He has said this for a couple of times now, should I worry? I mean I trust him A LOT. He is a great guy and I don't think he'll do such a thing and he has stopped saying it. What do you think?
Note: we've only been together for 2 weeks. I think he was joking though.
2006-07-11 14:25:23 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also he knows about my choice of abstinence!!
2006-07-11 14:26:56 · update #1
I smell trouble there...
Why do you tease them if you don't want to get into bed with them? Does it feel good, ha?
I bet!
I also liked to do this - they get totally mad, I loved it!
But I don't think it is a fair thing to do... stopped doing it after a while!
One thing is, that he gets totally frustrated... of course he probably won't rape you, since he is your boyfriend, right..... but still, after a while I'd get fed up with this gaming, if I was a male!
Is this the way you respect males? Then, why do you expect to be respected, if you don't respect them?
What if there was one teasing you all the time and never doing anything with you??? How would you feel?
:)))
Comm'on, don't tease him any more... go to the movies instead!
By the way, ever heard of the term "date rape"?
If not, google is your friend!
2006-07-11 23:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Rape isn't a word that should be tossed around so easily. Rape is a crime... rape is violence... rape is despicable... How old is your boyfriend 12 or something? Because it sounds like something a kid who doesn't know any better would say. If your boyfriend is of a fairly mature age... I wouldn't take this as a joke, but as some kind of warning. I'd get away from this boyfriends ASAP. Be careful
Oh also - If he is of age and he's threatening to rape you (even if he thinks hes joking) - contact the police - he just threatened you with violence file a complaint. That'll shut up the punk.
2006-07-11 14:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, he was "joking". But that kinda "joking" is the dangerous kind.
I'm a dude, and if I told a girl that, I would expect her to DROP ME LIKE A HOT ROCK (dump me).
He's probably trying to soften you up and get you accustomed to the idea of being raped, then he'll probably try it.
Solution: "If you say even ONE more threatining thing 'joking' or not, I'm dumping you and I might go to the police." That should be enough to snap him out of whatever he's in.
If he does so again, you MUST do what you said you'd do. Otherwise he will know you are a pushover and will rape you.
Sorry, it's the brutal truth - you asked.
2006-07-11 14:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heaven's sake, get away from this nut as soon as you can. Why would you trust him A LOT after only two weeks? Anyone who would say that to you, whether he meant it or not, has severe emotional problems and needs help that you cannot provide.
Stick to your guns and find a boyfriend who will respect your position on abstinence and not threaten you with violence.
Good luck!
2006-07-11 14:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not trust any guy who would say that, especially only a short 2 weeks. Break up with him, and find a boyfriend who RESPECTS you and your decision about abstinence and anything.
2006-07-11 14:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by chance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you don't risk it. He could have a serious personality disorder to say something as awful as that. Also, he has said it a couple times in two weeks? That is a bad sign. Get out now before you getr even more attatched to this guy.
2006-07-11 14:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by BeachBABE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from such monsters. He might be "nice" to you now, but such threats usually aren't left unheeded. If he thought about raping you and even said it... you know what Freud said:Every "mistake" is right...
If he doesn't understand you, why do you need him?
2006-07-11 14:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by bunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know your boyfriend and i dont know you but i will leave with a story to think about that i got from my myspace bulliten.
"I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Its wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe its was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry becuase he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave him, but i know he must be sorry, because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him I would not have gotten flowers today."
by the way i really respect your choice of abstinence i really hope this story means something to you
in all respect
your boy - joey
2006-07-11 14:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is ever considered to be funny. Even if he was "joking", if he is this comfortable to joke with you in this fashion, where are things going to be a year from now?
That is a pretty sick thing to joke about, and how sure are you that he was? Did you get shocked, then his response was "I'm kidding" but even so, to do it again?
Stay away from this guy. Break it off. Don't see him again.
2006-07-11 14:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe him. Raping you is in his mind. You cannot even know what kind of a person he is in two weeks, let alone trust him! Trust must be earned -- over a long period of time. You need to know that bad men know how to act in the beginning to get a young, inexperienced, virginal girl to put trust in him and let down her guard. Keep your self safe#1.
2006-07-11 14:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋