parents,moms and dads,what would you do....?

Question

what would you do if a family member that you truely despise (for many good reasons) said to you,that they were family to YOUR kids and there was nothing you could do about it? like your wifes brother or your husbands sister,and that relative was in prison for lewd acts and molesting a minor child and there was alot of other BAD history with this person! what would you do if they actually had the nerve to tell you that your kids were their family and he/she could be around them as much as he/she wants?
and you told this scum to never call or write your house ever but he/she did it anyways?

Answer 1

I'd start cutting off body parts...

Answer 2

If there is cause for concern that he/she actually means harm for your kids, call the police and let them know you have reason to believe he's dangerous for your kids and ask how to get a restraining order in your area. If mistakes are past history and even though the two of you don't get along, but he has an honest desire to know his family, you might consider allowing supervised "visits" to let him see and talk to your kids, but where you are there to make sure that everything is okay and there is nothing to worry about, but when it comes to your kids, better safe than sorry, just let the kids know why you are concerned (even if it's a toned down version so young kids can understand).

Answer 3

Well, this person is correct, they ARE a family member to your kids, but that doesn't mean squat to the legal system. They have no rights whatsoever to your kids, to see them or play with them or anything. Sounds like someone is trying to intimidate you. If you need to, you can call your local police and have a restraining order against this relative, restricting him from any contact with your kids or your home. If he calls, hang up. If he writes inappropriate mail to you, save it for the police. Or, his parole/probation agent upon his release from prison.

Answer 4

I'm not a parent, but if i had kid's and someone said that to me I would tell them that if they attempt to try anything like that on my kid's I would kill them in the most painfull way i could think of, to show i was not bluffing I would get a few trusted friends and family members to break their arms and leg's, i would of course be in another town/city reporting a theft at the time. but that's just me, your probably better off reporting them to the police, if they are a convicted child molester the police should take it very seiriously, mabye try to set this person up, it could lead to a few more years added to their sentence

Answer 5

File a restraining order and purchase a machine gun with bullets, like Rambo. I would then move my sofa adjacent to the front door and aim. When he/she arrived, i'd be waiting. I say that with all sincerity. I would do that to save my child and I suggest you get agressive as well. Maybe not that drastic but you get the idea. Only you can protect your babies. Laws are jacked up right now and I hope you are not in FL. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Love the sinner, but not the sin. It sounds like your kids are to young to understand all of the details behind this sordid story, but don't teach them to judge. There is already too much of that in our world today. I too would not allow any communication between such an adult and my child and would take what legal actions that I could. I would also explain to my child that the particular individual was family, but that they had an illness that prevented them from interacting closer with your family. At such time that your kids have the skills to deal with this topic, then address it. But please don't make your bad feelings part of your children's psychological make-up.

Answer 7

I would do whatever it took to prevent them from being near my kids. I would call the police to file a complaint, because they have no business being around my kid and if they were in jail for that, they are likely on an order not to contact minors. If I had to I would change my number too, but I would keep any and all contact on record and notify the poilce to see if they can do anything; if not I would file for a pretection order against him.

Answer 8

Parents must protect their children from all dangers...including sexual predators that may unfortunately be in the same family. You restrict access of child seeing the relative and visa versa. If the relative begins stalking the child, I would have no problem getting the police involved. I mean...get real! family or not, you have a child that depends on his/her parents...and you have a person who shows sexual perversion towards them. This is a no-brainer...absolutely no contact.

Answer 9

Contact the prison and the warden can stop the mail and calls. Also if he is a convicted sex offender, He will have to register and when he wants tyo move into a neighborhood, you can reject it and they can make him move somewhere else. Also get a restraining order. If he breaks the order, he will go to prison for a very long time.

Answer 10

I would calmly explain to them that while they are family, I would appreciate it if they didn't have contact with my children because of their legal history. It would be calm, cool and collect up until they decide that its time to get rowdy, at which time, I handle my business like a man and put that sleazy piece of crap in the hospital or the morgue, where they belong.
My first priority is my child, step on that, then there's a problem.

Answer 11

Restraining Order

Notify your children's school so NOBODY can come there to see them or pick them up even if your children recognize them.

Notify any other place your children frequent (e.g. church, day care, etc.).

Nobody has the "right" to be around your children without your permission or consent. Family relationships are just biological facts and some of us would not choose to be around the people who just happen to share a blood line. That's preposterous.