How can I get my wife to be more experimental in bed??

Question

We've been married for 7 years now, and we're pretty happy. My wife has some issues from her childhood that prevent her from opening up to certain sexual acts or positions. She's been to therapists, and it doesnt seem to help. What can I do to help her get past these issues in order to give our sex life a jump?

Answer 1

Don't go there man. I am warning you it is not worth it.

LOVE each other. Just LOVE each other. Find ways to love each other more and more each day. Sex is just sex. It is one of the most powerful ways to destroy a meaningful relationship.

My wife and I spiced up our marriage in year 6 and by year 8 we were seperated. It cost me $350K, 50% of my time with my son, and the person that I love.

Sex is not worth that price. And if she was abused as a child be even more delicate and stop being so focused on the sex.

Learn from my mistakes.

Answer 2

well to start I would say rent a couple of porno's and when a postion comes up that you would like to try ask her would you try that be open with her that is the best way try with the videos instead of the actual act it self let her be prepare cause usually a video can get you in the mood plus help with the visual of whats going on. I hope this helps thats all I got.Good Luck

Answer 3

Since you weren't very specific, I'd say try something new that you know will please her. Give her more oral, try it on the side. Don't whip out the whip and chains. Try a female vibrator to give her pleasure and once she sees how fun it is she might open up to other things.
WARNING: There are a few select things that some women will never feel comfterable doing so don't try to force them into doing it or you'll regreat it.

Answer 4

Until she is ready don't push her. but dont ask her to do thinks she is uncomfortable in doing either. And it is hard to get over something like that you never for get, and it will bother her til the day she dies, but when she realizes that you cant blame all men for what one or men have done to you then she may never come to that stage in her life to be able to do that, just love her and stand with her and try to understand.

Answer 5

Talk it out with her, her fears, her thoughts on the subject and satrt discussing slowly, sweet talks tames anyone in this world, it can even move mountains, don't give up, shower her with more love and sexy talks.

The idea of experimenting should be introduced slowly to her and she will get used to it as time goes on and then the practicallity will follow.

Answer 6

Id start really slow with really easy things, and get proving to her that she can trust you , which id hope after 7 years she'd know she can.. but be patient with her and just take it one step at a time ..

Answer 7

I don't think you should tap into such a serious subject. (childhood)

What you should do is tell her (if you haven't already) what you want.

If that fails, give up or make her want experimentation by getting boring in bed.

Answer 8

Tough one here.

You can try talking to her about what you would like to do, and if that doesn't work, well, big fella... It might be time to find a replacement player.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

.if shes not comfortable with your request , don't pressure her into reliving bad memories.Make it something small sexually and work your way up as you feels more relaxed .Maybe she start to loosen up.