You were old enough to have sex knowing that pregnancy could result so you should be a man and stand up to the plate. You admit and take responsibility for your child. You get a job, help pay the expenses that it will cost to raise that child. You also give time to that child so he/she knows you are his/her father. You also be a man by admitting to your dad that you are the father and that you will take care of your responsibility. Your father will be angry, hurt and disappointed but, once he has had time to adjust, he will be supportive because he loves you.
2006-07-11 15:05:17
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answered by ilse72 7
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You should own up to the responsibility you accepted when you had sex, and be the best father that child could have. In order to do that, you'll have to grow up a bit, and damned soon. I'm pretty sure that baby that you made doesn't care whether her father will kill you or not. And don't even start with the "getting out of it" bullshit. You had a choice when you had sex with someone, and you knew this was a possible outcome. I feel really sorry for that girl and your child that they've gotten tangled up with a asshole like you that would even consider trying to "get out of it." Grow the hell up!
If this is a hypothetical question, though it doesn't sound like it, then use a goddamn condom and any other measures you possibly can take--or better yet, don't have sex with someone that you can't see yourself having a child with.
2006-07-11 15:04:51
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answered by Anonymous
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well, just talk to your dad about it. You made a mistake and your sorry, but you have a big responsibillity now. Love the child.. its not their fault they were born. Also, check out adoption agencies with the girl. I know some here in the states let you pick the family and everything. I have 1 child and another due in 13 days. I wasn't prepared for the first one and the father left me after he raped me a week after te baby was born. I was alone. If nothing else... be the girl's friend and support her. Friendship wise anyway. good luck man. If you wanna talk I am shotputter77 on Yahoo messenger and you can IM me with any question.
2006-07-11 15:11:27
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answered by Black Widow Mollie 3
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If you did it , be a bold man , take responsibility.
be prepared to take care of the girl,you love.
If you are working, and can support her and the baby , then get married. do not let the baby go without you, a father.
give you girl and the baby a tender loning care. And do not have another baby untill you can afford.
I am 61 now but at 21 my wife became pregnant just after our eggagement, I married immidiately.
Still I studied engineering,while supporting my family by tutoring.
It was very hard , I loved my first daughter so much. she is 38 now.
Hey good luck young man, bless that baby, and god will help you.
2006-07-11 17:08:17
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answered by cookiedada 3
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honestly, unless you were planning on doing it before she got pregnant, don't ask her to marry you. if you stay together, good! if you're together for a while after she has the baby and you two decide you want to get married, great! but having a baby is stressful and if you add parental problems and trying to get married all at the same time, it could be too much.
it's better to just try and support her and the baby as much as you can, financially and emotionally, even if you and the girl do end up splitting.
dont' be a jerk and a coward and run. how devastated would you be to learn that your father did that to you? don't pass it on.
2006-07-11 15:16:13
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answered by Jbeth 4
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If you thought you were man enough and mature enough to be having sex in the first place, then you should be man enough to take care of a child. But it sounds like you are in trouble if you are worried about her dad "killing" you and "getting out of it" so you need to step up to the responsibility. Whatever you do, don't try to pressure her into getting an abortion. If she wants to, that's her decision - not yours. Oh yeah - and next time, use a condom.
2006-07-11 15:06:53
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answered by Jenna 1
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It makes me sad that you worded it "getting out of it". The Dad may be upset, yes....................but..If she is........she is. I do not think he will do anything to you physically. It will just be the disapointment and adjustment that you fear seeing. The person above who wrote that he will respect you more if you talk to him; or are responsible about this is correct. You are just as responsible as the gal is for this. She needs your support right now. And....if you care about her, things could work out. The first thing her Dad is going to ask her is "what" you are saying or doing about it.
I have two daughters and I know that honesty and respect get alot further with parents than running from things ever would.
I hope everything turns out well for all of you.
2006-07-11 15:39:34
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answered by roo 2
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Gee, kind of wished you'd talked with your Dad beforehand now, dontcha?
But it's too late for that now.
Be a man. Do the right thing and support the girl.
It will impress your Dad better than cowering and running away from your responsibilities.
2006-07-11 15:02:31
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answered by J.D. 6
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Mate I was in exactly the same position 9months and a week ago! All worked out fine in the end! I have a beautiful daughter and my girls dad is over the moon too - jus gotta prove to him that your gonna be there for your girl and the baby!
2006-07-11 15:02:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Become a Responsible Parent
2006-07-11 15:02:01
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answered by me 7
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