Hi, I'm Blackice and I am bisexual I haven't been wiith a woman in 3 years .......and I yearn for a womans scent, softness and touch........But I am married to a good man........and I know I would cheat with one if I found one........I want to have a woman in my life........Am I so wrong?...Kno I am a femme also...not stud
2006-07-11 08:38:54 · 12 answers · asked by Sheila P 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it depends on what type of relationship you have with your husband. If he accepts it as part of who you are and is okay with it, then what is holding you back?
I think as long as you are honest with both people involved (the husband and the woman in the secondary relationship) and they are okay with the boundries of what you want to do, then yeah, go for it.
Something to consider is giving your primary relationship a majority of your time and affection. You should also consider what would happen if you fell for the woman. How would you handle it?
Good luck.
2006-07-11 11:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by pammy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong to want that, but you'd be wrong to go out and do it especially with your husbands dissaproval. Maybe a man just isnt for you and if thats the case, cheating on him wont help that. You need to let him know and based on his response you can act. Whatever you do, dont cheat on him cuz there is no pain like the pain of lost love and once you break that bond it'll be like hell tryin to mend it. Thats if you still plan to be with him. If not, the sooner, the better.
2006-07-17 07:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the shallows that have never been there or taken any kind of sacrifice: you are just as mean spirited as the gay bashers themselves. Judge yourselves.
I am bisexual femme married to a wonderful, understanding man. We became pregnant, decided to have the child and married in a civil union 3 years later. We now have two beautiful children. I tried to deny who I was and live up to the domestic responsibilities of a straight wife for 9 years. I love my husband, I love my children, and I love myself too much to let my emotions tear my family and myself in two. I confessed, came crawling out of the closet before any damage was done. He said, "Is that all? Thank god, I thought it was another man or worse, ME".
We have an unconventional, open marriage. I am allowed to have a girlfriend who, loves and cares for our children. (It takes a village....) He respects our boundaries and does not participate sexually. He understands my need to connect to her in ways he cannot. He understands that monogamy can be unnatural and unhealthy is some. He is allowed to play outside of marriage as long as he is safe, but has chosen not to.
Instead of a lousy divorce that scars the children, we get 3 happy parties, and my children get another wonderful person in their lives and a life lesson in acceptance.
I believe what you may be seeking is polyamory. Talk to him, you at least owe him that much.
Best wishes.
2006-07-17 15:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the cheating part that would be wrong. If you are married to a "good man", that means you are MARRIED, and unless you and your husband reach some sort of agreement regarding your desires to be with another person....(it shouldn't matter if they are male or female) then you should remain faithful to your husband.
Why not talk to your husband about it? Most straight guys are all about their wives wanting to be with other women. Maybe he'll approve, and then you wouldn't have to sneak around.
2006-07-11 09:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel what you feel. I also love my man and he knows that I adore ladies also. He likes to think about it but never participates. I'm proud that I am a caring and sexy woman who loves beauty! Men are wonderful and so are women. I love the body, touch and taste of beauties with a personality to match. I also have the hunger for a sexy girlie girl woman.
2006-07-11 09:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Autumn BrighTree is right.This sound like cheating on your marriage. You seem to be unfulfilled, but are you truly ready to cheat on the good man your married to. Like Autumn, I'm lucky mine understands and loves seeing me fulfilled. Might give your guy the chance to know how you feel and see if his willing to share.
2006-07-11 09:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by LoraNutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are!!! You took a religious wedding vow before God to be with one person your husband. WTF, why did you get married and lead that poor man on? You give bisexuals and gays a bad name. Not to mention the total disrespect for the sanctity of Marriage, you should be ashamed.
2006-07-17 10:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk this over with your man and then based upon that follow your heart.
2006-07-11 11:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thas your fault should have never gotten married if u still like women
2006-07-11 09:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it, things change in life...cant always be perfect !
2006-07-18 05:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by nessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋