One of my friends likes me ALOT, but I don't like him that way. He hasn't directly told me that, but his best friend told me he did. I really don't want to hurt his feelings but I want him to get the message! He has even said, "She has to like me." I really want him to stop obsessing over me, please help!
2006-07-11 19:45:57 · 24 answers · asked by ! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've actually told him before that I did not like him, but yet he still insists on me to like him!
2006-07-11 19:50:59 · update #1
Let him know you heard the rumors that he was interested in you as more than a friend, and that you felt you needed to talk with him honestly about it. Tell him that you care for him as a friend, but that the feelings do not go any further. You do not want to hurt his feelings as you would like to keep him as a friend, but you are just not interested in a deeper relationship. Thank him for caring, and that you do value the friendship and hope you can continue that friendship but the talking and pressuring about it being more MUST STOP. If he persists, you may have to tell him you are uncomfortable and need to break the friendship off or at least put it on hold awhile if he can not understand how you feel.
Best wishes!
2006-07-11 19:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do NOT tell him he's like a brother. This is probably the worst case rejection scenario that a guy can face, and believe me, though some women may THINK this is a nice thing to say...it's basically immasculating a man.
I would also avoid rejecting him, and telling him a list of things like "you're a great guy, you're a great listener, your'e nice, sweet, funny and cute and any girl would want you....."....this rejection speech sounds MORE like a list of reasons why a girl WOULD date a guy, instead of why she would NOT date a guy.
2006-07-12 02:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, i will not tell him directly that i don't like him UNTIL he reveals how he feels about me.
How to tell him you don't like him is the same way how you would want a guy to tell you that he doesn't like you. Simple. When you do tell him, be kind and gentle and YET firm with your answer.
Questions is, will you still be friends after this incident? Don't reveal anything unless you're VERY sure that he likes you and still likes you. Good luck!
2006-07-12 03:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by denizen251 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretty much tell him like it is... Here's the thing... If you worry about him not even wanting to be a friend... Than you should just leave it... I know it might hurt his feelings if you tell him straight... But normally works the best and you don't have to come up with reasons that are totally bogus... But it's up to you... If I was in his position... I'd want someone to tell me if they liked or loved me or how they felt about me... I would rather that then they hide it from me... At least I'd know...
2006-07-12 02:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you exagerating when you say he is "obsessing"?
Unfortunately, this doesn't sound like it is going to work out unless at least one of you grows up.
He shouldn't be so afraid of rejection that he can't even talk to you about it. And on the other hand, unless he is insane, you shouldn't be alarmed that someone likes you.
2006-07-12 02:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by glenbrent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him you like having him as your friend. You are not interested in starting a relationship with him. Be straight forward with him. Good luck.
2006-07-12 02:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him, until you think he has become a little less pestering then talk to him about it, tell him that he's a great friend but you don't want this to become a situation among your friendship.
2006-07-12 02:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Em 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best hing that you can do is to tell him directly where you stand, and how you feel. Honesty is the best policy bar none.
2006-07-12 02:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by TXVyper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just be honest and tell him that you are not interested and want him to respect that, avioiding people is childish and not how effective adults handle themselves this will be one of many difficult or awkward conversations you will have as an adult so get used to it, it makes it easier when you have to deal with difficult people in professional situations
2006-07-12 02:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirt with a bunch of guys and he will get the message and leave you alone. he wont realize you hurting his feeling!
2006-07-12 02:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋