im pregnant but how can i tell my mom?

Question

im 2months pregnant and i havent told my mother cuz i dont kno how to..she always told me if i ever get pregnant she kick me out the house but i dont think she'll do it..but i dont kno im to young im only 15 turnin 16 to have a baby and i made a mistake and i wish i could go back but i cant and now i have to deal with tha Consequences..i need to tell her and i want to but im to scared of what she mite do or say..so how can i tell my mother that im pregnant??

Answer 1

Wow..I'm sorry, hon. That's a tough situation. I've never been in that particular situation, but I've been in situations that I needed to tell parents something that was really hard to tell them because I was scared of what they'd do. The best trick I learned was to just say, "Hey, Mom, I need to talk to you about something. Do you have time?" When she does have the time, sit down and tell her that you are so sorry, but you did something that you knew she didn't want you to do and you feel really bad for it and are scared. Now, this is where you'd have to alter things a bit, but just tell her that you really regret what you did and are scared and that you're pregnant and don't know what you should do and can she please help you? Also, it works to say that you'll accept whatever punishment she dishes out. Whether you like it or not, you went against her rules and therefore are subject to her punishments. Most of all, though, make sure you ask for her help. That's what really shows her that you're sorry and scared and confused. Hope everything works out for you, hon!

Answer 2

A mother's anger is like a wave and you have got to ride it. Just close your eyes and dive right in. Find the perfect time such as when you two are alone (mind you stay close to an exit) and tell her that you want to talk. When she asks what, you go on to explain that you have really screwed up and have no explanation as to what you were thinking when you did it....(do not tell her straight out yet)...tell her you hope that you can work past it because she is not going to like it, but you are at a point in your life where you need her badly - - - - at this point she will probably be frowning and looking scared all at the same time. Then say, Mom, I am pregnant - I don't what I was thinking? I wish I could take it back ......(you fill in the rest.) Never, Never, Never get hostile or defensive with her reaction. Just take it if she yells and screams, what ever she says i.e. "you are so irresponsible", "you are such an idiot" Just reply, I know mom, I really messed up, but I can't through this without you. If the arguement flares out of control just know it will calm down again. Just like a wave.

I know this only by making mistakes with my mother. (different situations) I would always bail out on her and disappear when all I had to do is face it head on and progress. We have great relationship since I realized that running or being to scared of confrontion was not the answer.

Your Mother is not going to kick her daughter and her unborn grandchild out in the streets, but you have got to deal with it. The longer you wait the worse it will be.

Answer 3

First off if you want to keep this child (and I hope you do) Go to the library or look up on the internet stuff on pregnancy, having a child and raising a child. Get informed. Find your mother when she is in a good mood and ask her to sit down. Tell her you need to talk to her, but ask her not to yell at you because you know what you did was wrong but there is nothing you can do about it now, and tell her you are pregnant. Share some of your information that you have learned and hopefully she will be supportive. If she kicks you out of the house, go down to your social service office and they will help you, if you don't want to do that, e-mail me, I will help.
I wish you the best of luck, honey remember accidents happen and though you are young god has given you a miracle for some reason and he will help you through. God Bless.

Answer 4

Let's just say that I have been in the same boat. I am now a grown women with two beautiful children. I had my first child when I was only fourteen years old, and gave her up for adoption. The bad part is I did not tell my mother until I was in labor. (Hard to believe, I know) Although I regret it now that I did not tell her. She could have been a big support person for me. Anyway if you need any help let me know. e-mail [e-mail]. There are many people out there that can help.

Answer 5

Hi Kiara,

I'm a young mum. My mam was gutted when she found I was expecting. We had our ups and downs, and a lot of tears. But at the end of the day she's your mum. She'll only get upset because she loves you and it wont seem like two minutes since you were her little girl.

It's important to tell your mum as early as possible, you need to support each other and help each other. My mam went nuts, now she has her first grandchild. You'll be surprised how supportive mums can be in situations like thus. Plus theres always outside services for guidance on how to deal with situations like this. People who've been in this situation an worked with young mums before who can offer you support outside of the family.

Answer 6

Wow you are in a predicament! Well I guess you have to first decide if you want to keep it, give it up for adoption, or consider termination. Your mom will love you no matter what. But you must consider very carefully what you want to do. It is a huge huge responsibility having and raising a child. You are responsible for raising another human being to be a caring, considerate, understanding and well rounded human being when it grows up. Out of all the jobs in the universe that is the most important even more important than running a country. Let me know how it goes. GOOD LUCK!! :)

Answer 7

When i was 17 i got pregnant and i was in the same shoes you are in right now,I know this is going to be hard on you but you need to sit her down and tell her.You know my mom already knew i was pregnant before i even told her.I think thats a mom thing.Here is my story.I was about 2 weeks late on my period and i told mom i was going to the health dep,Because i thought i had a kidney infection.She said ok.So anyways when i got up there and the test came back pos.the nurse looked at me and said yes you are pregnant. OGod i was in total shock.I didn't know what to do.I cried.The nurse gave me a paper it said that i was 5 weeks pregnant.My mom was outside when i got home she said well are you pregnant?I said yes and i handed her the paper.She said are you jokeing? Well you know what ?My daughter is now 8 years old.The point of my story is that everthing will be ok.If you need someone to talk to you can contact me and i will give you my e mail address. Good luck

Answer 8

you should truthfully tell your Mum , regardless of the very incontrovertible actuality that it will be puzzling . it will be a good theory to have her help and for her that ought to help you by ability of your decision making . a thanks to inform her ? perchance you should tell her head to head , yet take a help individual alongside too . As for abortions , as common because it sounds to get the technique and flow on there is so a lot extra to an abortion than that . many those who've had abortions struggle through from severe guilt or maybe melancholy . holding the toddler ought to also be puzzling , yet in case you keen to attain this , then having your mums help should be very effective . best of success , take care .

Answer 9

I say...you'll need some serious help!Ok,did you make sure u r pregnant?I hope so because if you're not and you tell her then she'll beat the hell out of you for having sex!OOO and don't be scared,tell your grandma first!Grandma's come in use because they can hit their children at any age!

Answer 10

Your mom will always love you no matter what. (I would hope so) And yes, shes going to show some emotion at the beginning, but she will get over it. Its better to tell now so that she knows and can support you. Don't wait till the last minute. AND DONT HAVE ANYMORE SEX JEEZ you make all the teens out there look bad...