Can You Really Forgive and Forget?

Answer 1

You can always forgive but NEVER forget.

Answer 2

I Believe You Gave Me Advice On A Problem I Was Having And As Much As I've Gone Through, Not Only Have I Not Been Able To Forgive But I Haven't Been Able To Forget And I Really Don't Know If I Ever Will, Though I Really Wish I Could Forget, Move On And Take Away The Power I Feel They Have Because I Haven't Been Able To Get Past The Pain And Memories. I Believe Holding A Grudge Is Part Of Being Human, And Remembering Who Has Wronged Us And How They Wronged Us Must Be a Defense Mechanism That We Use To Protect Ourselves From Giving Them Another Opportunity To Cause More Pain. So Answering This Question Based On My Life I'd Say No, But I Believe The Bible Says That As We Judge So Will We Be Judged And In The Prayer Of "Our Father" We Ask God To Forgive Us Our Trespasses As We Forgive Those Who Trespass Against Us; So Basically If We Want To Be Forgiven We Need To Forgive And I Know I Not Only Want To Be Forgiven But I Want My Sins To Be Forgotten, Spiritually Speaking We Need To Forgive And Forget. So BeAuTiFuL If You Find A Way To Forgive And Forget Please Write It On Yahoo And Share It With Us All. Our Souls, Happiness, Life, Etc... Would Be Much Better And Greater! :)

Answer 3

It really depends on the offense. Theoretically, if it is significant enough that you would need to forgive something, then it is probably unforgettable. You can move on, heal, and rebuild trust, but forgetting implies an ignorance of danger. The really beautiful thing isn't forgiving and forgetting, instead, it is remembering, but using that memory as a seed for change, and choosing to forgive with the knowledge gained from the experience. This is real forgiveness. In fact, it could be argued that forgiveness depends upon remembrance of the offence, otherwise the forgiveness is a default response and not a conscious choice. When you remember and forgive, that's when beautiful things happen.

Answer 4

I wrote this a few weeks back when i was finally coming to grips with my divorce.

Forgiveness defined
I have come to another epiphany in my life, one that will help me deal with healing after my heart was broken. I have been told to forgive (name removed), it will be good for me. I always wondered how I could forgive a person for breaking my heart. Well, I have. However it was not to say what she did was ok. Its not wether to forgive or not to forgive. It is about the real definition of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is realizing that you cannot change what happened but have decided to not let it impact you in such a negative way anymore.
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Answer 5

You can forgive, but you definitely cannot forget. Especially if what had happened really hurt you. It will stay at the back of your mind.

Answer 6

depending on how big the issue at hand is, sometimes yes and sometimes no....for me it usually turns into some big deal and i cant forgive or forget. once you forgive someone for hurting you emotionally or physically they think they can do it again and get away with it and i will never give them another chance to hurt me again, but thats just the way i am

Answer 7

I can always forgive, but never forget

Answer 8

Forgiving is easy, but forgetting... now there's a challenge.

Answer 9

yes if you want to. If you're going to forgive, that means you have come to terms with whatever was done. You might remember the trespass later, but I don't know anyone who is going to be bitter about something and never forget about it after they've forgiven.

Answer 10

No, I think you can forgive but you never forget...