Ok i have a serious question..........Puh-lease come and read!?

Question

Like i have a friend she gets neglected alot and her mama told her that " she was a mistake and she dont' want her" and she thinking about calling those service people but she will have no one to adopt her and i'm thinking about asking my mama my friend gets abuised and she have's a horrible life and that's no the rest of it she won't tell me nothing esle.......I'm really scared i never been threw nothing like this it's like a tv show i'm crying i'm scared i really want my mama to adopt her but my friend will get really mad if i tell someone i told you all but don't say nothing about this board please............

Help me!!!!!!?
Should i tell me mama what's going on with her and will she adopt her???
And i really want my friend to have a good life......I know on the tv shows they would have told and they will live happily ever after but i really scared and don't know what to do.

P.S: God bless you all who are reading......
I'm only 12 and this is happening..........

Answer 1

Your friend is very lucky to have a wonderful caring friend like yourself trying to look out for her.

First of all, if she is being abused, absolutely you must tell an adult who can help her.

The reason your friend doesn't want you to tell anyone is because she's scared of what could happen to her if other people find out. Because no matter how badly her mother has treated her or what cruel things her mother has said to her...she still loves her mother and she is probably secretly hoping that someday her mother will feel the same way about her.

Also, she is probably embarassed, and may think that she is the only kid going through this sort of abuse. believe me, she is not alone. There are other kids her age going through the same thing, who are just as afraid as she is to tell someone about it.

She is also probably worried about what will happen to her, if she is is taken out of her mother's home and made to live elsewhere. She may be worried that she will be sent to a home for 'bad girls', or she may be worried that she will be placed in a foster home. (you should know that foster homes are usually good places for girls like her who are going through the same type of stuff she is.)

As far as your mother adopting her, well, you should just take this one step at a time right now. First, you need to talk to your mother and aks for her help in trying to help your friend. Your mother may suggest trying to talk to your friend's mother as a way of helping her. That may not be a good idea, because once your mother talks to your friend's mother, the abuse may get a lot worse for your friend. It would be better if your mother were to call Child Protective Services (CPS) instead and explain your friend's situation to them, and how she came to know about it. I'm pretty certain that your mother will be able to remain anonymous, so that your friend's mother doesn't find out it was your Mom who called them.

Child Protective services will do an investigation and based on what they find, and what your friend tells them, they can determine the best way to help your friend. It may mean that they will decide to take her out of her home and away from her mother.
Adoption is a big step, and it's very expensive. Also, for your mother to adopt, she would need your friend's mother's consent for that. I don't think your friend's mother would be willing to sign adoption papers. However, if your mother is willing, and there are no family memeber to take your friend in, or there are no temporary foster homes immediately available, your mother may be able to volunteer to have your friend come and stay at your house.
However, it will depend on whether your mother is agreeable, and she would also need the consent of whoever will be in charge of your friend's case.

Good Luck To Both You & Your Friend~*

PS- Even if your friend gets mad at you telling, it is still the right thing to do. ;-)

Answer 2

You know what everyone is going to say, Telling is the right thing to do. If you know she is getting abused, one day it could be the worst and the might really hurt to the point where she doesn't have a life any more. You need to talk to your mother and see if she can adopt your friend, and if she is not willing to adopt her then see if your mom can be a foster parent til your friend can get place in a great home. Where is this childs father, if the father is not in the picture try to locate him and mabe she can go stay with him. Tell her father what is going on with your friend. But if her father is there and isn't doing nothing or the father is one of the parents who is beating on her then you need to call child protective services, Have your mother call, so if she agrees to be a foster parent, they can place her in your home immediately. I'm sure your mother has to go through a few steps in order to be a foster parent, tell her quickly so she can get certified and yall can call the protective services and tell them that your mother wants her home. Good luck, but you need to tell someone immediately, before something worse happens.

Answer 3

You are 12.

If you can't talk to your mother, then you have nothing.

Tell her.

Tell her.

She will likely have some insight into your situation that you can't see through your tears.

Do not let your friend keep secrets from your mother.

You are talking about adoption, not being late for school or something.

Try not to listen to other kids about this, go with your mom.

Answer 4

yes you have a serious question, someone needs to know about your friend, no child should be told they are not wanted..talk with your mom, if she is unable to adopt maybe she could be a foster parent, no matter what, your friend needs Child Protective Services to come to her rescue..Thank you for caring, and being willing to share your mom and family...

Answer 5

Talk to your mama first, that's really important! Then decide together (you and your mom) what you guys should do about the situation.

Answer 6

ok...if your friend is really being abused, you should absolutely tell your mom...even if your friend gets mad at you, it's better than her ending up dead because everyone was too afraid to help.

Answer 7

I would jus tell i think you r really helpin her in the long run,