Should I talk to my dad and if so how ?

Question

My dad is really strict he thinks I shouldn't have a boyfriend until I'm out of college .He doesn't think that my grades would still be straight A's and that I wouldn't be able to stay focused on my education. He also hates for me to go anywhere becuase he is so paranoid about something happennig to me.he doesn't even want me to go to prom and he gets kind of angry when I talk about living in another state when I become an adult. Can someone please help me ? I am just making myself sick keeping all this to myself and I feel that I need to tell him.

Answer 1

how old are you 17/18 I presume? He realizes that you're getting older and that he's going to lose you soon [in a way he is] and he doesnt want to. He's trying to keep you close but unknowingly is pusher you furthur away. Talk to him. Lay out your feelings.

Answer 2

yes, always be honest, or you can ruin your relationship. Your a daddy's girl right, and if your the only child it will be very hard for him to realize that you are a grown lady, not his little princess that he bounces on his knee. He is only doing what most dads do with there daughters, being over protective. if you were a boy he wouldn't be so over bearing. When you become "an adult" you may come to realize that you don't want to move to another state so leave that on the back burner. As far as your dad is concerned he will understand (it may take a while) that you are your own person, and that you want different things for yourself. Don't make yourself sick with worry, thing will get better as time goes on. Besides worry cause wrinkles. Be young and carefree, like most your age.

Answer 3

I think your fears are real. Your father's behavior is beyond a daddy's little girl syndrome and he can't be oblivious of the fact that he is way outside the norm for our society. You're feeling guilty about keeping things from him. I would choose a compromise, tell him some things, leave other things, like the fact that you might want to live in another state, out. As for your having a boyfriend, I don't know how old you are. If you are past 16, maybe you should have someone else talk to him about it. Choose someone he respects and tell them what you'd like for him to understand. If he still won't agree to a boyfriend, don't have a secret relationship with a boy. That would be too big a burden for you to bear and he can really get worse if he finds out. You'll have to bear it until you go to college. As for prom, again, try to have someone talk to him. A parent of a friend of yours, a relative, etc... Have them understand what his fears are and then you can address the fears, like reasssure him that the kids are supervized, that no one can sneak in alcohol, etc... So, keep your thoughts about your future to yourself, have someone speak up for you on important matters, and compromise where he just won't see things your way.

Answer 4

Your Dad is only worried about your well being. It is good that your father is overprotective. back in Highschool I could not go the prom with a Girl because her father would not let her. And believe it or not but a relationship does tend hurt your grades I know from experience just being in class and wanting to Goof off with friends started to mess up some of my grades.
It is best if you date a guy who does not go to the same School as you. It will help keep you focused on class and ask your dad if if he would be more comfortable with hanging out with the guy you like around mother and father.

Answer 5

Tell him that your straight As are proof of your responsibility. Inform him that good work deserves rewards and that you should be let out of your cage to pursue what other people your age call "a friggin' life". If having a life proves too much for you to handle and your grades slip, then make him a deal that you'll forget about it. Let him know that you appreciate that he is trying to protect you, but that you are old enough to be self-sufficient for a few hours outside the home.

All of the above is null and void if you're 13 or younger. In which case you should just be focusing on watching Nick Jr.

Answer 6

Just tell your dad how you feel. Tell him you will always be his daughter no matter what, but you will not always be daddy's little girl. He's got to realize you are growing up and he's going to have to face some changes in your relationship. Your dad can't run your life for you when you are becoming an adult. Good luck with whatever you decide, and don't be afraid to voice your opinion. Even if you make him mad a father's love for his daughter will keep him from staying mad.

Answer 7

That really sucks. Your father has to learn to trust you and live with the fact that your not going to be young forever. Likewise you have to be worthy of his trust. Try making a contract with him! i saw a 60 Minutes special with Derek Jeter being interviewed and his father was strict, and made him sign a contract. Maybe you can both sign that contract where you would keep your grades up, not do drugs and keep your pants on in return for some priveliges and stuff. I mean either that or you can go on to the Maury show. Take care and good luck!

Answer 8

dad is over protective. yes you should try talking to him. while he is strict and it seems mean. it would be even worse if you didnt talk to him and you just left. you need to show your dad that boys will not bring down your grades... and that you should go to prom because it is a right of passage for graduating high school. you should tell your dad that you love him and you have learned so much from him but that the time is coming for you to spread your wings. this doesnt mean you will love him any less this just means that you have learned all he can teach and now its time to show the world... If this doesnt work try just asking why he is so scared. a lot of dads have a hard time with their little girls growing up.

Answer 9

sounds like the only child. I think you should definetely talk to him, he is just concerned about his little girl, with everything happening in the world and all. I would try talking to him or consider writing him a letter that seems to help that way you can gather all your thoughts together and don't have to face him and become nervous and all. Be sure to assure him that he has raised you well and are becoming and adult now and that you will be safe and keep him updated if anything should happen that he needs to be concerned about. GL :)

Answer 10

ok do u have a mom....?if u do tell her she can help a little and if not then u need to say that i know u r only trying to help but dad u a smuthering me and i also know that i will never have any fun at all cause u want to keep me only to urslef and how about u please jus tgive me a chance to have a bf and if my grades go down then i won't have another one until u pick and ill do anything if u just give me a chance thats all im asking for..just one chance.iu ur making me not so close to u by not letting me go to prom and let me go out...this is gonig to make our relationship bad if u don't just trust me. try that


good luck i hope it works out cause that sucks i feel really bad

Answer 11

Scorpio....I'm assuming that your over 18 now.....and I know what your dad is going through.

But...I also think (speaking as a dad of two grown daughters) that he is being overly strict with you.

Your gonna have to work up the courage to have a face to face sit down talk with him. Not knowing what your family situation is I'm just guessing that his biggest fear is being alone in the future.

Your going to have to point out to him that holding you back is going to cause you to miss out on some of the best memories of your life. Ask him if he would rather trade your happiness and social growth for a lifetime of resentment from you.