And I am 8 month
2006-07-11 18:50:18 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, geez...it seems that you're pretty late to the decision point don't you agree?
Was it rape or consensual?
If it was rape, you need to get the police involved. It is incest, but I don't think that's a crime unless you were underage at the time (which you could not have been).
Either way, you still only have one choice left - do you keep the baby and raise it and love it as you would any child, or do you put it up for adoption so the baby can have two loving parents and you can close this chapter in your life?
Adoption, btw..is a very tough thing to do (I could not have given away my first but could do it now if I really had to), but it is the most loving thing you can do for a child you are not prepared to raise properly.
Children are time consuming, test your patience and expensive. If you're going to be a good mom, you need to be prepared to place your child's needs ahead of yours and be dedicated to spending time teaching, playing, guiding and loving. There are times it will feel like heaven on earth and other times when you will be so frustrated you will wonder why you did it.
Giving a child to a couple who is prepared to do all this for a child, but cannot conceive on their own is a loving gift, not just to them, but to your baby because it means that you loved the baby enough to know you couldn't do the best by him or her, so you put her in a home with a couple that can do better.
These days and adoption can be closed or open. In a closed adoption, your relationship with the child ends and you can be anonymous to the family that gets him or her.
In an open adoption, you can maintain a relationship with the family and child and still be an important part of his or her life.
So..those are pretty much your choices.
Expect your family to go completely beserk if they find out you had a baby by your uncle.
2006-07-14 07:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The others have a valid point. But, this is a decision you must make on your own.
First of all, did you participate in the conception or were you forced to do it willingly?
For the first, then it is your problem and you knew that there was a possible outcome of a pregnancy and therefore you are stuck with a tough decision as to what to do. There are occurences as to where the child has some kind of birth defect and I wouldn;t go as fasr as to say that he/she will have 3 eyes, 4 legs and a tail but I have heard of people in similar situations as you where it was retarded, epileptic, etc. It is best to get a check up and a pre-natal exam ( amniocentesis ) to figure out whether or not the child is going to have problems. Then, if it doesn't then you have the choice whether to keep it or not and reap the consequences..
If you were forced then I wouild suggest you definitley go to the police, file a rape complaint, talk to a doctor as to what to do about the fetus and go from there. It is a crime to rape someone, and therefore should be handled legally. If you still have the baby even knowing it was out of rape, then it can still have side effects.. mental retardation, slow learning, lisps, etc.
I would suggest you talk to a family psychologist and see what they would tell you to do and then consult a family ob/gyn.
2006-07-11 19:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rickey W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie, but this is a choice you have to make on your own. There are a lot of things to consider. Was this consentual? Is he your blood uncle or uncle by marriage? Does any one in your family know? Most important what do you want? Advice is good to ask for but the truth of the matter is what you want and need to do. Just remember it is no longer about you, the main person to worry about is your unborn baby!
2006-07-11 20:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by pertyonegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A blood uncle? the baby will have 3 eyes.
mike
2006-07-11 18:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by miketyson26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have sex with your uncle in the first place?? You AND your uncle are two sick individuals! What did your aunt have to say about this? Some questions shouldn't even be asked. they only embarass the person that's asking the question.
2006-07-11 19:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a little late for getting advice sweety.
And you have given no pertinent info.
Was the sex leading to your pregnancy a rape or by choice?
Does any other family member know? If so, what do they think?
Do you plan to keep baby or put it up for adoption?
Is the baby healthy?
The fact that you are asking a bunch of total strangers for advice leads me to believe you are not good parenting material.
Please prove me wrong, but good luck anyway.
2006-07-11 18:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by aka DarthDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very hard and complex situation. I really can not find any solution. But everything is for human beings... According to religious sources the humanity was created by incest relations at the beginning. So, you will find a way to tolerate and live your life.. But I advise you to ask this question to experts and take their help...Wish you and your baby good luck...
2006-07-11 19:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, was it rape (I hope so)? Then call the cops. If not then you and your uncle need help. Second, decide if you are going to be able to love this kid if not adoption is a good idea. Third, would you happen to be from West Virgina?
2006-07-11 18:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Raqi Killer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off what the hell was your uncle thinking. Thats incest he should be put in jail. U need counseling for this it is not an easy situation. Maybe u should give the baby up for adoption.
2006-07-11 18:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by chrisczajkoski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you had sex with your uncle not less than 50 times so keep it up baby, if you have problem in future come on India am going to accept you i can not see woman tear in their eyes
2006-07-11 20:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by arizona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋