I think my husband is cheating?

Question

He is working overtime alot and says he probably wont be home untill ten or eleven which doesnt make sense with what he is doing. He says he is cleaning floors at the shop with the boss and the shop isn't very big. Also when he gets home from work he always wants to take a shower. He has also been dressing up alot more everytime we go out which he never did before. I have asked him about all of this before but he says hes not cheating and he gets all mad about it. He also used to have this 18 year old hair dresser that he always talked about and got mad at me because i didn't care to meet her. Do you think he is cheating on me?

Answer 1

I have found myself in a similar situation. Yes.. I think that they ( my husband and yours) are cheating. I cant even look into my husbands' cell phone, not to mention answer it.. I feel confused and angry...I think that we need proof thought before we do anything rash..Catch him in the act...drop by his job unannouced or just plain follow him for a day..I know this is spying and making us look as if we dont trust our mates..but hey, they are making us this way. Give him the benefit of the doubt but dont go into this with nievety...Happy spying private eye..

P.S Hiring a professional may seem costly but they can prove to be very effective..Pictures are worth a thousand of his words..

Answer 2

Probably yes, probably not.. from your descriptions of the changes in your hubby, sounds like he is seeing someone else behind you. No point quarrel or suspecting him without any concrete proofs coz he will never admit his affairs (if he really does) in front of you.

What I suggest that perhaps you can also have some changes in yourself, i.e dress up as well, try to have some silent war or cold shoulder to him for a cold period, you can also follow his footsteps by coming home at 11pm (but on occassionally). If he asks you why sudden changes in you so far, you may just replied to him saying that " It's my nature behaviour" and walk away from him.

He will feel something is asmiss in you and will start figure out what is happening in you. If he really doesn't have any extra-marital affairs, he will have a heart talk and will try to patch up with you.. but if he really does have affairs, to be honest with you, he will not bother of how you feel, what you do or sudden changes in you coz he has build up a new relationship with someone else already. However, it's just for the sake of your marriage vows between you and him which still reminds him that he is a married man.

Answer 3

Honey, I went through the same thing with my 1st marriage. I'm not saying that your man is cheating, but I called my X husbands' boss and was told that he had not been working overtime, so call his boss to make sure. That will give you an answer, not that he wont make up some kind of excuse, but trust your instinct.

Answer 4

Just ask the man, if you feel that he is cheating, it is better to find out from him than from your friends. On the other hand maybe he is just working, my brother works for a trucking company many of those shifts involve overtime, and when he comes home he showers before he even kisses his wife out of respect. It is also time for you to get out of your grind why don't you try doing something different, a suprise candle light dinner, his and her massages, a night at a fantasy suite find out what turns him on, he may just be bored.

Answer 5

Ummmm not sure.. time to be sneaky and covert.. when he says he's working late , go see if thats where he really is.. thats the only way your going to feel you can trust him is u see with your own eyes that he is where he says he's going to be, it sucks to feel you have to play such childish games , but if your really that worried then go see for yourself , hopefully u'll show up and he's really there.. then u can put your mind at ease a bit.. But atleast give him the benefit of the doubt.. and atleast get some kind of proof before just accusing him of actually cheating.. good luck, im really hoping he is where he says he is so u can relax..

Answer 6

Yeah, man will give a lot of excuses for coming home late when they started to cheat. Such as staying back for overtime, going out with some male friends for a drinks and a lot lot lies...... You know him best, if you have the guts feeling that he is telling lies about overtime, go to his workplace one day to find out if he telling the truth. You are his wife, you have the right to know if he is cheating on you.....

Answer 7

Oh girl yeah hes cheating all the signs are there sad thing about cheating is it makes the person whos being cheated on feel inadequate and whats a trip is that its rarely about that other person. Well now you know hes cheating the balls in your court what are you gonna do about it? Its all about what you can put up with.

Answer 8

i just found out 5 days ago my girlfriend of 5 years was cheating on me.it hurts so bad, so i completely know what your going through.you always cling to hope before you finally figure it out.
dont lose hope yet.there are a few things you can do.hire a p.i. .
turn off the water to your house so he cant take a shower.have a friend follow him.call his work and ask his boss.check his underwear, his phone his alibi's .maybe hes not cheating.maybe he is.the thing is YOU know him. usually when people suspect this, it is the case.

Answer 9

What does your gut instinct tell you? If I were you I would drop by the shop some night he is working late unannounced. If he's there as he says he is.....then no problem. If he's not, wait for him to come home and then ask him how everything was at the shop....if he lies....you caught him. I hope this helps!

Answer 10

With everything you described, I can see why you would be suspicious. Ever think about just checking on him? Next time he says he has to work late, call the shop, or drive by and see if his car is there. You have the right to know.