husband very understanding, and know he would love me to do but just cant seem to be able to. any tips from anyone .
2006-07-11 10:04:45 · 17 answers · asked by shirls m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what part of oral sex puts you off,there are a number of ways to perform this most intimate and loving act you dont always have to go at it like you hate eating bananas!!try doing things slowly first touching and lightly kissing around the area first and getting used to the idea of being down there.Listen to the response of your partner you now have all the power and you only need to do what you want to do dont be forced into it work with him over a number of sessions try to make it fun add tastes to it chocolate ice cream even ice cubes it is one of the most perfect acts between partners and your relationship can only get better and stronger by giving and receiving but if you cant bring yourself to perform it dont let him force or blackmail you into it best of luck ps by the way i am married and male
2006-07-11 10:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by jab6361 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you should do is try to evaluate why you do not like giving it? Is it smelly? Do you think the site of a penis is gross? Are you afraid you won't do well? There are lots of reasons, and if you had one maybe I could be more specific, but hopefully some of my advice will help.
I like giving oral sex even more than I like receiving it. It is fun to think it is really sexy, and knowing my husband enjoys himself brings me pleasure. Building it up in your mind is important. Pump yourself up and think you are going to give the most amazing BJ ever! Even if it isn't, it will be fun. Try different positions and places (Him standing, in a chair, road head) Also, it is important to realize that all sex is dirty. Yeah, balls get sweaty, so what? Sometimes you may get a hair and have to stop to pick it out. Have a since of humor about it all and relax. I figure anything that goes in my mouth from my husband can be washed right back out (excuse me if I am being too blunt.) The main thing is having fun, and you know what? Even if you never give him a bj, there may be other areas that you excel in. I'm the same way with certain things. Can't win them all I guess. Hope that helped some.
2006-07-11 17:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by wishing_i_could_sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use some tasty treats like whip cream or chocolate to help you get more into it. I used to not like it either but when I started to see how much he enjoyed and the control i had over it, it now is pleasurable for both. Start off slow and as foreplay so there won't be pressure to do it for a long time, use lots of lips around the tip
2006-07-11 17:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
showers before bed helps a lot in this case its amazing the difference being clean helps you try new things, try flavours like desert sauces (chocolate and strawberry work well if you like them) and ask girl friends their tip for doing it well as confidence helps a lot too, remember even thought you may start oral sex there are other ways of finishing the experience for him, use as foreplay and go from there a little at a time.
2006-07-11 17:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by PVRS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I think people forget is to START slow. Try playing with him. Maybe look at his crotch while stroking it. Then start small. Maybe just a few licks. Or start with just the head. It is important to do what u feel comfortable with. With him being understanding, he will enjoy it just because you are trying. Just take your time. Everything others have said....creams, condiments, and washing are also very important ideas and other options. Try some flavored massage oil that heats up....found at adult stores or online. Try www.adameve.com
Just relax and have fun with it.
2006-07-11 17:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by JFCHIRO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I give eachother oral sex pretty often. She has told me that it turns her on and it gets her hot when she is doing it to me. She doesn't do it for long, but just enough to count and show her affection. I love giving it to my wife I think more than she like receiving it. Not sure why.
Anyway, If you really want to try to do it then I think that shows you really care for your husband and want to please him. Try to turn it into as much of a turn on for you that it is for him. Eventually you might love doing it.
2006-07-11 18:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by D P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no hard and fast rule to intimate sex, if you are both enjoying what you are giving and receiving then continue. If you really want to try to pleasure him this way why not try it in the shower for the first time.
Give him a good lathering, rinse him off and just go for it, you never know until you try
2006-07-11 17:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by jane m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment with condiments...whip cream, chocolate..honey...or at least flavored creams specifically for this...it changes the mind set of what your doing without changing the sensation he will still receive.
2006-07-11 17:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he is understanding and will pleasure you. You need someone like me who would rather pleasure my wife orally than anything else. I don't care if she ever polishes my crank.
2006-07-11 17:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy giving my girl oral sex, but she is not overly keen on doing it to me. I don't worry as I enjoy thrilling her. But when she does, it is great. Try not to worry about it. If he loves you it wont matter.
2006-07-11 18:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋