Teenage pregnancy - your opinions?

Question

Im a 16 yr old male and my ex girlfriend is 8 months pregnant, by me. What is everyones opinion on teenage pregnancies like this?

Answer 1

I can't believe some of these idiots on here. For the one that said the no sex until marriage comment: Not EVERYONE is an uptight, bible thumping fool. Here in America, we have something called freedom to worship. That means that we can choose to be religious or not to be religious. I don't see where these people get off saying the comments they are. They are just as bad as the people that make racial stereotypes. It IS possible to give your child a good life. It IS possible to still make something of yourself. It's harder I will give you that, but it's not impossible. I had my daughter when I was 18. She's the best thing to ever happen to my fiance(her father) and I. Just think, if you choose to go to college, you will get it paid for as long as you prove you are working to support your child. I feel people need to stop judging teen parents so much. It's not about someone's age, it's about their maturity level. If you are mature enough to give up your life and put a baby first, then I'm all for it. I'm going back to college next year, I've never received welfare. I always say, where there's a will, there's a way. If you truly want to do something in your life, don't let anything stop you. Another thing...people don't get that birth control isn't 100% effective. It's even less effective when a male has a high sperm ocunt or the woman taking it has a very high fertility rate.

Sorry to be rude; but about what Lori said, she murdered her own child. She has no right telling you that you won't be a good parent.

Answer 2

I feel like its not to judge. EVERYTHING happens for a reason, its the same as any other situation that gives you two choices. You can chose to learn from being a parent at a young age or hand the baby off to other people and prove that society is right about it. In my case, I learned alot and honestly speaking, if it werent for having my son I wouldnt get straight A's in school. He turned my life around in the most positive ways possible. Alot of people are quick to judge teen moms but they need to keep in mind that they are not ALL stupid and young and having their parents take care of the baby! I know Im a damn good mother, Im even a better one than some 40 yr old moms I know out there. So my point is, its not something that should be intentional, but if it happens, it happens and no one should judge anything about it! And whats funny is that alot of the people who are so quick to judge dont even know that their daughters, little sisters, little cousins etc. are capable of getting pregnant too and are out there having sex. Basically, they need to pay attention to whats going on at home instead of judging others, that time could be spent explaining the consequences of sex to their kids! Life is crazy at times :)
p.s. its also funny how people want to act surprised and shocked when these girls end up pregnant when they know that theyre out there having sex....where do you parents think babies come from? If its so horrible, talk to YOUR OWN kids!
And one more thing.....YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT TEEN MOMS YET, YOURE MAKING THIS BOY FEEL BAD AND MOST LIKELY SCARED ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED, IS THAT THE PARENT THING TO DO? I CAN UNDERSTAND IF HE WAS A GIRL ON HERE SAYING SHE WANTED TO HAVE A BABY OR HAVE SEX...BUT HE ALREADY HAS HER PREGNANT WHY MAKE HIM FEEL BAD? YOU GUYS ARE THE ONES THAT NEED HELP.

Answer 3

Well, children are having children. Your parents were not parents, or you would have been taught that sex before marriage is wrong----. What makes you think you can be parents since you have no good example of what a parent should be?. Do the right thing and give that baby up for adoption to people who actually have respect for the family unit. You and you girlfriend were obviously out for the good time----you didn't love her enough to marry her first, but you had enough disrespect for her and yourself to make her a whore and your child a bastard.

What an accomplishment.

Answer 4

tough break,dude. i hope u think about the baby's welfare as well as ur own. it's going to be hard to finish school but i'm sure u can do it if u put ur mind to it. look at it from all angles and seriously consider adoption that way at least all three of u will have a chance for a better life. whatever u do, don't get an abortion; u'll regret it for the rest of ur life. if u decide adoption is out, then don't let that baby grow up without a father; who knows he could be the best thing that ever happened to u. good luck and try not to let it happen again

Answer 5

You asked for an opinion, so as a mother of 3 (including 2 teen girls) and as a woman who chose an abortion at 19, I will say that the two of you have been irresponsible and incredibly foolish and selfish.

A baby deserves two parents that are ready to take on the challenges of parenthood, and that means already living a successful life as adults.

Babies are time consuming and expensive. They are more than maintenance. They will require your attention and for both of you to actively teach them what they will need to eventually be successful and productive adults. Love is not enough.

Babies born of teen parents are often neglected. I don't mean unfed. What I mean is that their developmental needs are not met. They have parents that don't understand the important to reading to them every day, or being there to tuck them into bed most nights. They have parents that are often unwilling to give up a night with "the gang" because they just want mom and/or dad around.

They have parents that don't get the importance of getting to bed early enough to get enough sleep to do well in school, or that even value the importance of making sure they don't miss school. Teen parents don't understand how to get involved with the school to help insure their child's success.

Teen parents don't get nutrition and why giving your baby, toddler or preschooler McDonald's or soda is a really, really bad thing.

Teen parents are too busy learning how to be adults, because they didn't get that chance before they became parents; and becoming a parent in some respects will make you grow up faster, and in other respects keep you from getting there on time.

IF the two of you love your baby, and I do mean TRULY love your baby and want the very best for it, you will give serious consideration to putting it up for adoption. These days birth parents can choose the actual couple and maintain a relationship and place in the baby's life.

It is the most loving gift you can give a child you are not yet ready to provide properly for, AND it would be a gift for the two of you too, because you could go back to concentrating on being kids yourself, and both enjoy what's left of your youth, and begin to set in motion the steps you will need to walk to reach adulthood and build decent lives for yourselves.

At that point, you will be ready to be parents, but not now.

You would only be royally screwing over the baby.

Trust me on that one.

Answer 6

total irrisponsiblity as most teens want the fun, but not the effects from it. you are legally responsible for the child and will have to take care of it the rest of your life. i've seen to many children having children without protection. the child suffers in the long run as trying to get any decent education and bringing the child up into poverty. there are many people who want to adopt that can afford a child and give the child a good home, life and love.

Answer 7

Well i know were your comin from on this on I just turned 17 and I'm 9 months preg. everything will work out for you trust me once you get to hold your baby and see its lil face it will all be worth it. I'm really glad you guys didnt abort it though thats showin that your not like these lil boys who make their g/fs have abortions. and Im really proud of you for stickin around. Best of luck Keep in touch. By the way what are u having?

Answer 8

I don't think kids should have kids. Why rush into being an adult? You have so much time ahead of you to do that, and so little time to be young and free. How is it possible that a teenager can teach a young child lessons if they themselves have yet to learn them?

Answer 9

I think teen pregnancy is completely irresponsable, and that you should be responsible enough to use protection even if you are a fool enough to have sex as a teenager.

Answer 10

Sounds pretty stupid.

There's the "parenting" angle. Will either of you have the time, patience, and maturity to raise a child?

What about financially? Money can't buy happiness, but it sure makes things less miserable.