Is it ok for me to sleep with a married man if his wife is abusive to him and refuses to have sex with him?

Question

Yes its just his word, he has told me she hits him I've never asked to see bruises or scratches, and I've told him he should divorce her, his response to this is "One of these days I will."

Answer 1

if he leaves his wife and becomes a free man, then you do what you want to do. but until then, i think that it would be best for YOU if you do not get involved with him. if his relationship is that bad he needs to get out of it and probably have some time on his own as well before embarking in something else.

Answer 2

I agree with Chuckie. If you start a relationship with him now it will slow him down in moving on, and has very high odds of crashing and burning when he starts to go through the stress of divorce.

On the other hand, if you can avoid getting attached (but keep in mind that kind of thing could sneak up on you, and it will make it harder for you to develop a relationship with anyone else while it is going on) then go ahead if you want to.

If you think you want to have a relationship with this guy, tell him to get a divorce and you will be willing to date him once he or his wife moves out. It is risky that soon too, but at least you will be still be forming the relationship during the upheaval rather than trying to sustain something already developed.

Answer 3

If he's so unsatisfied with his wife then why don't he divorce her. It sounds like an excuse to make women feel sorry for him and give him what he wants. He's a pig! Stay away from him. He has probably did something to his wife to make her so mean to him LIKE CHEATING.

Don't fall for it! Who knows what kind of disease he has. I'm sure you are not his first victim.

Answer 4

Its never ok to sleep with a married man, don't make excuses to sleep with him if he is so misreable than he can get out of it or give himself a hand job. you will not like it if you were married and a woman slept with your man, regardless of the situation that is a big NO NO, but if you decide to do it always remember "WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND"

Answer 5

You might be encouraging him to stay in an abusive marriage longer than he should if you provide marital comfort (sex) to him. If he is being abused and you care about him, you should try to help him get out of the relationship, even if it would mean losing him yourself.

Answer 6

That's not a good excuse for sleeping with a married man. If you care for him, then help him get professional help and out of the relationship, if that's what he REALLY WANTS.

Answer 7

Yes, it is. It doesn't matter if his wife is abusive or a perfect wife. If he wants to cheat, then its going to happen, with or without you. The question you have to ask yourself is: Do I want to sleep with him or not?

Answer 8

i was with a married man for two years, if its sex you want go for it if you can do that with out getting attached, dont expect him to leave her for you or anything, make sure you take it for what its worth sex and thats it. me on the other hand did get my feeling caught up in it and i got hurt and i couldnt blame anyone but myself because he told me before we did anything dont get attached and i did. shame on me but do what you feel comfortable doing.

Answer 9

first thing do not believe, even if you are 100% sure, do not do it, what does he want from you?only sexual desires and then you are nothing, so, try to get away from this man, you will get into v big problems with him

Answer 10

weel if u have seen marks on him then becareful not to get n e adultry its illigal but if there no marks or prof then dont stay with him.