My girlfriend recently told me about a time (before we went out, but at the time i was starting to "fall" for her) when she fingered her friend
when she told me this, i got kind of pissed. most guys would like this because a lot of guys like girl on girl action, but i was pissed
i felt like the girl i fell in love with is really a lesbian and i will lose her one day to a girl!
she said it was just a little wild moment she had and she regretted it soon after, but it hurts to know my girlfriend did this kind of thing!
she told me it was a time in her life when she thought she might be bisexual but is now straight
i feel really wierd everytime i think of her fingering another girl because i think it is (no offense to anyone) sick for people to do homosexual things
am i overreacting? do i just let it go? what should be my next step of action? and lastly, how do i know she is for sure straight and not even a little bisexual?
2006-07-11 18:16:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
my girlfriend was the one doing the fingering, by the way for those who misinterpreted.
2006-07-11 18:24:46 · update #1
Dude, let it go. This has become fairly common behavior among girls over the past 20 years. She isn't a lesbian or bisexual. At the very most, she was bi-curious at a certain point in her life, but decided she preferred men to women. Why drive yourself crazy over something in her past, especially a one time thing? Don't feel threatened about it.
2006-07-11 18:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by WhoMe 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Hmm that's tough homie. Allot of people do things at times in their lives when they are young and experimenting. Personally, I I'm not down with the whole girl on girl thing. I'll experiment with mentos and a 2 litter bottle of Pepsi.
Juniorphx is right. If she is straight, she would not do that with another girl. No woman who is straight will make out/experiment/ get freaky with/ or whatever you wanna call it if they are 100% into GUYS. Look out for that because it doesn't mean she won't do it again.
Since this has hurt you so bad and you are hurt by it, you should really take some time to think about if you really want to be with her. I would say dump her just because of the whole situation, but of course you are going to make up your own mind and you should. It's better for you to take the time now to think about your relationship with her than later. Hope this helps you any.
2006-07-11 18:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your girlfriend and your falling for her so it shouldnt matter what she has done in the past.. Weather or not she has had relations with other women doesnt change who she is. If she never told you about it you would never have known, and you would be happily in love.. Instead you chose to forfeit love All because of a choice she made in her past! You obviously have a heart of stone! Have you ever had a girlfriend before? did you worry that she was going to cheat on you with another guy? you are a dick head.. and its people like you that need to dig a hole and bury yourself before you truly make this world an un livable place!
2006-07-11 19:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jade H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not to be mean but no girl that is straight would let her self get touched by another, if she's really straight. Even if it was a wild moment.
She might be bisexual
2006-07-11 18:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by El Morrito De Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to deal with your homophobia. It is not sick to be gay, it is normal. Saying "no offense to anyone" doesn't mean you can put people down. Second, one time doesn't make her gay or bi. It just means she was curious. A lot of people try it. It's no big deal. Let her decide what her sexuality is and trust her.
2006-07-11 19:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just a loser and a homophobe. It's too bad that I don't know you because I would laugh in your face and shake your ex-girl's hand the day she dumps you for a chick. You're probably a bad lay anyways. Poor thing.
2006-07-12 10:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by kopguy30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual.......but I am in love with a man............I think about just having sex with a woman but i know it will never happen becuz i love my man ........and i think you have all the rights in the world to be upset....but i believe she loves you to come and tellyou about what she have done behind your back....give her some credit and move on with your life with her .....everything is going to be ok long as long don't give her a reason to leave you.
2006-07-11 18:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're insecure. if you don't put it in the past, it will ruin your relationship. i'm sure she's not the only person you have ever touched. get over it. i'm sure it bothers her that you've fingered girls too, but oh well. move forward. if you live in the past, you'll never have a future. and she's most likely not a lesbian since she is dating you
2006-07-11 18:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by venusblu06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET IT GO!! It's not like she went out and screwed a bunch of girls. SHe fingered some chick, get over it!
2006-07-12 05:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're overreacting and you should let it go the next step of action should be ******* her how do you know she's not bisexual well how do you know if she's going to live you for some other men.
2006-07-11 18:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋