How do you define the boundaries of an opposite sex friendship when one person is married?

Question

What level of emotional attachment would be inappropriate?
I'm having a hard time explaining to my husband why I feel one of his friendships with a certain woman is inapproriate and disrespectful towards me.

Answer 1

hard time explaining?

Ok, start going out for coctails with a male buddy of yours couple of nights a week and watch yr husband's reaction.

Do this for 2 weeks and he'll understand then!

Answer 2

He knows when he has crossed the line as well as you, and as well as the other person invlolved. It is hard to tell what the level of friendship really is without your husband telling you, trust him. If he truly loves you and you know that there should be no problems, but if you feel there is a problem, it probably lies within your marriage and not the relationship he has with other females.

Answer 3

What are the boundaries that you feel he is stepping over? Are they legitimate ones? If you have talked to your husband and told him how it really bothers you and he continues then I would have another heart to heart and ask him to put himself in your shoes and ask him if he would allow or I should say except it if it was you who had this close friend. Usually when they go into the other persons shoes and take a good look they tend to see things differently. Good luck.

Answer 4

Dear girl,
This is one boundary U cant define. one has to go with the feeling inside and get wherever it takes. Marriages aren;t, as most people think, forever. Read up Bertrand Russell's MARRIAGEAND MORALS. U will be delighfully enlightened.

And, if you were one day in your husband's situation, encounter someone, you are passionately pulled to, you wouldnt let any boundaries stop you. let him have his fun and get ready for some of your own. After all, he has given you reason to test other waters, or is it wines??

Trust me, Ive live thru it and enjoy it utterly, dear

truly
YP

Answer 5

well for me the boundries where simple no sex talk no deep emotional talk and no physical actions besides the hello kiss on the cheek. keep in mind that most man want that perfect mix, a freind that can throw a ball and a friend that can lick the balls so point being just keep an eye out on it.

Answer 6

I think that a sit-down and I'd like to talk to you dear is the best starter. This is something of a sensitive issue, but an important issue, and he needs to listen to every bit of your concerns, fears, comments, whether it sounds reasonable or not, and then he needs to respond to it. His emotional attachment shouldn't exceed that of what you are entitled to and it shouldn't include intimacy, going on dates, secret meetings, frequent and private phone calls, and other things that are symbolic of an affair, rather than a close friendship.

Answer 7

well i think its ok if he has female friends (obviously) but if it gets to a high level of flirtation cuz some friends do flirt but if it gets to a high level you dont like i say that would be it

Answer 8

Single women befriending married men always spells trouble. It's not appropriate and it looks bad. You are soo right,
Tell him that you ould like to meet her and be her friend too. if it's as harmeless as he says he won't object.
Good luck

Answer 9

If he cannot do whatever with her when you are with THEM, he cannot do it when you are not. He cannot say anything that could not be said in front of you...that makes it easy. Good luck

Answer 10

my rule of thumb is if i would feel uncomfortable telling my husband about something my male friends and i did or said - then it is wrong