My husband and I have talked about having a threesome for some time but never actively looked for someone. My best friend and I have talked about it. Her husband feels the same way mine does. They each want to be the only penis. I am attracted to her but it's all been talk and I'm not sure I want to share her with my husband.
So can I have a relationship with her and exclude my husband or would that be cheating?
2006-07-11 08:44:21 · 13 answers · asked by crimsonwillow 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know how the question got changed, but the question I wrote was
Is it possible to be married and have a relationship with a woman?
2006-07-11 08:54:57 · update #1
I'd say that is up to your husband. A lot of men don't take 'two women' serious; therefore, don't care that you have sexual relations.
If it does bother him that you want to be with her alone then it would probably cause you problems if you snuck around and did it.
2006-07-11 08:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by BeachBum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you talk about it with your husband, and he agrees, you can do anything you agree to. But if you simply want to go out and have a lesbian affair, I wonder why he would agree to that.
If it's something that you want to experience together, him watching you with a female partner, with him participating at whatever level you're both comfortable with, then sure, go for it. The only times I've ever heard of threesomes working and not destroying the relationship are when both partners are involved and it's about deepening the relationship between the partners, and the third (and sometimes fourth) person is not someone you care about in a deep way. Sometimes friends, but I'd be careful about involving your best friend; you don't want to end up ruining your marriage and a great friendship.
2006-07-11 15:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by khtanktgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married then you should only be with the one you are married to, doing anything else is cheating.
Plus think about this other woman. It is not fair to her to be made into some "play toy" for your threesome or to put the second class relationship after your husband. Her feelings will only get hurt if you treat her like that. It's an evil thing to do.
This is a have your cake and eat it to thing. You cannot have a husband and a girlfriend, you would be cheating on one of them, if not both. And what about equal marriage rights for the lesbian/bi/gay world? This is an example to why "they" think it's not a right all people should get because of junk like what you want to do.
If you want to date this woman you have to break up with your husband or you will be cheating and hurting both sides.
2006-07-11 16:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is messed up!!! LOL!!!! I have never been able to understand the threesome thing anyway but if I had to give my opinion I'd find someone that wasn't your best friend. That could get tricky. Or better yet...ditch the husband and just be a lesbian!
2006-07-11 15:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't consider it cheating. My friend's husband let's her have sex with other women-just not men. Now another friend actually fell in love with a woman after being intimate and divorced her husband within 2 mos. She gave up everything, nearly gave up her kids too just to have her new girlfriend leave her after 7 mos. So think this through, very hard, good luck and have fun!
2006-07-11 15:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy-Lu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible but can you live with the results. What if your husband likes your friend more than you? I believe it would be cheating. Only my opinion. But be careful.
2006-07-11 16:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by azgraywolf143 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few friends who do this successfully but they were open and honest with their spouses about it and their spouses are okay with it. It can be done but it takes patience, understanding, and consent from all parties involved.
2006-07-11 18:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl the whole thing would turn in to a mess believe me....you better not..............no threesome with hubby
2006-07-11 15:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sheila P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have accepted the terms of marriage, that means one to one, why should you be able to pervert something many are notallowed to have?
2006-07-11 16:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong to do this because what pleasure will you get more than with your husband?. It is a creazy lust.
2006-07-11 16:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋