My wife loves me deeply - no question abt that. But she is hardly ever interested in having sex with me (after the first 7-8 months). We are married for the past 18 months.
Any help will be much appreciated.
2006-07-11 08:50:55 · 40 answers · asked by life_is_rhythm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're going to have to ask her to find out for sure. But, if you can't do that, then here is a general suggestion.
In general, women don't feel much like having sex when their other needs are not being met. In other words, if she doesn't feel loved and appreciated, she's not going to feel horny. Give her affection and she'll want sex. Here are some suggestions.
Buy her some flowers. Tell you love her. Tell her that you're glad that she's your wife and that you're proud to be her husband. If there are some chores that belong to you that you haven't done, do them. Buy her something that she may have hinted about some time back. When she asks why, tell her that you remember that she commented on it.
If she mentions that her feet hurt, rub them. If she says she's tired, draw her a hot bath and light a couple of candles for her.
2006-07-11 08:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try different postions,women as well as men get tired of the same old s*** after awhile.
Try setting up a night where you can be totally alone with no chance of being distracted.Don't start the evening off with sex,make it romantic all the way through.Start off with a lovely dinner by candle light and then a bubble bath for the two of you to wash each other and get the mood going.Then go to the bedroom to cuddle for alittle bit.Oral is a great way to start,because it gets both parties very excited.Make sure your gentle and caress each other as you explore each others bodies.Go out to a porn shop and buy some massage oils and/or some glow in the dark body paints.
There are so many other ways to make your sex life wonderful and exciting,I just wanted to give you some ideas to get you thinking.If these things work for you then Great,if not then I wish you luck!
2006-07-11 09:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by tiger_lover_1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!!!!! You just asked the million dollar question...unfortunately I am in your wife's boat! I have not had a sex drive in over 6 years. It disappeared during my pregnancy with our last child and never came back. Over 6 years, multiple med tests and one exploratory surgery later, I still have no explanantion! Could be a multitude of things! my advice is start with marriage councelling. If nothing turns up that way then next I would hit the medical world and see if there is something going on that neither of you know about. After that,I don't know. But if you figure it out, let me know. Very first step I would take, though is try paying more attention to her and offering to do things with her that you might hate to do but she enjoys. Willingness to be part of HER specific life in that way might help. Even if you do not enjoy it, you WILL enjoy the response you get from her. It's all about compromise and giving, on both accounts.If you find the right answer, let me know!
2006-07-11 08:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a thought.. are you helping her out with day to day things around the house. I found my marriage extremely draining b/c once I got married I went from my single organized life to doing everything for an entire household. While I did the same things while I was single (laundry, groceries, etc.) I REALLY resented never getting any help from my hubby b/c he thought his only responsbility was to bring in the paycheck. He helped every now & then but I was always exhausted from work, cooking, cleaning, etc, certainly too tired for sex. (plus I lost some respect for him b/c he was a being a momma's boy). When I finally broke it down to him he started pulling his weight, I stopped being resentful and the fireworks came back! Good Luck.
2006-07-11 09:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by yadayadayada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her at the time you usually try to seduce her, but show attention in other ways, a gift, here some flowers here, also make sure to take any opportunity to touch her, not sexually but to hold hands, a foot rub whatever. But make sure you don't recommend sex make her ask and preferably beg for it. And if this does not work there's more than just sex wrong with this marriage.
2006-07-11 09:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Big T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ate only rice everyday for 7-8 months, I bet you might you might get tired of it and want something else? But if you could add some chickem & veggies in that rice, you may be more content to eat it. MMMM I'm getting hungry.
2006-07-11 08:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by coloklute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural. Sex, initially, is all about the novelty of the act. After that, it becomes a reaffirming act of commitment and bonding.
If you'd like more, make the first move. Don't be afraid to be direct. Also, don't be afraid to suggest something new (eg, a round of "strip poker") or silly (eg a round of "strip poker").
2006-07-11 09:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by William Fenst, Jr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my boyfriend tells me now that we've been together for 7 months that he doesn't have to have sex all the time like we used to because hes comfortable being with me and he doesn't need it all the time. Your wife probably feels the same or maby your not doing something to get her in the mood for sex. Do something to get her in the mood like when you did in the beginning she probably feels like all you want to do is just have sex and not make it intimate.
2006-07-11 09:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not cheating then she might just be going through a hard period in life or something! Girls can be confusing! lol! You should talk to her! Not question or doubt her....just talk calmly! don't make her feel like she's doing something wrong or HAS to have sex with you .......there has to be a reason and SHE is the only one who knows that reason....so ask!
2006-07-11 08:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did something change? Is she working more or does she seem less happy? These things really effect the sex drive. Try talking to her, she might be willing to let you in on whats up.
2006-07-11 08:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Justbeingme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋