how do i know if he's cheating on me?

Question

im 13 weeks pregnant and after many thoughts and talks we hav decided 2 keep the baby and stay together, but one thing is nagging me, we lived together for 8 months untill we decided 2 move out as we could not afford our own place so i moved bk 2 my mum's and him 2 his mum's (that was 2 months ago) ever since then he keeps taking his phone everywhere with him, if he moves 2 a different room, if he goes for a wee im never left with it like i used be, also he has not wanted 2 spend a lot of time with me like before, he accidentally left his phone at mine the other day for a bit before he came bk for it while i had it i look thru his txt's an there were loads from this girl who i hate she is a tart who will sleep with anyone and everyone and i no she likes my fella as one txt said 'hey babes aint seen ya in a while miss ya oh an thought u shud no i really like u' i have no idea what to think do or say i ask him an he says im the only one for him i wanna belive him but dont no if i can.

just to say im his first proper relationship, but im wondering if its me being paranoid as my previous 2 relationships ended with him cheating on me, i really really wanna believe him when he says he hasnt done anything but its so hard when he is being this way with me taking me home early an going to the pub without me, he says hes tired so i have to go home early but then he goes down the pub after taking me home his excuse is 'well ur pregnant u cant go to the pub' i dont think he realises how much it upsets me as im only pregnant not ill an i can go to the pub an have a coke an not drink

Answer 1

Tell him to be honest with you and himself. If he doesn't want to be with you, let you know so you can move on and make a life for you and your baby. No use staying somewhere that you are not happy...it's not productive to bring a child into that life! You don't need a man, you can do it on your own!

Answer 2

In my experience, when somebody has significant hunches about an unfaithful partner, the overwhelming probability is that they are right. One of the easiest ways to determine the probability is to assess that person's past. Have they cheated before? Look at how his or her last relationship ended. Did it end by cheating? Behaviors may often, though not always, repeat. Certainly you should feel comfortable asking about these issues. An open line of trust and communication is extremely important. From these discussions, evaluate how much you trust and want this relationship

Answer 3

I think that you should just sit and watch what he does.Dont say anything to him because if he is cheating hel be careful that u dont find out. When he doesnt want to spend time with you act like you dont care...I kno its going to be hard but you just gotta do what u do and let everything revolve. The truth always comes out. If he is cheating on you there really isnt a certain way to tell cuz there could be explainations for everything... If u have already talked to him about the way you feel then just wait like i said....Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Honey in case you've already got data he's dishonest ("So i imagine my bf is dishonest doing the web difficulty I do have data, yet he hides his "cookies" temp archives that ought to hint what you're doing on-line.. ") why ought to you prefer to proceed torturing your self searching for extra data? in simple terms kick him to the lower noone benefits to be cheated on. i recognize its a lot less complicated reported than finished because i'm certain you adore him, yet love your self extra. No guy is ever nicely worth your tears.

Answer 5

mika had the best answer, just tell him point blank, if you prefer this other girl then go and lets get on with our lives, its not fare to you, nor would it be fare to your child when its born, to have fighting going on in the family, and no love, theres pleanty of men out there that would be proud to be with a pregnant women or a women with a child, and help raise them as one of there own, dont take the crap girl, if you find the messages on the phone, hes fooling around, get rid of it while the goings good

Answer 6

oh sweetie your in a bad position, you need to sit down with your man and ask him straight up whats going on, why are you always concerned about your phone, and why cant we spend time with each other anymore, ask him is this how its going to be when your baby is born, is he always going to keep running out and on the phone, what ever you do save the phone thing what you did reading his texting for last becuz if you ask him right away hes just goign to get mad, and possibl hit you if he gets mad enough for going through his personal belongings you know but just save that for last and ask him whats going on if he's gonna be your baby's daddy then he needs to step up and start acting like it

Answer 7

one way is when you have sex with him see how much sperm his is producing if after you have sex with him and only just a little sperm comes maybe he jacked off earlier that morning or shot his load in another women that one way but not to precise or when he leaves follow him or if you call him and he says he is someplace go to that place and see if he is there or you could hire a private detective proably cost about 300 dollars and he will get pictures and so you where he been going

Answer 8

you have to go with your gut. There is no way to know for sure, but if you do not trust him than maybe you are not ment to be with him. Even if she is a tart and wil sleep with anyone you have to trust him to not allow that to happen. Good luck!!

Answer 9

always follow your first mind theres no reason why you can't go to the pub with him unless there is a another gurl and if you already know she likes him and he knows she likes him than he shouldn't be entertaining her when he knows he has a gurl and she is pregnant there's no reason y he should still be talking to her

Answer 10

If you already dont or cant trust him your setting yourself up for a lot of pain down the road.