Would it be considered cheating if your husband was talking to women online and they sent him naked pictures? I'm talking about real people.
2006-07-11 11:20:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way I found out about it is that I asked him if I could use the computer and he said yeah and he forgot to sign out of Yahoo Mail and I went to check mine and his popped up and there was a picture of a girl's vagina with her finger in. Sorry but I don't know exactly how i'm supposed to say it. Then I noticed that he replied to the mail. I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted him yet. Also at work he works on computers all day and he installed windows messenger on his computer at work and he had some mails from some girl he was talking to on there. I don't like to snoop around but I feel that I did the right thing. Plus on top of all this, i'm 7 weeks pregnant with our first child and I have bad morning sickness that lasts all day and I haven't been able to cook and clean as much as I used to. Do you think that has something to do with it? Thank all of you for your answers.
2006-07-11 11:54:07 · update #1
First of all, try to keep calm. Take only a few deep breaths when the panic rises otherwise you'lll hyperventilate.
Second, all is not lost. It is up to you. Yes, this is a form of cheating. But, whether intentional or not, he left it to be found by you so you can take it that he wants help. He probably is going thru a crisis because of the baby (I don't remember if you said it was your first-if so then oh yeah). You can approach him (best with a printed copy)-try to remain as calm as you can-and let him explain. Go from there-see what happens-he may have just been needing a crisis to finish his growth into his new self.
In my case, I am my husbands 2nd wife so he had some undiscovered issues about being married that began shortly after we tied the knot. Don't get me wrong - the road back takes years. To be frank, it will be about whether he will put in the effort to regain your trust. I am lucky, mine did.
2006-07-11 12:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would say it was a huge BETRATAL probably leading to cheating. I don't believe it's healthy to be jealous if men have friends that are women and visa versa but it is also not healthy for a relationship to have inappropriate conversations with people (which this must have been) leading to naked pictures. You need to put your foot down with this before you need to ask another question on here about what to do because your husbands now cheating... Good Luck!
2006-07-11 18:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you could really consider it cheating, because it's not like he is kissing her or anything like that. If I were you I would talk to him and tell him that you don't like him talking to those women and all of that other stuff. Just tell him this, baby I love you so much and I wouldn't ever do anything like this to you, so why are you doing this to me. I am so afraid of loosing you to these women that I don't even know, but if you don't stop talking to them then I'll have to break up with you, I can't deal with this pain anymore.
2006-07-11 18:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband if he would mind men sending you naked pictures of themselves. He sounds a little bit of a looser if he has to go looking on the internet for thrills. Tell you what why dont I visit you and show you how a real man treats his woman, see how the wimp likes that.
2006-07-11 18:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes without a doubt he is cheating. I feel the definition of cheating is lusting over another person that is obtainable. Not lusting of stars. If she is alive on the computer talking she is obtainable.
2006-07-11 18:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider the facts. he sleeps with you, and as long as he isn't meeting them face to face whats a little fun. or you could flip the scipt and talk to a guy on line and see how he feels. when he questions you let him know that exactly what he is feeling is how you felt but in your case there were no naked pics.
2006-07-11 18:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by shawn s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend at work. Her husband was doing that, one thing leads to another. He physically cheated with someone. They are now divoriced. Yes it is cheating.
2006-07-11 18:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like it's cheating? It's wrong, that's for sure. You need to confront him about it. It's not something I would end my marriage for. Talk to him about it and take it from there.
2006-07-11 19:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either he isn't telling them he is married or the women don't care. He isn't showing good judgement by staying in contact with these women. Why does he feel he has to???
2006-07-11 18:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends, is it numerous girls - or just one or two he really is emotionally involved with?
Is it more than pictures? Is it chatting for long periods of time?
Sounds like he has a porn addiction and it should be addressed.
2006-07-11 18:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋