Me and Heather [g.f] were talking about kids and she asked me what age would I wanna be before I have kids? Since I never really thought of this before, my question to YOU is:
What would you say to your man if he proposed having kids? What's the youngest for you to have? and if you already have kids, how old were you when you had your first?
2006-07-11 15:43:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Twenty five is ideal. When your child is old enough to be a teen your still young enough to play and do things cool with them. At twenty five you had your time to play and experiment and get the wild streak out of the way. Later in the relationship your bodies are getting older and don't handle the stress as well. If your woman pressures you to have a child then there is something missing in her life and she needs to find out what that something is before super imposing a child over the "something". If the man is pressuring he has a fix it agenda. Something went wrong with his childhood and he is trying to do a "do over" or a "one up" on those who raised him. My insight. Smile.
2006-07-11 15:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
I guess there really isn't an "age" that I would have kids. I would judge it on how settled I am. Am I ready financially, emotionally, etc. to have children? Some of my friends married young, and had children. I'm 27 and just got engaged! I probably won't have children until I am 29 or even 30!!! The good thing is that I can be financially responsible, the down side is that I will be an "older" mommy. Oh well...as long as I don't have to struggle paying the bills :) Guess it depends on the person.
2006-07-11 22:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that I'm not over 21, but I have had this conversation before. I think that a good age to have kids is one-two years after you have been married. I would like to have my first child around the ages of 25-26. I know that might sound old with nowadays standards but it's a practical age and it was the age that my parents were when they had me. If you aren't planning on getting married, but you want to have a family anyway, I would say that you should be dating for several years and have a well established relationship that you are practically married anyway.
2006-07-11 22:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much for the age that matter's If you're of legal age to be considered an " adult ".
The thing is being able to maintain the responsability, Because it's " no joke ".
Their are moment's inwhich you may fall into hard times, But one thing that will keep you together more than any thing is " UNITY ".
& no matter how you prioratize thing's
" Remember ", The Kids Come First.
2006-07-11 22:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by DUMMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first child is 8months right now. i'm 28 and me hubby is 22. we want a bigger family (3 or 4 kids) so we decided to start sooner. since i'm older and the one that has to carry the children, starting early was a good decision because after 35 you run the risk for certain birth defects and everything is just harder. plus, when i'm of retirement age, i want to be taking care of grandchildren, not my own children.
2006-07-11 22:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 18. Then another at 19. I am 22. I think I did it right, because of female problems I cant have anymore. I didn't know that at the time. Everyone is different
2006-07-11 22:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by churppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that I won't have anymore, I already have children from my first marriage,and I was 19 years old pregnant and had her at the age of 20
2006-07-11 22:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't a matter of age it is a matter of how mature enough you are. is your job stable enough to support children and a wife? are children what you both want? are you willing to make sacrifices for your children? children bring on more responsibilities that you need to be prepared for. but in the end there is nothing more rewarding than being a parent. i have been married for almost 13years. we lost three babies and did end up with 3 sons ages 10,8,4. we started early at age 21 trying. we wanted to be young parents and grow-up with our children.....plus i knew pregnancys would be difficult for me. it is all worth it. i love being a mother!
2006-07-11 22:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by LeAnne H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXX Money, is the main factor in having kids. Kids cost a lot. Maturity comes right on top with money. Babies take a lot of patience. So I've say, when we are financially secure enough to afford them, as well as mentally able. Suggestion.... I'm sure you or your girlfriend knows someone with a baby. Offer to babysit (for free). XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-11 22:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wanna be 22 when i have my 1st kid and since my bf is only 6 months older than me then i guess i have to wait to be 23 or 24 because i want him to be a lil older. we are going to get married when we are 21.
2006-07-11 22:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋