i just remarried about 4 years back i was single for 9 years raisin two little boys after meetin my new husband , i decided to get re married after 9 years but my new husband is 6 years younger never been married before and never had kids, now my two sons are fully grown up, and iam at last free now new hubby wanting a baby whew!! i dont think i cant iam 42 he is 37 plz some one help !!! thanks meesala63...
2006-07-11 16:18:54 · 29 answers · asked by blk_female_x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had my daughter when I was 41. she is now 16.
I did it. but I wanted her more than anything!!! The reall question is if YOU really want this you CAN do it. But if you don't really want to DON"T> I will admit. It has been a little rough. But she was worth it. I now have 3 grandchildren(from my 26 year old son) ages 4, 2, and 2 weeks. Now I feel too old to enjoy them !!!
I keep them occasionally overnight, but only 1 at a time, because now I really am too old to do this all over again! God bless you and good luck.
2006-07-11 16:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by retta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand, though my story is a bit different. I am a 41 year old man who is divorced and has 2 teenage daughters, soon off to college. I now live in China, and here it is VERY common to have a wife who is much younger (sometimes 20 years younger) I do not want anymore children, but it is hard to deny your spouse this if they never had any. Your going to have to talk about this with your husband and look at the "pros and cons" of having a child, normally having a baby after 40 in America is not very common, maybe he will accept this. Why does he insist on a child now if he waited 37 years to get married and why didn't you discuss this BEFORE you got married?
Have you considered adoption?
2006-07-11 16:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wiseguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is close to your age, I am older, we have 2 kids, 1 grown and the other 4 years away. We both agreed that that was enough, no more. First off. you have already put your body through childbirth and then spent years of blood,sweat and tears raising them. I'm sure you'll agree it's not all a cake walk. Second, you are now still young enough to enjoy doing those things in life you can't really do while raising children. Anybody who has raised a family should understand. If your husband doesn't understand, let him babysit for friends for awhile. He might get the point.
2006-07-11 16:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by taboobiker73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you are both coming from. My youngest is 5 and a half and I don't want to go back to dealing with diapers and bottles. But to never have any children? I don't think I'd like that either. My husband and I have one and I have two from an earlier marriage. He wants another one and I don't. I went and got my tubes tied. Even though your husband doesn't have any I think I would put my foot down. It's more dangerous to be pregnant after 40 for you and the baby. If you truely don't want another one tell him. Everything should work out fine if he loves you. I would think your health would be more important than having a baby.
2006-07-11 16:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on your side. You have raised your family. Why start over? He should have entered all this into the equation before he married you. If he wanted to have children he should have married someone younger who wanted to have children. Also, at 42 there is a greater risk of problems with the pregnancy. Stand your ground. He has the easy part. You have done yours, you should not have to go through it again just to make him happy. He is the one being selfish, not you.
2006-07-11 16:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm starring this bc i'd opt to carry close also. Colten will be 8 months on Saturday (9/2). He has been an same way. The minute he wakes up he's fussy. He also has a double ear an infection and reducing 4 teeth which i'm blaming. Is he reducing teeth? Does he have an ear an infection? Has he been checked? He tries to "strive against" with me even as i adjust his diaper, he's being VERY irritable.i imagine its because they are purely growing older and wanting to hit upon. i'm blaming mine on the double ear an infection and the 4 teeth being reduce immediately although.
2016-11-01 21:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you guys talk before you got married? This is one of the reasons why marriages don't work, people go into it without talking and solving big issues like this one before they walk down the aisle. They spend time on what colors they want and what to eat at the reception and where to go on the honeymoon. How about do you want to have anymore babies?
2006-07-11 16:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, your body is your own, but if you say "no", then you know what might happen; be honest and discuss it with him; Hey, he may want to be Mr Mom and you get to work outside the home! Role reversal could be a good thing and make him sit up and take notice! You'll share duties, of course, but 9-5 he has the baby all to himself...
2006-07-11 16:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am forty and my new wife is thirty, I have three children from my first marriage, ages 18,16,and14. I feel like i have a new lease on life with a two year old on the way, when in reality I felt at first like you do now. You need to talk to your husband about counseling.
2006-07-11 16:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by brat71825 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to old. My friend is having a baby and is 44, She is so excited. I think you could love this baby if you wanted it. Don't have one if you think you can't start over with a new born. But your husband will appreciate more than you could believe. Good luck
2006-07-11 16:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by jane f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋