She didn't even let him speak to his daughter now 9 for over three and a half years, and now that she's without a man she's suddenly wanting to talk all the time for hours saying his daughter wanted to call when the daughter hardly even gets on the phone at all!
2006-07-11 10:13:42 · 23 answers · asked by mzsuzie93 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him how you honestly feel about everything because you don't want to be drawn into his psychodrama. When you tell him how upset or sad you feel, see if he makes an attempt to change what is happening. Then you will know if you have a "good guy" or a bad one.
2006-07-11 10:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ivy C 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You have a problem Suzi!!! If this man is trustworthy, then let it go...he knows what he has and what he left behind. I would talk to him about talking to the ex though. He can talk to his child by phone ANY TIME HE WANTS and there is nothing she can legally do about it as long as he is current on his child support. You have a good legal issue too, she kept him away for 3 years from the child. He can remedy that situation by getting his visitation set up and leaving the mother out of their relationship (father/daughter). Whatever you do DON'T act jealous. If you are get some help. The mother is the past. Your man is smart enough to know what she is up to, and it's alright to express your feelings and opinion, but don't harp to him about it. Is he having a good time talking to her on the phone? That may be a warning sign. Try not to stress it so much. He is the one that needs to be insistent on talking to his baby and not her mother!!!! Good luck honey. Nana
2006-07-11 17:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just act like the bigger and better woman. I mean what can you do? Long as you have trust in your man and she don't outright disrespect you, things should be alright. Also let your man know the deal about how you feel, and he don't need to spending hours on the phone. Even if it means hanging up on her. Especially if the daughter hardly gets on at all.
2006-07-11 17:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lex J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, they have every right to speak to each other about their daughter. That doesn't concern you. However, there should definetly be some limits there. He's only wanting to have something to do with his daughter, and like a lot of cases where the other parent is vindictive, sometimes you gotta kiss *** to do that. You should tell him how you feel and give him a chance to respond on why he's acting like he is. Good luck.
2006-07-11 17:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl there is nothing you can do about a stupid baby mama, I know because I am dealing with the same bull crap. Like I told my man you better man up or I am out because I am not dealing with this crap. He needs to get her under control and if he is not willing to do that then he is not the one for you.
2006-07-11 17:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him handle that. If you try to interfere his baby momma will use that against you. Def let him know how you feel and why you are concerned and trust him to use that information to help.
You do need to remember, however, that it is his daughter and at some point that was his family, so it wont be easy for him. Allow him time and be patient, if things are meant to work out, they will...
2006-07-11 17:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see thats why u never deal with a guy who has a baby mama cuz they baby mama will always be there. But u should tell her that she's been gone for years and that it s hould stay like that and stop trting to get into ur man's life and ya'll two alone
2006-07-11 17:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by daffy.8701 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to HIM to handle the situation and you need to stay the hell out of it.
He's the one that got her pregnant
He's the one that has a daughter with her
He's the one that is on the phone with her
There's nothing wrong with telling him how you feel about the phone calls and that if he's talking to his daughter fine but talking to her shouldn't take more than 5 - 10 minutes.
But you need to not talk to HER about it and stay clear. It's not your mess to clean up it's HIS and he needs to take responsibility for it.
2006-07-11 17:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check him first. Tell him how you feel there must be something there if he is talking to her on the phone for hours. You need to look at how long you have been with him to see if you need to jump ship or if he is willing to listen to your concerns and stop making you feel the way you are feeling now. Good luck!
2006-07-11 17:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by amber m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to you to handle his child's mother...it's up to him. How he deals with it will tell you a lot about how he feels about the baby's mother, the child, and the relationship between the two of you.
If it bothers you, talk to him about it. Without communication, you don't have much to build a relationship on.
2006-07-11 17:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋