There is there girl at my work who just doesn't under stand the concept of personal space. She is such a sweet heart and i dont want to yell at her..DONT TOUCH ME...but i almost did today. I dont want to be mean.. but i think everyone over the age of 20 is aware of personal space... i shouldn't need to spell it out. What should I do?
2006-07-11 07:22:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had to laugh because ever since i almost yelled at her the Police song has been going through my head and check out the first answer!
2006-07-11 07:32:10 · update #1
Step a little bit backward when she tries to touch you, she should get the message that you don't want to be touched. If she sneaks up behind you: then touches you. Do a shoulder drop. Make yourself look uncomfortable when she tries to touch you. Your sending the wrong message when you allow her to touch you (smiling, being friendly, etc...) Afterward make sure you continue to be friendly. Dont give a cold shoulder after what happened.
2006-07-11 07:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by tonygayles 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well... Spell it out! If you let the frustration build, you'll end up being a lot more mean than if you are up front with her. Sometimes we avoid confrontation because we are afraid of hurting feelings, but most of the time you aren't avoiding but POSTPONING confrontation. If she's such a sweetheart, she'll get it. Does any one else you work with have the same poblem with her? Or are you especially sensitive to unexpected touch? Maybe it's her problem, maybe it's your problem, but more than likely it's both of you! In any case, you work with this girl, so you may as well be sure that you are comfortable around each other for every one's sake. Good luck, and talk to her soon but not while you are frustrated!
2006-07-11 07:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by thebreakofshawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are not any guidelines governing own area that i'm attentive to. There are guidelines hostile to sexual groping, yet that would not look what you're speaking about. This has a tendency to be cultural, no longer criminal. some human beings haven't any difficulty with others getting close. Others are literally not satisfied if some different person is interior of palms length. some human beings desire others to be countless ft away. that's a own difficulty. No, you won't be able to mace someone to get them to diminish backpedal. you ought to get charged for attacking them. You decrease backpedal and ask them to step decrease back. tell the guy he's status too close on your convenience. some places, that's almost unavoidable--there is in simple terms no room. (My friends and that i'd imagine up techniques to get room on subways at rush hour -- it in a large number of situations in touch performing loopy or being quite pungent. Projectile vomiting became yet another plan, albeit difficult to get happening call for.) if you're residing in an section the position human beings get crowded mutually regularly, you ought to prefer to think about shifting someplace that this isn't an difficulty.
2016-10-14 08:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with a co-worker, too. I finally had to have a discussion with him about it. I let him know that I'm not a touchy-feely kinda person, and I need to be X far away from the people I'm interacting with to be comfortable. An arm's length is a good measure, I think. He's been fine ever since - and he understood completely.
Next time she does it say, whoa, hang on... I'm gonna need you to back up, and explain why. Let her know it's nothing personal, you just need a little more space to communicate effectively.
2006-07-11 07:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is a very nice person and not to take it personally but you really like your space, I also like my space...I just tell people that I really don't like to be touched I am not a physical person unless I know you very well than maybe I will give you a hug but most the time I just let people know that this is my bubble and stay out of it....you can get your point across without being mean..just do it with a smile.
2006-07-11 07:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she does, start fanning yourself and stand up and back away. Tell her you're so terribly sorry, but you're very claustrophobic and you need some extra space. Be polite though because if she doesn't take the hint that way, you should document what is bothering you and bring it to your HR department. They can most likely find a proper, non-offensive way to get this chick to back off. Good luck!
2006-07-11 07:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat around the bush, if it bothers you tell her and don't feel bad about letting her know what you feel. No one can tell you how should feel especially if "she" feels there is nothing wrong with getting in peoples grill. I have serious personal space issues, I let a MF know, back the F up or I will sock you in the teeth. If that seems out of your league, tell her you are not into same sex love.
2006-07-11 07:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by djzlyric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the Police song Don't stand so close to me.
2006-07-11 07:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just kindly mention it to her in a conversation, tell her you need your space and how uncomfortable it makes you feel when someone invades that space
if that doesn't work tell her that you have spontaneous arm/leg spasms so it would be in her best interest to keep her distance.
2006-07-11 07:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eats lots of sausage and garlic and breathe in her face next time you see her. she'll get the hint!
2006-07-11 07:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋