I'm so worried, I'm almost crying, I just found out that my college suspended me for a year (for going below the minimum GPA). I desperately do not want my parents to find out, can they find out without my permission? Thanks!
2006-07-11 08:20:41 · 18 answers · asked by red_draik_plushie 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
- Not worried about the mail part, but about one of my parents going to the Financial Aid place and asking why the bills haven't been sent yet.
- I honestly tried for two years, I didn't get drunk or use any drugs, I tried studying, but I just can't seem to do it.
- My parents will, if not kill me, make my life miserable for the entire year. As in, no computer, no TV, my entire life monitored for who knows how long. Quite like living in jail.
- I am over 18, but my parents pay the bills.
2006-07-11 08:34:09 · update #1
That's tough. I was put on probation from my college a few semesters ago. I had one semester to get my grades back up or I would have been suspended. Thank goodness that didn't happen. But when I did get put on probation, I was mailed a letter regarding the fact. You could review what your schools policies are regarding suspension - if they'll send a letter, where they'll send it to, etc. Also, look at all the factors that will be associated with your suspension. What kind of steps would you have to take to make sure your parents don't find out. How is not attending school for the next year going to affect your life and are you going to be able to pass it off to your parents that nothing has changed. There's a lot of tough situations to get out of now. But if you keep your head, are light on your feet, and anticipate things in advance, you'll be able to dance through this. You can do it.
2006-07-11 08:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Drowningbluestars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If it's your fault for screwing off, skipping class and getting drunk, then start worrying. I don't think colleges can release that information anyway. But when your folks see you hanging out at home, they will figure it out.
2. If you tried and just aren't that smart, don't worry. Just tell them you took too many classes or just don't get it.
SOLUTION:
Community college gets a bad rap. BUT, you can take college transferable classes, get more individual attention, get your GPA up, and reapply to whatever college you want. Your first 2 years of college can be done at community college for about 1/3 the price. That's what I did.
2006-07-11 08:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially if they are paying for it. If you respect your parents then you should tell them right away. You are obviously not ready for college or don't wish to be there. So better not to waste their money and fail. Just tell them since you are suspended for a year then you will find a job and support yourself...then do it! College is easy compared to finding a job and supporting yourself, but you made the choice now own up to it. Technically you are an adult...so what can your parents really say? They will probably be disappointed but over time they will get over it.
2006-07-11 08:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are a student who is claimed as a dependent, then your parents are informed of any judicial sanctions and this may include academic probation/suspension since they will not be able to deduct your college expenses if you are not in attendance. But double check your school's handbook regarding such things.
PS: Won't they notice that you haven't left for college in the fall? I'd recommend telling them sooner rather than them finding it out.
2006-07-11 18:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by ronnieneilan1983 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under Federal law school can not release information w/o your permission. If schoolmail goes to their address nothing prevents them from opening the mail. Apparently them finding out would be a problem for you. Will dishonesty helpyour relationship with them or greater you into deeper difficulty?
2006-07-11 08:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Philip S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not over 18 they can not find without your permission. But still keep your mouth shut and keep your friends that know this away from them or they would kill you. Why don't you enroll in college and then even if they find out you can tell them you are in college. THis way they will know you made an effort.
DO NOT CONFRONT THEM IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WILL DO.
2006-07-11 08:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by greenwhitecollege 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They send a letter home addressed to you but you can always grab it before they get it. Also, other than that they will not find out but they will want to know why your're not going back in September.
My friend got suspended but she told her parents she didn't like the program and wanted to do something else.
2006-07-11 08:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, college officials are not allowed to disclose any information about your record, attendance, or anything else, to anyone, including your parents, without your express permission. Your parents can try to find out how you're doing, but unless you tell the school it's ok to tell them, they can't, and if they do, you can sue them for, I believe, breach of confidence.
2006-07-11 08:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by salihe66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they cant find out, unless a letter goes home, but arent they gonna wonder why your not in school, or why you are behind in classes or you should have graduated one year earlier? who pays for school? if your parents do, they are gonna notice there checks getting sent back or whatever, just tell them, your an adult they will have to understand
2006-07-11 08:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call your college first to verify this information.You could tell your parents and do a thorough study of the situation.You getting suspended makes absolutely no sense to me!
2006-07-11 08:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Balthor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋