My best friend and I both like the same guy, but he only likes me, and wants 2 go out with me! Well, I luv him, but she doesn't know that, cuz I never told her, cuz I know she luvs him 2. But I never thought anyone would ever wanna go out with me that much, so I don't wanna tell him I don't wanna go out with him. Any advice? plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!
2006-07-11 17:17:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless they were dating and you stole him away, he is fair game. If you knew your friend liked him and did things to steer him from her, then you are wrong and should stay away. Other then that, go for it.
2006-07-11 17:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's o.k if you go out with this young man baby after all he did ask you out and not your friend.Did you ever tell her that you like him?Because if you did that should make it easier when you tell her,but as long as she was'nt dating him or anything of thta nature you are fine.Just tel your friend you know so and so asked me out and she's going to say forreal when,and you tell her and then she's going to ask when,and you tell her and then she's going to say will what did you tell him and then you tell her I accept.But let her know that you was'nt being sneaky that's why you told her.She might even tell you well I would never do that to you but don't let her make you feel bad it's o.k she had a crush and you did to but he decided for the both of you girls by asking you out so it's obvious that the feelings were mutal.And make sure you don't discuss your relationship with him to her because she will go back and probably tell him to see if she stands a chance.Not saying your friend is that way but it's possible.Goodluck!Just tell her at least she can't say you was being sneaky.But no don't feel bad.
2006-07-12 00:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite have the same opinion... I agree that you should tell her, But I wouldn't go so far as to say that if You told her yourself, that it would turn out differently than if someone else told her. If she's a good friend, She'll probably blow it off. If not, She will still hate you as if you had kept it from her. I've been in the position before.
2006-07-12 00:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by pahrtyahnimahl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have seen this happen many times to girl friends and guys. It is often a turn on for the guy and a power trip to create this kind of friction between two girlfriends. You have several choices. Weigh your frineship with the girls...how long have you been friends and what kind of friends are you? The guy- How long have you both known him and what is his track record with girls as it might just be for fun for him and not as serious as you hope. Talk to your girlfriend first after you answer these questions if you value what the two of you have....hope this helps.
2006-07-12 00:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Country Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell HIM your dilemma. Go on a few double-dates with him, with her, and with some others. Have fun as a group. I know lots of teens and young adults who don't worry themselves about "who is whose property." Talk with him. And if she's mature enough, talk to her. There's nothing wrong with a group of good friends completely enjoying one another. Live it up.
2006-07-12 01:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if she is your true friend then she will understand and she will be happy for you. it may be hard at first but you'll see that you dont need negative people bringing you down. i think that you should go out with him because you should do what you want because there is no way that you could fix her with him. you deserve to be happy, if you avoid what you want now, it will only be harder when you get older!
2006-07-12 00:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by russian_honey007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you is going out with this guy, then it's ok for you to go out with him. Make sure you are the one to tell your friend you're going to go out with him, don't let her hear it from someone else.
2006-07-12 00:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep it from her or she'll hate you for it for the rest of your life. As a friend, talk to her nicely and make her understand.
2006-07-12 00:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by luthien_ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend, if she is your best friend then she should understand, that he has a mind of his own and he chose you. And if she can't get over that and gets mad, then you really weren't best friends.
2006-07-12 00:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by terrbeary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys come and go but friends are forever! dont lose ur friend over a boy!
2006-07-12 00:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋