how would you feel if?

Question

your parents separate and then your dad tells you that he doesnt have a home phone number only his cell and you call the home number and a woman picks the phone and you find out that your dad is already living with a woman and have a 4 month old baby when he never told you anything about it ( he "created" the child after the separation) and when you call the woman you get really mad and argue with her and she argue with you and she tells you well your dad lives and sleeps with me?

my dad got together with that woman after e separated my mom and the woman once called my house and start insulting my mom

Answer 1

You might consider talking to your dad and asking him about what is going on, just him and you, not your mom or the other woman. How old r u? You sound old enough to ask for an explanation and also you should tell him how rude this woman has been to you. If things don't get better b/n you and her and he doesn't respond, then just tell him that you love him and you will be there to talk to him when he is ready to start respecting you. Then don't talk to him anymore unless he talks to you.

Answer 2

When my parents got a divorce I knew it was the best thing. My dad had 3 affairs while they were together. And They split up around 3 years ago.


I now have a three year old half brother.

Life is a *****.

I say flood there house.
Sounds like fun.

But then you could always talk to him.
Meet him somewhere like a cafe.
And talk things over.
As it is a public place neither one of you can really get into an arguement and you can have a civil conversation.


It does work.


Kelly XO.

Answer 3

I myself (and I'm not suggesting that you do this, if this be true), I would not talk to my dad for a very very long time. If he does not have the respect for me to tell me that he has a girlfriend who has given you a step sister, I would make him suffer by loosing me. I would also find something that means something to the women (something expensive) and wreck it and make her pay for being so unsympathetic and an out right *****. Assuming that you are under the age of 18, you can get away with it pretty leniently.
I mean this in a hypothetitcal sense, I'm sure it would be a lot different if I was actually in the posistion.

Answer 4

I would feel ashamed of my dad and very angry at him also. I also would feel hurt and betrayed that my fathers behavior may
have broken up my home. And, I feel sorry for you honey, that you have to go through this difficult time.

My parents separated and divorced when I was 2 and 1/2 years old. My father had been "dating" other women and spending his money on booze and other women so that he had none left to buy food for my mother and me. I was also hurt and angry at some of my mothers bahavior later on.

The reason I share that is not to minimize your pain but so you know that I've been there too. Later, after I had learned something
about psychology, human nature, and how much the family we grew up in could influence us; I could forgive my parents.

One of the things I realized when I was about 12y/o was that my future did not depend on who or what my parents were but on what I made of my life. That realization was a big help to me.

I think one thing that might help you is for you to try to talk to your father about why he did what he did and to share your feelings with him. If you can do this I think it will help you feel better now and help your relationship with your dad. If your dad is reluctant to do this, I would try to be firm but gentle and say something like,
" Dad, you're my father and I love you but my feelings are------
and I need to try to understand why you did this. If he still won't talk, I would pray for him, that he come to his senses.

God bless you honey. Remember that God is your father too and
that He loves you more than anyone else loves you and with a
perfection that is impossible for humans to come close to.

Answer 5

I wold feel like my step-mom-to-be was a skank ho, and my daddy was a pig, and the two deserved each other. And I would appreciate my mom a whole lot more, because I promise you she knew about the bimbo, that's why they separated in the first place. Your mom probably didn't tell you because she wanted you to respect your father, even though he doesn't deserve it! You might want to talk with her about it, but remember, he hurt her a lot by doing this, so don't blame her she doesn't deserve it.

Answer 6

Really your father had done a sin for you (particularly) Because a baby can be bought up with all good charecters only when he is with the father. But you missed it. Leave all

Now dont feel or worry start to be happy, enjoy the world, it is toooooooo big. Start to work for your carrer.

All the best

Answer 7

when i was 23 my parents separated after 24 yrs of marriage. even though i wasnt living at home i was in SHOCK! one afternoon, my dad and i went out to lunch...and as he was paying for our meal i saw in his wallet a picture of a woman that was NOT my mother. that picture was where my mother's picture used to be. i asked about it, and he told me he was dating this woman. i was VERY hurt, but i tried not to judge him until he told me what was going on.
my father was having a mid-life crisis. this woman wasn't having his baby or anything...but they once were highschool sweethearts.
my mother was devastated. and at the time i was going through my own divorce.
eventually my parents went to therapy and after 2 yrs. renewed their wedding vows...and are still together today married for 30 yrs now.

im not saying your mom and dad will be together again....but they are both adults. and it SUCKS!!! when the dad you probably thought of a "perfect" ends up being just like everyone else in this world...human.
im sorry that your dad didn't tell you about what was going on. he is proabably ashamed of himself and didn't want you to think less of him for his actions, (although his actions are horrible).
you can't be mad at this woman alone. she is only half responsible for what has happened, your father is responsible for the other half.
you need to sit down and talk to you dad, WITHOUT this "girlfriend". ask him what he is doing? why didnt he tell you? what his plans are?
you need to find some way of communicating with him. and remember that like it or not you are about to have a half brother/sister...and that baby did NOT ask for this mess.

what your dad did is very disrespectful to you...and i understand if you are pissed off (i would be too), but you need to let your dad know how you feel.
even if my father had not gotten back with my mother, i would have wanted him in my life, he's my daddy!...even if he is a bit flawed, just like the rest of us. he's not perfect but he is the ONLY dad i have.

maybe if you talk with him, he will let you know WHY he did what he did, and how he feels about things.
even if you don't like his answers, at least you will know!

Answer 8

I wouldnt care. I know what my dad does and doesnt want me to know... oh well. and plus, I love kids so as long as the woman is nice to me, I wouldnt care if she sleeps with my dad. its his perosnal life, so dont meddle. talk to him and tell him that you wish he would have told the truth, but other than that, all you can do is respect him and dont be rude to his girlfriend... she may just end up as your stepmom!

Answer 9

u should feel sad that ur dad never tolad u something and mad thath heis pregnet

Answer 10

My parents got divorced when i was 2! I know, it is hard. i would be really really mad!!!!!!!!