We are planning to move and need the money for that instead of going to our son's army graduation. What do you think?
2006-07-11 09:25:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I THINK YOU WILL RESENT IT IF YOU DON'T GO AND HE WON'T FEEL THE SUPPORT. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THAT YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO GO AND SURPRISE HIM AND ACTUALLY GO AND SIT IN THE FRONT ROW AND CHEER FOR HIM REALLY LOUD!!! THAT WOULD BE A WONDERFUL THING AND IT WILL MAKE HIS DAY MORE MEMORABLE
2006-07-11 09:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking the time to consult others on what you should do, is an indication you're a good parent.
I realize you're having financial difficulties, and I'm sure your son realizes that as well. If you do go - the gesture would thus be twice as greatly appreciated. Considering you'd rather go out of budget than miss your son's graduation.
I'll be in boot camp soon, and I'd hate none being there when I graduate. I wouldn't consider it proof of not caring though. Especially if a tight budget was involved. Being a good parent is something you must have already proven (or not) in all the years that it took for your son to be in a boot camp graduation.
My answer is no, missing this occasion will not make you a bad parent, but actually going would make you an even better one.
Alternatively, if you don't go, consider giving a party, or a nice gift - to show that you're proud of his achievement and caring.
Good luck!
2006-07-11 09:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pavlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
laskid2k said it best so far... but I want to add my own thoughts:
I grew up in a poor family, and worked hard to earn scholarships and finally earned a commission. My mom came to my graduation and commissioning ceremony all the way from Florida to Illinois. On the other side of the coin, if she was moving and needed the money, I would have totally understood her need to stay. It's one of those special moments, but in reality you won't get to see your son much. If you go, you'll be lucky to see him at all, much less spend 10 minutes with him because he'll have a lot of stuff to do. That 10 minutes means a lot, but having a nice place to come home to visit is a LOT more important. :) Talk it over with him- It's only natural he'll be a bit disappointed, but knowing you'll be able to do more when he visits home is important too. A place to relax after basic is nice. :)
Ignore the military basher above- we do it not for whoever's in charge, but for the hope of making a positive difference in the world.
2006-07-11 09:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Falcon_01 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 09:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would beg, borrow or steal the money to go to my son's graduation if I were you. He may say that he's okay with you not going, but really it won't be okay. He will be SO disappointed even if he doesn't show that to you. This is his moment to shine and he wants to know you are there so he can see the pride on your faces, which will validate his accomplishment. HE NEEDS THAT and HE NEEDS YOU! Can you imagine how he'll feel when his buddies are being fussed over by their parents taking pictures and going on about how proud they are. Inevitably somebody is going to say, "Where are your parents?" to him. Please find a way to go!
2006-07-11 09:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't miss anything of my kids for anything.
Graduating from Army boot camp is very honorable and you might regret not going. Tell your son THANK YOU for serving his country. He is a special person in my eyes.
2006-07-11 09:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bad parent for raising a child dumb enough to join any military controlled by the idiot currently sitting in The White House
2006-07-11 09:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much the graduation means to him and how understanding he is. My parents didn't come to a lot of my stuff, but they did come to my graduation. They also didn't have to fly to it. I don't love them less, I just don't expect them to show up for much. If you can't afford it and you raised him right, he should understand. At least you care enough to ask us. You should ask him.
2006-07-11 09:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by laskid2k2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I graduated bootcamp, the one thing I wanted was one of my girlfriends to party with. Not to have sex specifically but to have somebody who could laugh with me using my language. If you know any friends that were close to him before he left ask them to go be with him. He will love you a lot more for your wisdom..
2006-07-11 09:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to explain that to him first and if he is ok with it then go ahead.
If not, well is your choice if u want to miss an important event (i think so) of ur son life, thats up to u.
2006-07-11 09:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Finy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once. Go to the graduation, or he will resent you more than he most probably already does.
2006-07-11 09:27:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋