why dont i turn my husband on?

Question

My Husband has never been a sex addict, we have NEVER gone all night or ever woke up to him pawing me like past relationships, but we have had a ok sexual relationship till now. the other night we were what I would call hot and heavy when he just lost his erection . also why does he prefer to jack off to porn as to be with me. i am really getting depressed about this, even thinking of uping my antidepressants to stop sexual desire.

Answer 1

Because men have issues with their penis that we just cant understand lol..

Answer 2

Oh girl, this question hits close to home for me. I lost my wife because she hated porn, and I watched and partook of the jergins.
I was not attracted to her, we were physically mismatched. Porn had been with me since middle school. Those girls don't lie, cheat, or steal, they don't sleep with ur frinds, or control you. It was a perfect relationship. I lost the girl after my wife for the very same reason. And she was a doll. Why the porn? The new girl laid on the couch eating bon-bons watching soapies all day. My physcological guess is whenever a woman in my life was deficient(in my opinion) I transferred it to the porn. I havn't yet solved this, I've been hurt by women and maybe ur husband has too. Loose the porn and ur sex life and relationship will improve. If you can sincerely remove the porn from the situation. It's hard to say, don't give up. When my wife left me she took my son and daughter as well. So it doesn't sit easy with me and I've given it much thought. I'd say counseling as well. sexual problems can destroy relatonships, look at it as if it's heart disease (no-punn)

Answer 3

Your husband's lack of interest could be due to a number of factors. The most likely reasons would be fatigue, stress, and anxiety. He may be overworked and overtired. It's hard to act like Don Juan at night if the job wipes you out during the day. He may be stressed or anxious due to his work or other issues. He may also be worried about your depression. Talk with him. If you get him to open up, you can just ask him what turns him on. You'll be surprised all the answers he just might have for you. And, if that doesn't work, you and he should consider couples counseling. A professional counselor can provide you with much better advice than you can get online.

Answer 4

Something is obviously going on. He could just be stressed or maybe something is bothering him. Have you asked? Tell him to let you know whats going on and that you won't get angry or upset at him. But you have to mean it too! It may be simple or it may be something you'll have to work at. He may prefer to porn when he's too lazy or tired to actually do it. Do you watch porn with him and do the "handy" work for him? I find the best results come from plain out asking. Let him know how it makes you feel and if the porn is something you can't live with ask him nicely to stop and tell him why. If you demand he'll just hide it. Have you invested in a toy of your own? Maybe he'll see that your spending more time with your little buddy and see that he's neglecting your needs. Either way overmedicating yourself isn't going to solve anything.

Answer 5

sounds like he has an addiction to porn, or erection dysfunction disease. From what you have said, I think it's the first one. He needs to get help because he's living in a fantasy world. He could also be having an affair. Confront him and ask him why you don't turn him on any more, and ask if porn turns him on more than you do. Or if you don't feel comfortable asking him, go to counseling, and then bring him along. You shouldn't have to adjust your meds for his faults.

Answer 6

It's not you at all.
Let me use food as an example.
Your husband 's favorite food is taco(you)..After eating taco for a long time .Anybody will be tired of it.You would want a different food like hamburger.May be the porn is hamburger..No matter happens though , He will Always go back to Taco.That's his favorite.ALSo Maybe your sex drive is above his range too..I don't like to have sex when I am stress on whatever issue.Don't ask us >Go ask him!!!Communication is the key ..

Answer 7

Been there. It isn't you hon. You need to talk to him. I found out that my ex, was husband at the time, wasn't watching the porn for the women. You got it. He didn't want to admit he was gay. He didn't want his family to know. He thought if he got married and had a kid that everything would be ok. Now I am not saying that your man is gay but you need to find out why the porn is so important to him. Don't let him say it is because you aren't attractive enough either. If you weren't, then why did he marry you?

Answer 8

The best thing you could do for each other is go see a sex therapist. This will be difficult to get him to do. If he is indeed the one who has the problem, he will fight the idea the most. I wish I could help more, but what he is searching for will have to be discovered, not just chatted about on the internet. A therapist may be able to discover it. GOOD LUCK, and sorry.

Answer 9

Buy some toys, play with them will in bed with him untill he starts coming back around, like a treatment, sooner or later hell get a masive hard and take the toy away and jump ur bones.

Answer 10

Most men lose interest in the same old thing, unfortunately. They need new worlds to explore and new animals to hunt. It goes back to our cave man roots... Either dress up in something very different, like blonde wig, thigh high boots and thong, or find a another married guy who has a bigger package that might please you instead...

Answer 11

OK, so go out and buy a new sexy number, complete your look with makeup and hair, then act completely nieve and dont come on to him or even act interested--- turn the tables, let him persue you!