Please dont tell me it is transference and it's normal and that I should discuss it with the therapist. I cant. I want you guys to give me advice from your experience. Thank you.
2006-07-11 09:04:33 · 9 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The Hippocratic Oath is for medical professionals, but her assessment is insightful.
The reason you don't want to recognize your strong feelings as normal or as transference is because a part of you doesn't want to give up on the romantic fantasy.
Indulging your romantic and sexual thoughts serves to distract you from looking at painful realities that brought you to therapy to begin with. Often the intensity of the crush matches the level of desperation a client has in NOT facing her issues.
You need to talk to your therapist about your feelings. You are afraid to lose your therapist, which is why you hesitate to bring up your feelings. That doesn't need to happen. Plus, as mentioned, it breaks you out of the fantasy and sets you squarely into reality again, with all its discomfort. Finally, you fear rejection in the form of your therapist setting boundaries and not going along with your fantasy. But he can help you through this if he's a respectful professional.
You will find that as you work through your problems, the crush feelings will go away or sharply decrease. This is a common occurence.
2006-07-11 09:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rewsna 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It became a terrible journey for you yet once ur in annother relationship and ignore about that express individual you'll comprehend you need to be at liberty back and under no circumstances all adult males are like that! you pick to socialize better! acquaintances help you alot. If someone asks you in case you understand this guy..you could tell them you both do not pick to discuss him or that you dont understand him...or you could tell them what occurred. you may have lengthy gone to the police about him yano! no longer some thing you probably did became incorrect...its what he did it is the issue. he's fortunate you didnt goto the police as you've been lower than age for any of that! ignore him and ask that prime college chum out!! x
2016-12-01 02:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by hashrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you are willing to open your eyes and see that that relationship will not go anywhere, you will get over it so fast that you will not believe you ever felt anything for this therapist.
Bear in mind that Therapist can also mean The Rapist.
2006-07-11 09:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by ND2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to fall for someone who is taking care of you. I always seem to have a thing for my chiropractors and dentists. Recognize it for the fact that humans feel the need to be taken care of; we're the most helpless creatures when we're born so it's natural to be attracted to one who will do good by us. Your feelings most likely stem from this instinct - it's natural. Just remember that if you ever "did" anything with him he could/would lose his medical licence. There's a reason for the Hippocratic Oath.
2006-07-11 09:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you have fallen in love with her is because you have opened up to her and she has accepted you for who you are. The problem is that she is paid to be accepting. You are only in love with the person you have paid her to be. So go out and pay a hooker to be that person.
2006-07-11 09:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Billy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are they married? I have fallen in love with my therapist, I just tried to forget about it.
2006-07-11 09:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Wonko 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, and find another therapist. This could only bring you more problems.
2006-07-11 09:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in other words you want us to tell you what you want to hear -
sorry dear I can't - discuss it with or change your therapists
2006-07-11 09:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see another therapist
2006-07-11 09:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋