in despearate need of assistance?

Question

I feel like a bomb shell has hit me. I had a really bad childhood and my parents have always fough alot and we move every year sometimes twice a year and now I'm going into hightschool. I hate leaving my friends behind and always being sad over the summer becuase I leave them if anyone has anything to say let me know just know that I'm not looking for pitty

Answer 1

Two points.
You have it rough. No pity but I can relate and am sorry for your pain.

In the long term, this may prepare you for the future. Friends rarely hang around for ages anyway. Marriage, kids, whatever will interfere in the future.

All you can do is look for the good parts of this situation. Make yourself stronger, make friends quickly, increase your faith, keep track with good buds by e-mail.

All parents fight, just so you know.
I know a guy in this situation that found a family that kept him through high school in the same place.
I hope this helps some. God Bless.

Answer 2

I know where you are coming from. Sometimes parents can be very selfish in a way where they dont think about their children's feelings. Now you are going into highschool and your in to puberty your feelings will get more intense..What i mean by that is, alot of things that you have just agreed to go along with, even though they have made you miserable are going to really start to get to you now. Can you talk to your parents at all about how this affecting you? Are they open enough to listen? You need to have your feelings heard! I think you need to try to get your message across to your parents. Friends you can try to still keep in contact with, phone or email in the holidays, but, i know that good friends are far and few between. Talk to your mum and dad or maybe get a school counsellor to do the talking with you..they need to know what this is doing to you emotionally. You have a right to be heard..i hope that i helped a little bit for you..Just know that you are just as special as anyone else in this world and also know that you are not alone..

Answer 3

Moving is never easy. But of course you know that. But here's something to remember about moving- you are the new kid at the school and you will be a mystery to just about everyone there. Great chance to meet people. Great chance to get a fresh start, even if you know it's only for a while. As far as your old friends go, if you are moving somewhat close by, you will be able to visit them soon.
Talk to your parents about how important it is to you that you get to see your friends. If your parents are decent, they will help you find a way to see your most cherished friends.
And remember, there is always something good about moving. Are you moving somewhere new and exciting? That could be a great thing- and your friends might want to visit!
High School is scary at first- but really it's not that big a deal. it's just like any other school. Just look forward to meeting new great people!

Answer 4

well sweetie i didn't have a good childhood either, but things are what they are. But if you are being abused informe the local authorities. Your parents might need help. you have to make the best out of your life talk to your parents if you have some communication tell them that the moving from a-z is killing you. On the other hand if you are moving from one city to another or from country to country well enjoy it not a lot of people get the chance to travel look at it that way. I wish you the best in life and try to make the best of it. Remember that you can create your future and in a couple of years you'll decide where and how you'll live your life. good luck! =)

Answer 5

Your childhood is what you spend the rest of your life getting over. In four years you will have SOME control of your destiny -- please just hang in there until then. As for high school, don't roll your eyes, but the more you get involved in - the quicker it goes. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE A PREP - plus it's an instant conversation starter. Last, but not least, it is a cliche (something everyone always says -- but has alot of truth) --- THIS TOO SHALL PASS, not today, not tommorow -- but SOMEday you'll back on this and say thank whoever that's through. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

Well hon it really does suck for you, about the only thing I can offer you is.....dive into your school work and get AWESOME GRADES and I mean REALLY AWESOME so that you can get a full scholarship to college or university someplace and in four years you can move out and start your own life without putting up with your parents fighting and you can live wherever you want. If you get a great education and go to college or university and get a great career and you start making some decent money you'll be able to pick where you live and where you move ....and it's only a few years away!!

Good luck sweetie!

Answer 7

Pretty soon you will be 18 and can move out on your own. I moved around every year, but to different families and I used the time to recreate myself until I found out who I really was. Don't feel like you are missing out, most people don't remember their school friends later in life. As far as your Parents fighting, there isn't anything that you can really do. Just keep your little piece of your world as positive as possible.

Answer 8

That's really a tough questions, the only advice I can give you is when you get into school try and connect with a counsel or teacher you feel comfortable with and discuss your feeling with them. Believe it or not when I was in school I had a great counsel that I could really talk to and he went to bat for me with my parents and talked to them about some issues I had. Good luck and keep your chin up .

Answer 9

You can always keep in touch with your friends through e-mails and letter. (I know its not the same) But just keep on thinking how many new and interesting people you are going to meet when you move again. Just imagine, when you get older, you'll have friends all over the country. What fun!

Answer 10

Dont worry am sure everything will work out soon. Beleive in yourself and dont give up hope...these difficult times are thre to make u strong. so keep the faith its just a matter of time before thing get better..