Neither one of us is getting any younger. I know this is what i want. how can I get him serious about us i'm not going to keep waiting around. once i'm done with school (he has his diploma and I am going for 2 BS and a MS). I am supporting him to go to school and look towards our future. I am not perfect but, I know in my hearts of hearts we are perfect. My family loves him, his mom loves me why cant he see that. I dont want the games, I don't want to play hard to get. We flow that should be enough.
2006-07-11 08:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by jaminatab 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hell men are slow all together
2006-07-11 09:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by sexy mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a long time to be with each other, and at your age, supporting someone other than yourself, is a lot on your plate considering that you want to pursue a BS and a MS! (good for you, BTW)
By now, there shouldn't be any feelings of games, especially since you've been together for 6 years, not to mention he's 30 and you're 23! Men usually know when they are "ready" for marriage, and if he hasn't hinted or mentioned it yet, believe me, he's not ready to marry you now or in the future--BUT, that necessarily isn't a bad thing and can be a benefit to you, if you just stay patient..
Circumstances and situations WILL CHANGE once you attain your education. Your views, ideas, morals and values will change with that. I can promise you that. Don't marry him...you're just jeopardizing your future.
A real man doesn't need to be supported and looked after for, especially by someone 7 years younger than him. You'll realize when you're ready for the world and you're done with school that you'll want a real man, not a baby boy.
2006-07-11 16:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Trixi Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the very same problem with my girlfriend! I am 38 , and we have been going out for 6 years and she is 43. It is very hurtful, as I do have a medical problem and she has been really supportive like a wife! You're right he should commit but maybe he got a sour idea of marriage by his parents. (My brother didn't marry his wife of 20 years) but that's NO EXCUSE for him not to try to commit to what sounds like a sweet caring ( probably really pretty:o) woman! You deserve at least that! I don't understand other men( and I am one) when they have found the woman of their dreams, it's natural (at least for this guy) not to want to shower her with my commitment of marriage and love. And gifts lol. Leave him if he won't at least make a commitment to you. Good luck Hun, and God bless you I feel like we have a bond though we don't know each other Take care
You sound very ambitious
2006-07-11 16:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Matt M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how this will work, but if at all possible take a break from each other for a period of time. See if his viewpoint changes. That old saying about "letting love go to see if it will return to you" isn't a load of bull. You'll know whether he's serious at the end of the separation, or whether you are just a meal ticket.
2006-07-11 16:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready then he's not ready.
Let him know how you feel.
If you have a man that you jive a gel with don't think of giving it up for that reason.
If he's not going anywhere and your not going anywhere then just chill and let it be at peace the way it is for now.
You still young and the future is bright married to him or not.
Let him be in your life as is for now.
It may be year before he is ready.
Ride that good vibe. You have a good head on your shoulders and you just keep doing your thang and let it work itself out.
If you already let him know how you feel about the subject, trust me he heard ya.
2006-07-11 16:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he wants you and him to get done your education first. Educations, and Jobs all take time out of your life and make it hard to actually commit to a relationship. Why don't you worry about your education first before you worry about that...If he loves you he'll be there...Things don't just happen over night, it might take 6, 10, 15, 20 years until things are right for him. If you love him you'll stick it out or speak up about it...
2006-07-11 16:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, you are supporting him through school, not expecting him to give you a commitment...
Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free. I would support my husband through school, but not some low-life who won't even give me the respect of calling me wife after SIX YEARS! Wake up, honey. If he won't marry you now, it's because he is reserving the right to trade you in for a newer model when he doesn't need you to support him anymore.
2006-07-11 16:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you are saying this is all about what you want. not mentioning what he wants. maybe he likes things the way they are... besides just be glad you two are together why does it make a difference if you have rings or not or some piece of paper that says you are married. just leave things as they are and be happy with what is going on right now and stop pushing for the wedding if that is not what he wants ... just because it is what you want. does not mean that is what he wants
2006-07-11 16:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by cm2635 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go no further get his answer today, for maybe he is just hanging on for the support. Lay it on the table with an ultimatum and if he has none tell him to get one or lose his sorry ***.
2006-07-11 16:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by symarcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter. He obviously isn't ready. For whatever reasons he has, he's not ready for marriage. Don't play games, just honestly talk to him about your feelings and find out what he's really thinking.
2006-07-11 15:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Troy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes 30
I have been with my girl for six years 2
Im 32
still havent married her either
2006-07-11 15:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋