i have this friend (she a girl) we are real cool wid each other and she shares everything wid me(i do .i really like her and sometimes shes calls me sexii on my myspace comments and also sends me lyrics/poems dat she wrote and deres alwayz something like i wonder wat would it be like if we went further and stuff...so my point is i really like her but i dont knoe if she likes me even though ppl tell me she does ..so should i ask her out?? is it going to mess up our friendship??? how should i start of???
please help!!!!! (if deres a way to give more points ( and somebdy gives me a good answer i will)
2006-07-11 17:17:58 · 26 answers · asked by maxed_out102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i like everybdys answrs!!! but for the ppl who i think i should ask her out should i jst ask her out or take her to the movies or something?? where should i start of??
2006-07-11 17:22:53 · update #1
life is full of half chances dude, and this is one of them. the worst thing to happen would be if you really like her and a couple years from now you two grow distant and you wonder what it would be like if you had taken that chance. ask her out dude, it might just be worth it!
2006-07-11 17:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, speaking from experience . . I am dating someone that I have been friends with for 5 years. He always did the same thing. He dropped hints that he was interested and he always flirted, but I paid him no mind really. I was afraid of the same thing. I didn't want to loose a really good friend. Bottom line is this, do you REALLY like her . . or are you just curious?? If you really and ginuinely care for her (as more than a friend) ask her out and see where it goes. If you are just curious because she's flirting . . DON'T ask her out. Asking her out will just be to satisfy that "what if" curiousity. Then you may end up ruining a good friendship by hurting her feelings.
Do you miss her when she's not around?
When you're around her, do you feel a connection?
Can you see yourself in a relationship with her?
If so . . I say go for it. Who better to be in a relationship with, than a friend you already know, trust and care for.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-12 00:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tamara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be very careful with this - if you ask her out it could very well mess up your friendship. On the flip side, if she is already a good friend and it goes further, into bf/gf, that can be wonderful. I would recommend talking to her and seeing what she feels, but make sure it is in a casual manner, so she doesn't feel pressured in case she just thinks of you as a friend. Maybe something like - "you're a great friend to me and I love that. Do you ever think about us being more than friends?"
2006-07-12 00:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by merigold00 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be confusing, I know... :-) But its great that the two of you are friends. She may be unsure of whether she likes you. Maybe she wants to get to know you better. There are some people who are just afraid to rush into relationships. You need to understand this. So give her time and see how it goes, Continue to talk to her, she seems to trust you, which is definitely a positive sign.
A word of warning, sometimes the people around you ( in their innocent enthusiasm) may say shes into you, but she may not feel that way. (speaking through experience here!) So the best way to get about this is to figure it out for your self. If you think you've waited long enough go for it. Ask her.. tell her how you feel & ask her if she wants to take it further. If she already confides in you, I dont think your in danger of losing her friendship. But be sure to tell her that her friendship is important to you.
But also be aware if she constantly uses the term 'friend' with you. She may be tring to give you a sign.
Good luck buddy, & remember that whatever happens, it happens for the best.
2006-07-12 00:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mint Fudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to take a chance of losing her as a friend if you do ask her out and it ends up not working out. then again, you could end up together later on. Don't ruin things and push her into doing stuff she may not want to do and that you should not be doing anyway such as sexual stuff. that would kill any chance you have of keeping a friendship if the dating does not work out. You never know, people do end up marrying someone who started out as a friend, as they know that person better than they would otherwise. ask her to somewhere fun where you can both relax and be yourselves. mini golf? bowling? a movie? ice cream or frozen custard place? throwing frisbees in the park? pick something that you both would like to do. then talk to her about how you feel - that you want to take your relationship a step further and take her out. the secret is to make you both at ease so that things go smoothly. best wishes!
2006-07-12 00:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start with learning how to spell. wid I'm guessing means with, sexii means sexy, dat means that, deres means there's, alwayz means always, knoe means know? Perhaps you should go back to painting on the cave wall.
2006-07-12 00:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Adalina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you, all right.
However, it also sounds like you have a very nice friendship that you won't want to risk messing up, right? I think she'd like it if you spend more time with her--take it slowly and move towards a more romantic-type relationship. Eventually you'll probably want to ask her out--because it will drive her crazy if you don't!
Have fun! Enjoy the friendship you have now, treat it and her with respect even if you have a romance that ends (as most do, you understand), and chances are you'll have her in your life for a long, long time.
2006-07-12 00:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by LC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to be more than friends. Now, no sooner! Every second of every day that you two are 'friends' and 'real cool' with each other you are moving farther away from anything more intimate.
wid, dat, deres, always, koe, ppl ????
Comes across as illiterate. Pretty sad actually.
2006-07-12 00:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing you should do is just to talk to her. How is she going to know what your thoughts and feelings are if you don't tell her? Sometimes friends can be flirty, but have no intentions of going any further. Only way to find out is to ask her how she feels about you, and you tell her how you feel about her. I wouldn't just ask her out, cuz if she says no, then that might hurt you for a while, and then things might just slowly drift apart.
If you are worried about losing her friendship, then just leave things the way they are, let them happen on their own. But if you feel really strong about her, just talk to her, see what she says.
2006-07-12 00:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by serial_brain_killer_with_a_spoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. well i think you should ask her out. But not very bluntly. Maybe just say "Hey do u really like me? Because i kinda like you." And see what she says. But if she doesn't say something good, just drop it- and maybe a friendship is better for you guys.
2006-07-12 00:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Beach Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋