2006-07-11 20:20:56 · 24 answers · asked by a V a 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Which ever one of us continues to live will really suffer. I used to think that I wanted to die first, because I couldn't bear the suffering. But now, the longer we've been married, and the more I understand about true love, I can't bear the thought of his suffering. So, as hard and horrible as it would be, I would prefer that he die first so he doesn't have to suffer with loneliness.
2006-07-11 20:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ilene W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing as I'm single and I'm male, I'm gonna have to make a judgment based on the theory of 'love' and the women's psyche. Ok, here goes.
Women being the emotionally driven creatures that they are would be more affected by this decision as it gnaws at the very fibres of their being. They, I assume, would probably go for dying before their husband because they wouldn't have to go through the pain of life without them and they wouldn't have to see the life leaving the body of a loved one. This may not seem particularly selfish, but it can be.
In doing this, women are saying that they love their husband so much that they couldn't stand living without them, but at the same time, they are making the husband go through the pain that they are deliberately avoiding. This question is a double edged sword. Either way, the decision won't be perfect so why bother trying?
If I were in that possition, I would just go with the flow and let whatever happens, happen.
2006-07-11 20:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pickles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. To die before, so one does not become depressed as one's partner has passed.
2. In some cases like a car crash - there has been incidences for the purposes of a will or codocil, where lawyers try to prove one spouse had the last gasp of air in order to lay claim to community property. Or falling out of a building - who lands first, and who can survive for a time being..
3. And there is always a possibility of one dying together at a solitary moment in time. As the impossible always happens.
2006-07-11 20:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by dotobjects 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally!!! Man you are getting fast answers to this question! I'm 35. My kids are 13,7 and 4. I would want to die after my husband so my kids are not disilllutioned....My man is wonderful as a provider and as a playmate to his kids..but when it comes to day to day life he has no clue,,,who potty trains,who makes them floss, who sets bed time...ME. And I don't mind being the one to do that, the kids still love their Momma, but if their "playmate" (aka: daddy) suddenly got strict what would they think? BTW....Me & hubby had different upbringings....He had never colored an Easter Egg or Carved a Pumpkin until I showed him how.....To me the Holidays are important...a family time and I am not sure that my husband would give the holidays the religious (i am the religious one) or the family signifigancy I think they deserve!
To be specific in your answer I fear my kids will lose their innocence too soon, by not getting appropriate X-mas, Easter, toothfairy, B/day presents...the things that make life special for kids....I know he would step up day to day but would he know what to do on SPECIAL occasions?
2006-07-11 20:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to die before my partner because I know he wants to live to be a very old man, he will cope better with loss than I would and I know he'll be able to take care of the family after I am gone better than I could if he died before me.
2006-07-11 20:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think either way it would be sad... but.. if I must chose.. I would say after... only because I think that he would want it that way.. He is very strong about everything until it comes to me... He would not be strong enough to handle it.... He does not have a lot of family near him.. I have a lot of family.. I don't want him to be alone... If I go before he does.. I would want him to remarry.. that is flattering to the deceased wife that he was that happy and would do it again... Hope this helps :)
2006-07-11 20:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by ghill4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want him to die first. He does not take care of himself real well and I would hope that I would be with him at the end to help take care of him. Also, I am not sure I would like the idea of another woman taking over my house and there would be that possibility if I died first.
2006-07-11 20:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to die before my husband, and my children. I dont want the pain of losing a spouse and kids. I love my family very much and losing them would devastate me.
2006-07-11 20:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweetbytch24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to die after my husband. I know i will be terribly sad and lonely without him, but i want to see our relationship through to the end. Idon't want him to have to go on without me or have to sorry about hings once I pass, plus I want to be able to ensure he has a proper burial and all affairs are in order. He was so good to me during our lifetime, I can only hope he will know how much it meant to me in the end.
2006-07-11 20:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would want to die befor emy husband because i wouldnt wanna deal with the pain n grief that i would go trough with loosing my husband ive already lost too mani people i love and care about as it is
2006-07-11 20:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by ~*BER-BER*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋