overnight take your husband or wife out get drunk stay at a cheap hotel maybe this will help get the spark back into the marriage. do this everytime you have extra money. your kids wont be young forever if there little hang in there you owe it to them

Answer 5

Thats a tough one.. I stayed for mine for fourteen or so years... I think it depends on the situation.. If there is allot of diruption, violence stuff that will have an effect on the kids then no. But a quiet civil just living togther type I don't see a problem. Other then the fact in my case of wasting so many years being unhappy... It's a tough descion...

Answer 6

Even if you think you are making the home a happy place your kids will feel it and be affected by it. It's much better for them to see this-- No my parents are not together but they are happy. They are nice to each other and don't put the other down. I have 2 strong minds and happy parents. Plus do you want them to do that when they are older. I have more than one kids and you have to think. They see me do this is it ok do i want them to do this in their life. We all can have our own minds but we do do some things like our parents you know think of them. Plus always let them know it's not because of them kids do that. I should know i did. when my parents split. but they are happy and better off now

Answer 7

That would depend on how you and your spouse are handling it. If it calm and almost normal, then maybe, but always remember that a child hears more than you say, and in turn knows more than you think. And although you may believe you are providing a safe healthy situation for your child, you may find a bitterness in years to come. You always need to make sure that the child/ren know it isnt thier fault and no matter what your love for them has unchanged...in fact grown....because you need them....and never never degrade your spouse anywhere around the children. What you may soon forget...they never do.......

Answer 8

No. Do you think youre kids are going to be any better to see you two living in a false marriage? They know whats going on. Is that how you want them to handle their relationships? We only have one life. Why waste it pretending to be happy when you could actually be happy. take care :-)

Answer 9

my parents got a divorse 5 years ago and its been a really hard time for my siblings and i. and i really wish my parents would have stayed together. If you stay together you can always go to someone to help you on that marrage and hopefully it will work.
Please stay together-for your kids, it kills us not to come home to both parents in one house and having them fight over money and whatever else.
it really hurts!
Best of Luck to you!
Bria

Answer 10

i think that's unfair for both of u. what if the situation became more complicated than before? your just fooling yourself and your kids for pretending everything is fine. i think if you try to talk to your kids, and explain everything, they will understand. kids now are very intelligent to understand whats happening in their surroundings. just make sure to maintain your communication to them and show your support physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.