why does fat ppl feel the lack of self confidence?even if they r beautiful & sexy?why do u ppl judge by looks?

Question

i feel bad 4 my friend...i care for her alot

Answer 1

I think one of the major contributing factors to why overweight people continue to feel bad about the way they look is because society tells them that the way they look is wrong/bad/ugly/etc. In reality, weight doesn't have to be a factor in how beautiful someone can be. Someone truly can be beautiful on the inside.

Self confidence is something that is hard to build in people who lack it. Start small with your friend. I think some kind of daily affirmation system might be a good start. I have heard good things about it.

As far as why people judge others based on the way they look, the simplest answer I can give you is that it is merely human nature to do so. It is hard to go against that. It is hard for people to look beyond what they see on the outside and see more than what their eyes can tell them.

Answer 2

not everyone judges by looks, but it has alot to do with the preconceived notion that more petite people are more desireable, this is mostly due to the media. that is the what everyone has in common, most everyone watches t.v. and is coarsed into thinking the way to look is smaller. On another note though i was huge while i was pregnant, and got hit on quite often, so i guess it just depends on the state of mind of the person doing the judging. hope your friend understands that she is more beautiful than she thinks and that if other people can't see it, then she is hanging around with the wrong people or they are really shallow if they say otherwise.

Answer 3

A weird observation I've had ... the fatter they are, the more guys they get. I think too many guys don't go for the beautiful types because the guy has low-self esteem, and so this prompts him to ask the other girl out . Sadly, even though the fat ppl get more guy's and hitched quicker, they often have to struggle with their own insecurities as well as the guy with low-self esteem ... but, often this is a healthy match were the couple heal each others wounds ... which is beautiful, 'cas when wounds are cured, well this is "Amore" .

Answer 4

Physical attractiveness is the trump card in evolution. Being unhealthy (fat) is not what I would want as the mother of my child. The sterotypes that come with fat people are worse than actually being fat.
Fatties are classified as Lazy, depressed, self pitying, excuse making, slackers, etc.

I hope you understand this. If these sterotypes do not apply, than great. Losr some weight and people will be attracted to her more.

sorry for the bad news

BP

Answer 5

From my vantage point it seems like a female tendency (at least in modern America) to equate how much someone weighs with how much value they have in general. The tendency is also their in males, but it doesn't seem to weigh as much as other factors (wealth, health, fame, etc.).

For example, when I call my mom to ask how she's doing she gives me a numerical response ("Oh, I started this month at 245, but now I'm down to 240, so I guess things are going well."). Even if my mom's case is an extreme, it's still exemplary of what's going on in American society. This type of thinking can fuel certain eating disorders like anorexia and bulemia. People may diet, not because they're concerned about their health, but about their self-esteem or social prestige.

Many cultures throughout history have valued fatness as a sign of wealth (i.e. wealthier people can afford to eat more). This indicates to me that a concern for one's weight is more of a cultural phenomenon than a fixed part of humanity.

The answer to your question is PEER PRESSURE, therefore, the solution to your question is ENCOURAGEMENT. Give her a regular dose of compliments--both physical compliments and other types of compliments. Is she smart? fun to be with? a caring person? Help her value herself in a variety of ways--not just physically. This doesn't mean that you have to ignore the physical part. Health and self-discipline, not weight, should be the goal of her efforts with regard to her body.

Thank God for the many wonderful and beautiful big women in the world!

Answer 6

American media is the only responsible for some normal people feeling fat and worthless.
Now, that feeling can really turn a normal person into an obese sick one.

Answer 7

I agree. People of all colours, shapes and sizes are beautiful. I am no Cindy Crawford but I am happy with my size. Why should I loose weight just to live up to society's standards? If someone wants to be skinny, then that's fine, but if someone is happy and confident with their current body weight, then good for them!

Answer 8

I agree. i do not even worry to respond to that type of question any extra, because i opt to be straightforward, yet mutually, i do not opt to break anybody's thoughts. the folk who ask those questions are both very insecure, or they are very boastful and want affirmation of their perceived good seems. In a way, a number of them are exhibitionists and are fishing for compliments. i am going to assert one element for them--it takes distinct nerve to ask, "Am I fantastically?"

Answer 9

Usually no body will yield at a supermodel
"Hey bone bag"

but people yield d nasty thing at obese people, and usually those who does it are few pound over weigh, we skinny people don´t do it.

is more like a phobia to been fat consider by them, as ugly and unaesthetic.

i will say a like those love handles in my girlfriend

Answer 10

I would only offer this, for me the sexiest woman in the room is always the most confident one regardless of what she looks like.