PLEASE HELP! How do I become less self-concious and get more self-esteem?

Question

I really think I'm ugly but a lot of people, even strangers say that I'm pretty.
And I'm not that comfortable in my bathing suit or just going out when all my friends are shorter and skinnier than me. (im not fat).
So I think there's something wrong with me. But I want to be less shy, have more self-esteem...everything.

So please help!

How can I be less shy so I can talk to boys and not be afraid or something?

How can I be less self-concious?

How can I get more self-esteem?


THANK YOU!

Answer 1

Take an acting class. It worked for me.

Answer 2

I used to think i was ugly but my friends always told me i was pretty and guys(even some a couple yrs older) hit on me alot, and guys i liked said i was kinda cute, which was eventually why i started thinking i was pretty.
Almost all of my friends are shorter and skinnier than me, and if you think about it, it might you think more of your self; you grew faster than they did which means you mature faster you eat better or more than they do and stay skinny.
I also used to feel self-conscious in my swim-suit also, but i finally figured out that it was a real waste of time.
You can be less self-conscious by having fun; if you are having fun it will have nothing to do wit how you look, which means you can be happy disregarding what others think of you. I sorta kinda/ used to blush when i was around the guy i like, but i met guys i thought were hot, had a good time wit em and didn't blush, so just don't think about it and have fun, you'll eventually get over your self-consciousness little by little.

Answer 3

This is a problem that so many people have had. I have, i went through anorexia, because of all this. You need to learn to not care, like yourself begin to think about how God made you in his image, that should put a smile on your face right there. Just tell yourself that your pretty, don't worry about becoming cocky there's a huge difference between cocky and confident. And you want to be confident. Also don't let anything others might say to you bring you down. Your an amazing person and God loves you. Good luck with everything. I hope I helped.

Answer 4

You are self conscious because your parents have filled your mind with negative thoughts. Go see a psychotherapist. If you can't afford one, go to the library and read up on the topic. You'll have high self esteem once you rid your mind of the negativity. Start carrying around a small notebook. Every time a negative though occurs write it down. In about a week, you'll have plenty to work on. Just start arguing with your negative thoughts just the way you did in your question.

Answer 5

Start trying not to be so hard on yourself. No one is perfect, we all have something that we don't like about ourselves but that doesn't make us less than anyone else. Sometimes it's not that we are not beautiful, we are just very critical of ourselves. You are beautiful so start accepting those compliments with confidence. Think positively about your physical image and enjoy the attention you'll receive when people see that you are confident. You are not less than anyone, be proud of who you are. Diversity is the spice of life, enjoy your contribution and be happy you are who you are.

Answer 6

Start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself, "I love you." Practice this until you feel comfortable peering into your own eyes while saying it. Sounds easy but it is really hard.

Then practice adding positive affirmations to your " I love you".... I love your pretty brown eyes, I love my beautiful (pink, red, brown) lips, etc. When you begin to feel comfortable with the things that you like about yourself, the things that you don't like won't matter.

Answer 7

I know how u feel, I had the same problem.
I started doing martial arts and it made a huge difference in my life, I started to feel better about my appearance and I wasn't shy anymore, especially with guys. next thing I knew I was dating lots of really cute guys and made toz of friends.
no joke.
you should try it.
or maybe you should try doing some kind of sport.
good luck keep your head up.

Answer 8

i know its hard, i go thru the same thing...but its best to not care and see what happens...if u forget about ur worries for awhile u become more comfotable than before. hope u can over come this ^_^

Answer 9

you sound like you have alot of friends who care about you.
just listen to them.
if they think you are pretty then i bet you are.
i dont know if anyone would lie to you about that.
just listen to your heart.
and listen to you peers.
your friends will always be there for you..if they are a real friend they wont lie to you.

Answer 10

just think about all ur good quality's and be ur self if ur shy u cant instantaneously be outgoing focus on ur strengths