was i wrong?

Question

look i'm just expressing myself.. you know i would never sit here and say a 15 year old girl is 6 months pregnant and talk $hit about the girl.. i know the facts, she was not raped, forced into bed, she was a little slut. i had an answer from a GIRL.. and she stated that i was basically a ***** AND the reason why she said that was because she was getting knocked up at 15.. go figure huh... she said " i didnt have bad parents, so on and so fourth" . but how can you allow you baby to have a baby??? don't you have any RESPECT for yourself to keep you legs closed at 15.. DAMN that is terrible and i have no pitty for these little kids. come on now your not even finished with high school what can you provide for this baby? i will say this if you answer my questions and you yourself got pregnant at 15,16,17. dont respond.. because the answers i got from you was " I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL" WHEN WILL YOU LEARN THAT DOES NOT PROTECT YOU AND IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW CONDOMS DONT ALWASY EITHER.. GROW UP..

Answer 1

Having a baby is a huge responsibility - it is a human being after all with its own life. Most teenagers don't understand that concept and they also don't understand that every action has a consequence. Sure we can't generalize and say that every teenager who got pregnant at such a young age was at fault or that they were terribly evil for doing such a deed. But we can't ignore the fact that there are indeed girls out there who only think of themselves and their own pleasures now - in which case they end up making a big mistake and now they don't want to be responsible for it (they abort the baby). Some who do try to make up for their mistakes by raising up their babies instead of abortion, or giving up their babies for adoption are at least aware that the very baby they had created has a life and it has a value.

Being a parent does not stop at just giving birth. It continues on as the baby grows. That's what so sad with those young moms because they're just not ready for such a huge responsibility - think about it, one is not only dealing with the physical needs of a child, there are also other needs such as the emotional and nurturing kind. That is why there are so many people with messed-up lives because they grew up in a not-so-pleasant environment, and not enough nurturing love. That is also another reason why there are so many dysfunctional families and dysfuntional people in the world, because their childhood was something they would rather forget.

There are always exceptions of course - there are a lot of young girls out there who happen to fall in the lot of unwed young moms, but they have risen to the challenge and been excellent moms to their young ones. I know some exceptional young girls who, as soon as they have their babies, work extra-extra hard to provide for their baby, as well as to finish school at the same time - in a way they were willing to take the responsibility on their back and bear it without any complaints. I admire those girls - it takes a lot of guts to rise up when you're way down in the dumps.

It is an endless chain of reactions. It is the endless circle of life. If you start good, then you have better chances of living a fairly good life. But if you get off on a bad start, having a baby at such a young and unstable age, then let's hope that life will be kind enough to you.

So I agree with you - people, no matter how young or old, have to realize that every action has a consequence, and we are all responsible for what it is that we choose to do. It's just that for younger kids, it's hard for them to understand that concept, and morals and values are dying hard fast.

I also think that parents have to share in the responsibility. If they do not know now what their kids are doing, then of course how would unplanned pregnancies be avoided, or how would future mistakes be avoided. Being aware of their teenagers' life maybe a step into making sure their teenager gets on the right track.

My parents were good, moral people, and they taught me well. They were also there while I was growing up - to offer support and help. In consequence, I never did anything stupid because the thought of making such a mistake would make me feel ashamed of myself, especially after all the good things my parents have done for me. So as you probably know now, I never had sex before marriage. After college, I married a good man and now we have 2 year old precious little girl. Because I started in a good way, now I'm living a good life. I would say that my parents' influence led me to the right way, at the same time, I was smart enough not to follow the bad ways of the world. And so my reward is - a happy life.

We can't totally blame parents for their children's mistakes. Kids have to take accountability for their actions, and not think that the mistake they made can be blamed on their parents. If they keep thinking that, then they will keep on making mistakes. Like what you said, teens should have respect for themselves, respect for their bodies - don't get burned when you can easily avoid the fire. The burn will scar you forever.

Answer 2

Wowwwww....THANK YOU! I think a lot of people really needed to hear that! Well-said, I must say.

Honestly, I don't have any pity for them either. They knew what they were doing when they took off their clothes and got into bed with whatever scumbag was stupid enough to do the same.

Even on birth control you still need to use a a condom, for STD's too - it can reduce the risk. It's lot like these kids aren't educated, we learn about this stuff All through school basically in EVERY grade! For crying out loud, I understand people make MISTAKES but this is something you don't just jump into like a freaking pool.

Besides, birth control contains hormones...it takes at LEAST a month to start working effectively, so the first month if you are being sexually active you still need a condom...I'm 16 and I know this. I know a 15 year old who got pregnant when she was 14...it makes me sick how people can be so stupid. Unless it's rape, I don't wanna hear any whining.

Answer 3

No, you're not necessarily wrong. But there's only so much you can do as a parent and some kids just don't listen. You take five kids that have grown up in the same household with the same rules, etc... and some listen and some don't. Kids f*ck up, just like adults do. Personally, sex was the farthest thing from my mind as a teenager. Well, it was always there but I waited because I didn't want to be like that. However, my brother and sister in law had my nephew when they were 14. Yes, they had help but they took on the brunt of their responsibilities. I think it's more irresponsible for these kids having babies to give them up or have an abortion. You wanna f*ck, you need to deal with the consequences. :)

I also wanted to add that as a mother of three daughters, who are young right now, me and my husband have talked about if that ever happens. While we hope they listen to us and use good judgement in life, we also know we can't be there every second of the day when they get older. If anything like that ever happened I would support my daughters through ANYTHING!

Answer 4

Sorry that you are having such a bad day, But like you stated you are expressing yourself. Even though 15 is an early age to have sex and to have a baby, you don't have to feel bad about yourself, people make mistakes all the time. But you have to remember that you have to learn from your mistakes. The temptations into having sex was probably high, right? Well, I hope you have a better day and take care of your unborn baby. Take care, God Bless

Answer 5

The mercy and grace you afford to others will be the same mercy and grace afforded to you BY others.

Yes, you are wrong for chastising a young girl for making a mistake. Have you not made mistakes in the past? I'll bet some of your mistakes did far worse to hurt someone than this young girl being pregnant. I can say that definitively about you because I can say it about me too. We're older and have had far more opportunity to screw up than she has.

I've never been pregnant out of wedlock; I was a virgin when I got married. I've never had any run ins with the law, I've never had a parking ticket, I've never been in an accident that was my fault, and I've never been that catalyst that cost someone their job, their man or their home. But I know that I have hurt people far worse than I ever intended because those same people have been faithful to tell me so.

ALL men have sinned and fall short of the glory of God; that means me, you and every other human walking the face of the earth. Your sin is far greater than hers. You SHAMED her.

Shame on you.

Rebecca

Answer 6

I am responding cause I am totally offended here. For one I am nor what I ever a whore, 2) I made my mistakes in life but by no means did you know what was going on in my life so why the kcuf can you judge me?! 3) I married the father of my kids at 16 and had a happy family! 4) Do not pitty my kids girl cause they are WELL taken care of and could not ask for more! So before you go off on your high horse you better check yourself cause not all teenage moms are what you think. BACK OFF!!!!!

Answer 7

i do not think you are wrong because that is your opinion and opinions are not wrong or right. now i know you said not to answer if you have a kid and are young, but i am 18 and have a one year old daughter. i do respect myself and i didnt do it for nothing the father of the baby is now my fiance. he is in the army in college and works i work three jobs have my diploma and am taking college classes. everything my daughter has is from us because we grew up and became good parents and i got that from my parents who were shocked to find out but determined to make me a good parent than to be mad at me forever . And when you say how can you let your baby have a baby i agree with you on that but really there is legally nothing a parent can do. i do think you are wrong for assuming that young parent cant give there child anything and assuming that they dont respect themselves. It just depends on the person. i grew up when i got pregnant some girls don't. so not all girls are like what you think. But i dont think your a ***** for it.....its your opinion and what you think.Just dont be so fast to judge.

Answer 8

To me a young girl getting pregnant is not a mistake, it is an act of not being responsible. If they are well educated about sex and birth control and refuse to use birth control, they cannot blame anyone but themselves for their actions when they end up pregnant or get an STD because they think they know everything and their parents have sat down and talked to them over and over again about what can happen when you have unprotected sex being underage. When I was these kids age I was scared to have sex because I knew what can happen. You just have some kids who refuse to listen to their parents because they think their parents do not know when they do know.

Answer 9

I know you don't want answers from anyone pg at the ages you mentioned. But I'm responding anyway. I got pg at 17. I was young and extremely stupid. My parents failed to talk about the consequences of sex with me or even offer me resources to refer to regarding all of that. What I learned was at school and through friends and we all know the BS that can come out of that. I'm not proud of myself by any means. And promote either waiting to have sex until you're married or if you flat out can't wait then get birth control. Looking back now I wish I could go back in time and wait until I got married. The hassle of having sex at a young age is just not worth it.

Answer 10

in 1990 i gave birth to a son, i was an unwed mother and a senior in high school, and a part time employee all at the same time. i admit, i was stupid. i thought it couldn't happen to me. i came from a middle class family. my family was not an emotionally strong family, however. i think when you see teen pregnancies you should be more compasionate... they are usually girls that were grasping for SOMEONE to love them. i was 3 months from graduation when my son was born. i finished high school and then worked two jobs, one to pay for day care while i worked and went to college part time. it takes a lot of strength to keep the baby when you're still a baby yourself. i can say i grew up quick, I HAD TO, i had a little life dependant on my every move. i'm glad i kept my son, no one will ever love me as much as that child. and no one will ever love him as much as his mother! please don't be so hard on the teens... we all make mistakes, we marry the wrong men, and disrupt our children's lives with divorce, we choose the wrong career... our lives are full of mistakes. the best we can do is deal with the situations responsibly. until you've walked a mile in any one of those girls shoes, please don't judge.