He's been gone for a year and were both crazy for eachother. I am a pretty girl i can get anyguy but i want him. I just want my parents to understand but my mom says she will disown me. Can someone give me advice
Hes 21 and im 17
2006-07-11 17:58:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
listen to your parents. you probably will find him with another girl when u get there
2006-07-11 18:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that your Mom will disown you. However, I think that she is right and that is a very foolish thing for you to waste your time on right now. Speaking from experiance, I wasted 8 years on a guy that I thought was Mr. Wonderful, too right out of High School, and do you know what? I never got to go to College right out of High School, and I am darn lucky that I didn't get pregnant, or else I would have been linked forever to a guy that was just using me, because if he really loved me he would have put me first and told me to go to school and make a life for myself. He never asked me to marry him because he was getting the milk for free. But you will take this with a grain of salt now, but in 5 or 6 years you will know that your Mom was right.
2006-07-11 18:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has gone off to college the chances that the two of you will stay together are slim. If he really loved you he would finish school get a well paying job then ask you to marry him. Moving accross country JUST to move in with someone you are not married to and not even being legal age is VERY VERY risky.
2006-07-11 18:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Today is the Day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are crazy, and obviously not yet matured enough to realize that guys are not true to a girl who is miles away! He's old enough to know better, (but won't!), and you're too young to know better! A guy will lie to a beautiful girl to keep her on the hook, especially a 21 year old guy! You haven't had enough relationships to know this and will blindly follow a guy like this anywhere... that is, until you get your heart broke a few times! And you, obviously, aren't old enough to have had much experience with guys to know any better... you think everything is just peaches and cream, madly in love! And your parents can't possibly know what you know! (Right...
HUH!?!?!?!
You've got a rude awakening coming girl, and now... you can't say I didn't warn you!
2006-07-11 18:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess ur too young to move out with ur bf... n moreover he too is only 21..loving is one thing n living is another.if at all u move out with ur bf initially it might be fun..but at 18 n 21 i dont think u can earn enough to keep u both happy..n eventually financial probs will lead to ur breakup...
u dont need to be living together to love each other...if u both truely love each other u can go on like this for a few more yrs like till u finish college or so..n u both have a stable income.. so i guess it would be better to obey ur parents now..anyway best of Luck
2006-07-11 18:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by cools_joey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is telling you, including me to listen to your folks, but let's look at this from another perspective
You are just 18, and you want your own place, to come and go as you feel, to do what you want, and to "break free" from all restrictions. I am going to assume you know that there are always some restrictions, like work, school ( assuming college) and music after ten, stuff like that. You are going to be changing as you develop your sense of who you are as an adult. You will find that the world has so much to offer, so much excitement that what you thought you liked or wanted today will change with each rising sun. It really does happen like this as you enter the best time of your life: An 18 yr old, free to go where and when she wants, to do what she wants to meet new people, it won't get much better than this for awhile. (It does get even better over the next years after 21 or so).
Now, that being said, even if you love this guy, why would you want to put yourself back in a "restrictive" mode? When living with someone in this fashion, you are going to have to consider him in everything you do. From going to the movie with your friends, to having a party, to coming home after work, instead of out for drinks/dinner with a co-worker/friend, to how the apt may look, decoration wise, to what to eat for dinner. Why on earth would a young lady who has the world at her feet want to move from parental authority, to boyfriend authority without EVER having the opportunity to experience life as a single adult? Unless your a bit intimidated by being alone, which would be normal, but to stand on your own, face the uncertainity is going to be the most AWESOME experience and growth for you ever.
Listen, if you and he REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER, won't you still love each other say in two years from now? Your going to answer, "yes". Well put your money where your mouth is, and prove it. Living together, or not living together you claim both of you will still love each other, then what's the difference if your living together or not? Allow both of you, especially YOU to enjoy some real freedom, some real development as adults before settling down. I PROMISE YOU, YOU AND HE WILL BOTH FIND THAT YOUR IDEA'S OF WHAT YOU WANT IN A MATE WILL CHANGE. That is not to say that you won't want each other, but it does afford both of you the chance to find out without "restrictions".
If you question this, just inquire of other people if they don't have to "restrict" their freedoms when they live with someone. If you don't think this is true also ask those who have been on their own without a "boyfriend/girlfriend living with them if they havent had more fun without that "living arrangement". If you need a roommate, get a girlfriend to go half with you. You are going to have so much more fun and excitement this way.
I SWEAR TO GOD YOU WILL...
How do I know this.... Unlike most teenagers, as an adult, I know I don't know it all, I learned a few things along the way to "ancient", and this is one of them...
2006-07-12 04:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i kinda no how u would feel if your parents would disown u cuz my sister went to move with her boyfriend and her and my mom fight alot
2006-07-11 18:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by danielle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he move? Sounds to me like you just want to piss your parents off.
2006-07-11 18:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by longbeach2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents...He already found him another girl..He does not need you now...
2006-07-11 18:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love?
oh STFU.
2006-07-12 06:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Coffee-Infused Insomniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋