2006-07-11 18:08:42 · 10 answers · asked by crazykiwi38 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
The very first thing, and the very biggest thing, is to be into it. Enjoy what you are doing, and be excited about it. Everyone wants to think that the things that turn them on turn other people on too. If you give the guy the idea that you don’t like to do it, then he feels like it is bad, or dirty, and no one likes that kind of judgment.
As for specific tips... every guy is different, but there are some things almost all guys like.
Forget everything you have read in Cosmo about how going down is somehow empowering, or that you are in control of his pleasure – that is just feminist political garbage, and it is SO not about that – going down on a guy is about giving pleasure, not taking control.
Just before you start, put on a fresh coat of lipstick, let your guy watch you do this.
Get down on your knees in front of him, whether he is standing or sitting – unless you are in a car or something that would prevent that. Guys LOVE seeing their girl on her knees for them.
Get him warmed up by rubbing him over and between your boobs, while you tell him how excited you are to be doing what you are doing and how much you are looking forward to what is coming next. You can also use your hair brushed lightly over him.
Pay some attention to his balls. Softly run your nails over them. Lick them, and suck one and then the other into your mouth and flick your tongue over it... once when you are getting started, and then later when you need to take a bit of a break from the “main event;” be gentle... Keep them cupped in your hand after you have moved on to other things, and softly kneed them, be gentle, and don’t tug.
It should go without saying that you should do everything you can to keep your teeth out of the equation. I doubt much else could be as unpleasant as teeth on a genital. It should also go without saying that you want to use your tongue – a lot. I am sure that a soft tongue feels wonderful on a genital. Lick up and down, particularly the underside, and top of the tip... get everything nice and wet before it even goes inside your mouth.
When you are ready to take it inside the first time, close your lips softly, and push them against him so that he pushes your lips open around him as he slides inside.
As you get started on the main event, ask him to hold your hair out of your face. This serves two purposes – first it keeps your hair out of your face, and mouth (always a good thing) and it gives him permission to put his hands on your head and provide you with some guidance (which most guys are unfortunately too timid to provide without permission). Be prepared that he will start to guide your head with his hands – and that is a good thing, he knows what he likes best – and that as he becomes more and more excited, he will provide more and more guidance... follow his lead unless it gets painful for you. TRUST me – guys – all guys, even the ones who don’t want to, LOVE that.
If you can take him deep, do it, guys LOVE it. It is actually quite easy once you learn how to do it, but it does take a bit of practice. The trick is to open your throat, and relax all of the muscles at the same time. But you HAVE to be careful about your gag reflex – you don’t want to puke. I recommend practicing on a toy until you have it down.
When you take him into your mouth, hold him inside and hum softly while he is pressed into your throat.
Try to keep eye contact with your guy. It won’t be possible all of the time, but look up at him as much as is convenient for you.
And of course swallow... It is in your mouth already, it might as well slip down your throat. Personally that is my favorite part, it feels so sexy, warm, and so yummy – and guys LOVE it. Of course – they sometimes like to go other places as well – so be prepared for that, on your face, or boobs – but wherever it ends up smile, giggle and enjoy it. Remember to at least act like it is as exciting to you as it is for him. Nothing will ruin a good buzz like judgment, so don’t ruin it at this point after all this work.
Of course – like anything else make sure that you are playing safely. Use a condom if you don’t know that the guy is clean. On the plus side, there is NO way that you can get pregnant from it.
2006-07-11 18:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by ***** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're new to sex, or you would have the imagination to know how to pleasure your boyfriend. Saying that, I'll add that you sound too young to be indulging in any kind of sex.
If you must, be sure to use a "dam" (yes, you'll have to break down and ask your pharmacist), but it's the best way to prevent a sexually transmitted disease. Remember, you may not be his first so who knows where and with whom she was with last.
2006-07-12 01:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by goldie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, on the receiving end, using a lot of tongue at the "tip" feels great! And never ever forget about the "jewels"! Yup, they need lovin' too.
2006-07-12 01:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gil Da Thrill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie ,,,, if you have to ask that question ,,,,, you are too young to be thinking about trying to give him oral sex.
2006-07-12 01:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by robin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with both robin_j and L_S.
2006-07-12 01:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Right On 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your mom know what you do on the computer happy day
2006-07-12 01:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Charles W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your mouth.
2006-07-12 01:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by L S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in front of your daddy, you dirty little girl! haha
2006-07-12 01:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud add flavor and whip cream play around wit da tip of it while playin wit his ball duh
2006-07-12 01:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by queenbee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just fuc him with no condum
2006-07-12 01:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by man m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋