Too Young For Sex?

Question

For starters I'm 16 years old. I'm on the Birth Control Patch. My boyfriend and I have been thinkin about having sex soon. He has condoms and I have my patch. Will I get pregnant? And whats up with this poppin the cherry? Will I really bleed? Im unsure. Can you help me out? Thanks.

Answer 1

Too young. There are emotional consequences here you do not understand yet. There may be health and financial consequences you will be very sorry about.

If you won't let yourself be talked out of it - then good luck I guess. If you can manage to take a longer view, you really will be happier waiting.

And you can get pregnant no matter how many precautions you take. It's quite unlikely, but that won't comfort you when you see the little line.

Answer 2

Age is not really the issue. No one can truly answer this question except you. You sound like you have thought this through with the birth control, which is a mature action. But even if you are old enough, and you body is physically ready, and you have taken the right precautions, it doesnt mean you are ready. The question shouldnt be, am I old enough, but are you ready emotionally. This is a life long committment, you only have your virginity once. And you can not get it back once it is gone. Are you in a serious relationship with your boyfriend, is he the one you want to give yourself to for the first time, and if you do, will you regret it later? Are you ready for the possibility of pregnancy? Wearing the patch and using condoms will probably prevent pregnancy, but yes, there is always that small chance that you could end up pregnant. These are all things you need to consider first. If you are not sure, then dont do it, there is nothing wrong with waiting. You want your first time to be special, not something you will regret later. If you have considered all this, and still want to, then I would say, yes, you are ready. Everyone is different, and the decision of when is totally up to you.
As far as "poppin the cherry", there is a very thin layer of skin covering the vaginal opening. When penetrated for the first time, this layer of skin is broken. But it doesnt always happen through sex. COuld happen using tampons, being active, playing sports, riding bikes, horses, ect. Yes, usually there is some bleeding when this happens. Some bleed more than others, some not at all. Also, it depends on your partner. If he is really slow and easy the first time, it doesnt have to be painful, or extremely bloody. Though usually the first time is not pleasurable for any girl, it doesnt mean that it has to hurt either. And it does get better, lol. Anyway, I hope this helps. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

Answer 3

Girls have a "cover" over their vagina that is referred to as a "cherry," and when you break that cover, it bleeds. Some girls break it when they start using tampons, and don't notice the additional blood. Other bleed when they have sex for the first time. Generally though, the term is referred to losing your virginity, blood or not.

I was 16 and wish I had waited til 18 for more maturity, but the #'s don't matter as much as the relationship you have with your boyfriend and feelings (in my opinion). If you had sex now, and he broke up with you by the time school starts, would you regret the sex? You might want to wait if you think you'd regret it later. There is nothing wrong with waiting (something I wish someone had told me!) and there is a lot LESS sex going on than you may think.

Also, for some reason boys really change once they have sex, and you have no idea what to expect from them afterwords. Sometimes it can be good, other times it can be bad, it depends on your guy.

Answer 4

You will bleed, not much but it will hurt the first time. I know it sounds old fashioned but voice of experience says wait for marraige. And that shouldn't be for about nine years. Live on your own for a minimum of six months before considering marraige. You can only give you first time to one person. Don't let hormones get away from you. Be sure you do talk about kids because accedents still happen. How would you raise them? In church or not? which church? How would you punish them or not? How do the two of you handle finances?Slow down. I'm 37 and if I could start from 16 again I certainly wouldn't be giving myself to anyone any time soon. lol

Answer 5

i personaly think your to young i was 18 and i regretted it. you can still get pregnant on the patch and condoms if its not properly used. and about the cherry its really forskin protecting you and yes you will bleed. you can bleed between a week or two. and be prepared for extremely bad pain. just make sure what you deside is your choice and dont be pressured.

Answer 6

Honey, if you're on the patch at 16, I assume one of your parents assisted you to get the patch. Maybe you should talk to them about your question. I'm sure their feeling would be hurt to know you were asking advice about this subject from a world of complete strangers instead of from them. If they're open enough to do the patch for you, I'm sure they will listen to your worries and concerns about sex.

Answer 7

Well, 16 is young but if you two feel you are prepared, then good luck.

Popping the cherry refers to the hymen, first time during intercourse through penetration, your hyman will break and blood will flow, it isn't major but it will happen.

Condoms and birth control should be enough not to get pregnant but make sure everything is covered and you two should have fun.

Good luck and enjoy!!!

Answer 8

It is possible for you to get pregnant.....birth control is not 100% effective. I got pregnant at 20 with my oldest daughter while on the pill, my boyfriend at the time (he later became my husband for a brief time)used condoms and we also used the spermicedal foam stuff.

Answer 9

Pain and bleeding are the least of your worries. Probably not too bad. It is my feeling you are only ready for sex, when you are ready and able to take care of yourself, make a living for yourself, and have discussed the situation with your parents in an adult manner. Being adult in your thinking and emotions are more important than the physical aspects of sex.

Answer 10

yes ure too young 4 sex the age you should be is mostly 18 and after ure married